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Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by rope9839, Jun 20, 2007.

  1. rope9839

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    When the question is asked of women "does size matter," it would seem that the answers are usually split with 50% of so saying it doesn't make a difference. In my personal experience, however, 100% of the women who I have been with have made a ton of comments about my size, it's attraction and the results.

    So, are they lying to me to assuage my ego? Is this any different than telling a smaller guy what he wants to hear? Can you assume that half the time women talk about your cock, they are lying? I don't know, what are your thoughts?
     
  2. B_ironsoul

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    Size doesn't matter, but If I see one I like, I won't ignore it. I think you are looking a little too deeply into it
     
  3. burns1de

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    Well, if you don't ignore it, that means it got your attention, which means that it DOES matter, in some way.

    All the women I've been with have commented on my size, and I'm not even the largest ever or anything, which leads me to believe that a lot of women are embarassed to admit that they like large cocks, because of some sort of social stigma (and I'm not making that up, I've discussed this in another thread).

    Just my two cents...
     
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    But it has nothing to do with choosing a man. You meet the man first with clothes on, and one really has no idea about the size until it is too late to make a last minute ditch. Unless, of course, you meet in a nudist colony, beach, or perhaps even here....
     
  5. burns1de

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    Oh, I'm not saying it has anything to do with choosing someone. Hell, I'm not even saying that it's THE most important thing for the vast majority of women (I know it's not, of course, like large breasts are not an absolute necessity for the vast majority of men)... but to say that it doesn't matter at all... I don't buy that for a second. :biggrin1:
     
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    it only matters when it is too big or too small. I am talking extremes here. I could easily make exceptions if the guy was cool enough. I am not most women though, so my general opnion on this really doesn't count.
     
  7. burns1de

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    Tsk tsk, that's why your opinion matters - because it's different. :smile:
     
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    Ah. Perhaps you are correct. Though majority rules in most cases, and my thoughts are labeled weird. le sigh
     
  9. burns1de

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    Yeah, that's why the majority sucks ass.
     
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    personally I think women frequently will try to find something 'good' to say to a man regardless of his size, as if we need to somehow positively comment on his masculinity in some way. I don't know why, other than general societal lessons, but it does seem that way to me. I KNOW I do it. doesnt mean I am being dishonest with anyone, but making a positive statement reflects positive feelings too, and men respond best to positive comments about their penises dont you think?:rolleyes:
     
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    Well, I won't say anything bad! I often will not say anything one way or the other. That said, for me size does matter, at least in my (admittedly limited) experience. I think it depends on the woman though. For the average woman, the average man is just fine. It is just the men (and women) who are outside these averages that may have some difficulty.
     
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    Ironsoul said, "But it has nothing to do with choosing a man. You meet the man first with clothes on, and one really has no idea about the size until it is too late to make a last minute ditch."

    So my question is do you think when women realize you're above average that they feel the need to act like pornstars. Meaning getting rougher, more aggressive, and much more uninhibited than they normally would. Or possible than they should. Does slowing things WAY DOWN so no one leaves bruised, broken, or limping spoil the "I like the way you fill me up" mood?

    steve
     
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    Of course we do, SassySpy. If a man is not selfish, he cares about giving his partner pleasure. So, if a guy gets his pants down and gets the reaction "oh, how cute, my little brother has one just like that", the line of thought would be something like:
    "a) your little brother wouldn't give you any pleasure, therefore
    b) I won't give you any pleasure, which makes me think
    c) what the hell will I be going here
    d) except getting humiliated with my pants down (a ridiculous situation all by itself). Besides
    f) how am I supposed to even get hard if I know I am competing AGAINST HER LITTLE BROTHER???"

    Besides, men are always under that "sexual-athlete" social stigma.

    No one like to be told about their physical low points. Women keep asking men about how they look and men keep on struggling to find the correct answers, so that they won't hurt their feelings.
    If we really care for the person we are with, the worry about not putting that person down will come naturally :smile:
     
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    Eh, I'm pretty agressive no matter what size his dick is. My agressivness come from wanting the guy so bad, not what he is packing.
     
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    Personally If a guy asks me if I think he is hung, I tend to keep my comments to myself unless he pesters me. Dating in the real world I certainly have encountered many small to average sized dicks.....I am usually polite about it, keep my mouth shut. However given that I will not call a guy back if he isn't at least in the 9 x 6 inch range. It's a complete waste of my time and his. No use pussy footing around. If the guy asks why I don't want to date him, i make some bullshit story up. If he continually busts my chops and keeps calling I will tell him his dick is not big enough to satisfy me. Of course the other criteria has to be there as well...( intelligence, kindness, a nice guy etc etc) I wont date a guy who has a large dick and is an asshole. That is a given, all of the components have to be there as well.
     
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    From a bisexual guy rather than a woman, I think the thing (pardon the pun) is, that what really matters is who it's attached to, if it's a big one, great, but if the guy it's attached to is an even bigger prick, well, the dick in his pants matters a lot less.
     
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    Size obviously matters to some women. Many women don't want to hurt their partner's feelings so if they find it a bit small, they won't say anything unless asked. If a woman makes positive comments about your cock without being questioned, she's probably telling the truth. If you ask her what she thinks, then that's where they feel pressured to say something nice so as not to hurt your feelings. I'm not about to give you percentages but them's the facts.
     
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    And I think the women on here would agree. I know I do.

    I actually had an experience something like this. Although I never knew how well endowed the guy was, I had been told that he was very much so. However, I couldn't get past his personality. So nothing happened. One of my friends did have sex with him though. Surprised me since I figured she would not want to be with a guy who was that obnoxious. I think they broke up over that though. Maybe her personality was better suited to put up with his personality type than mine is. I don't do well with people who like to tease people - I find that extremely annoying.
     
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    If you like cookies: would you pick smaller amounts or lots?
    If you like cars: would you prefer a toyota or a ferrari?
    If you like brests: would you prefer bigger over smaller? (by smaller i mean u can get it all in ur mouth.. or you at least want a hand full?
    If you like a person: I am sure there is something you like on them.
    If you love dicks: would you want to admire and watch and fuck a 4 incher or 8 instead?



    Now: do you prefer 1 dollar over 100$?


    so, the point is ... most of the time more , bigger, expensive is preferable...

    if you can get full with a half pound cheese burger then you dont need a whole pound one..do ya? but dang I am sure it looks better!
     
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    well, for me size does matter but so do many other factors. The point is to find the man with the most characteristics that you find desireable and those characteristics that aren't desireable you have to decide if you can live with it. I've dated men who were average and men who were huge. Personality, demeaner, aggressiveness, wit, compatibility are also factors that I look for.

    With my current lover, I knew that he was hung before we got to the sex part. I had a friend who had a friend that had been with the guy and the report was that he was massively hung. He was working as a bartender at this local bar. I went there, struck up a conversation with him which lasted most of the evening in between him waiting on other constumers, by the end of the night, he invited me home with him. The issue of size was never discussed in our conversation. We dated for a couple of years and have now been together for a year as partners.
     
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