Hey all, I need some help....bad. So I was at work tonight, when I got a call from one of my best friends (who happens to be married to one of my relatives). She was crying and informed me that her husband came in today and asked for a divorce. I was devistated, as they have been kinda like parents to me over the years. Here's a little background. She had some really bad health problems about 15 years ago, and he, being the dedicated husband that he is/was, stayed by her side thru thick and thin. Well, after her health problems got better, he kind of picked up where he left off in his life. He would go out and party with friends, go listen to music, go drinking, etc, like they would do (as a couple) before she got sick. She, on the other hand....got stuck. She had some depression problems, but over the last 5 years or so, changed into a 'monster.' She became totally demanding, manuplative, and down right abusive towards him. The last year or two were really bad with them. She got to where all she would do is sit in front of the tv and essentually vegitate. She got to the point that she was almost like a child. She made him do pretty much everything for her. She stopped cleaning house, keeping up the lawn, cooking for herself...well you name it and she stopped doing it. She became so demanding and degrading of him, there were many many points in time where I would just have to leave their house out of disgust with her. In fact, on several occasions, I stopped having anything to do with them/her from months on end. I guess what I need help on is....well, I love them both to death. I understand why he has chosen to leave her (my father is in a very similar situation with my mother, but he is so bound to his 'good Christian morals and values' that he will die from exhaustion due to taking care of her), and actually applaud him for having the courage to leave her. My issue now is, how do I maintain my friendship with her and maintain my relationship with him, without getting caught in the middle? Right now I am so totally heartbroken that I am ill. I want to be there for her, as she really doesn't have many friends (that aren't his), her family isn't supportive of her, and well...she's never really ever had to support herself. What do I do? I had a few brief conversations with friends at work, and they all have said that I need to be there for both of them...to listen what they say, but to stay out of it. I've kind of known that this day was coming, but now that it is here, I'm totally lost. What do I do? What do I say to her when she starts bashing him? Right now I want to be there and be supportive of her, but honestly, I want to keep my distance from her until things kind of well...settle down, but at this point in time, she really doesn't have anyone to turn to. I also worry that she'll do something to harm herself. HELP!