Herpes

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  1. YoungHungMachine

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    Im anonymous on here where I can come here and seek suggestions and help. I have not had sex for 2 months, swore it off because I was afraid of catching something from random hookups with some women. I wore condoms most the time, but some women who I would see often we stopped wearing them (stupid right?)

    Thats the backround information, its ironic that after I decide to stop I get into trouble. About 2 weeks ago I shaved my pubic region, including the side of my thighs. Well it had been a while since I had done this, so I didnt think much when I got a red bump, figured ingrown hair, right?

    My thighs starting breaking out in minor skin rashes, nothing big, more like dry skin patches, it happens to be at this time in winter, because I often run outdoors.

    Well 1 week ago I noticed a discolarion on the middle of the shaft of my penis, on top and some bumps around the edge of my head, lo and behold it looked like herpes. I lied to myself for a couple days, but it started itching terribly, I called the Clinic and I got to go in and see them today (waited a week for free appointment).

    They did the blood draw and q-tip, well, I get to wait a week for those, however visual confirmation on herpes.

    I fight like my world broke.

    I dont know waht to do, I know Im not going to die from it, but I feel so embarassed, I dont even want to talk to girls anymore. I feel now like Im less of a man.

    Im going to the free hospital tonight to try and get medication for it, to help with the infected area, to relieve itching and keep it under control.

    I called my good friend, a chirstian Ariel, the one who helped me to stop screwing around anyway and cried on her shoulder. The last time I cried was over a year ago. I just dont know what to do.

    Anyone have any helpful suggestions? They would be widely appreciated.

    I'd also appreciate keeping this a flame free zone its a pretty painful time Im going through right now.
     
  2. italianb90

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    I would suggest, first of all, to avoid jacking off and touching it even if it itches.
    Washing your hands regularly is also always reccomended.
    And its very likely that your medic will give you a topical-treatment and, depending on your exams' results, an antiviral (or not).
    And... they always tell to me (and my colleagues) to smile while I am doing emergency service in ambulance - it always helps to think positive!

    Good luck man!
     
  3. brinzaulsschwul

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    Hi, firstly stop beating yourself up. Herpes are easy to pick up and condoms don't actually prevent the transmission because as you have found out they can be in the pubic region and you get them by touch when the other person has an outbreak.

    Really the person who had the herpes had a duty to tell you they were infected and had an outbreak. I suppose s/he was too desperate to get at your large cock.

    When meeting up for the first time with someone, it's always a good idea to ask about sexual health - I know it could put the dampers on, but better to know especially about HIV - then you can make your own judgements about the type of sex you are going to have.

    I guess this is your first outbreak and this should be the worst one, future outbreaks will be less severe and over time will become less frequent. There are plenty of creams that you can put on the herpes and these will help you.

    Please remember that you are highly infectious when the blisters appear and so is the liquid and you MUST avoid contact with anyone during this time - jerk off instead.

    Genital-herpes - Introduction

    This is a useful site.

    Herpes is viral and will make the transmission of HIV easier especially when you have an outbreak as your immune system is already fighting the herpes and therefore less resistant to other infections.

    Hope this helps, tell all your mates how easy it is to get herpes and in future examine where you want to go, take a look because you don't want to pick up genital warts as well!!

    All the best
    Brinz
     
  4. Countryguy63

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    Unfortunately on the illness, I don't have any suggestions. However, don't you even start thinking any less of yourself because of this!! This can and does happen to anyone. You are every bit of the man you always have been!

    I'm really sorry that you are going through this. Get the meds, and get it healed up. The one tough part that you are faced with is that you are going to need to be honest with future partners (believe me, you may not feel like it now, but there will be). Will some be ignorant or cruel, probably so Bud, but those people aren't worth torturing yourself over. With treatment and future precautions, your sex life can be virtually normal again.

    Lot's of us have made "stupid" in the moment moves, the only difference is we have been lucky enough to escape any consequences. Unfortunately, some of us don't. Again, this makes you no less of a man, or a person in general.

    And Anybody low enough to flame you for sharing this needs to check their integrity!

    Good Luck Bud :smile:
     
  5. Onslow

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    Nothing to be ashamed of. Herpes is more common than many people realize and unless you are in the middle of an outbreak, not something which would necessarily be seen by you on a partner and they may not have even been aware that they had it.

    Mistakenly there are people who think that if it's not showing that everything is okay for condomless sex. In the words of Princepassa {I have a feeling I mangled the spelling:redface:} WRONG! It can be transmitted quite nicely without an apparent outbreak. I have had doctors explain it to me, and really they'r much better at explaining.


    So, if I can get personal here, is it herpes simplex 1 or 2? And did you know that your partner might have the oral form and transmit it to your bliss-stick? Makes you want to rethink those blowjobs, but again you can't spend a lifetime running. Get medical information and follow it. You can have a nice long happy life and sex again. Hey, maybe this will help you always wrap your bliss-stick and keep you from getting one of those other nasty STDs~~things like AIDS.

    Visit the cdc at their website for more information and talk with the doctors.:: Genital Herpes - STD information from CDC and take a run by An Acclaimed Herpes Information Resource, www.herpes.com, Information About Sexually Transmitted Dieases (special attention to the Herpes virus)

    It's not the end of the world, just annoying as all hell~~trust me I've dealt with this for longer than you've been alive times 2
     
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    The free clinic was full, and I cant afford to go to a doc, was told it would probbly be 100 bucks to see doc adn 50 bucks for prescription
     
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    One of my little brothers managed to get that from one of his regular fuckbuds. He was devastated, thought his world was over. so he quit screwing around all over the place.

    But he is a man of integrity and he's been upfront with every girl he's been with since. Only 2 have turned him down because of it. I don't know if he's just really lucky, or the girls that he's been with just don't care and gotta have him, but most of the ones he's found just happened to have it too. (kind of a scary thought for me!!)

    Over the years he says the outbreaks have become less and less and don't flare up much anymore. But when they do, sex is the last thing on his mind as he says it hurts like hell!! That's when I laugh at him, then he launches something heavy in my direction.

    He's now married to a wonderful woman who got it from a cheating X-boyfriend, and when they do have an outbreak, it's always at the same time or within a few days. Those are the days they put to good use and try to torture the family.

    Try not to sweat it too much. It's just going to be a nuisance until you learn to work around it.
     
  8. sexplease

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    First, wait for the difintive test results. You might be getting worked-up for nothing or the wrong reason.
    Second, 80% of the world population has herpes. Yes 80%.
    Third, IF it is herpes, modern medicine is working wonders with better living through modern chemistry. Valtrex.
    Fourth, IF it is herpes, stress is the #1 inducer of an outbreak.
    Fifth, The first outbreak is most often the worst.
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    Sixth, thank your parents from me... for your sexy good looks.
     
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    I believe you're experiencing many of the anxieties that many of us experienced we were faced with the realization of having herpes. I don't know if "sexplease" is correct. 80% is extremely high. But it is high. Many of us get it from folks who don't understand the virus. Here's some information that's a bit late for you, but maybe someone reading this. 1) Herpes 1 or 2 is the same virus. The difference is in the location. Herpes 1 is generally located on the mouth (cold sore) where as Herpes 2 is in the genital area (penis/vagina). I'm a 70's baby, so I contacted herpes 1 (cold sore) from an aunt or someone who kissed me when I was a kid. One reason I never let anyone kiss my kids when they were young. As if to make matters worst, I got a BJ from a girl who failed to tell me she was experiencing the early stages of an outbreak. I felt the same as you do know. Some helpful hints to reduce outbreaks. STAY AWAY FROM PRODUCTS WITH L-ARGININE and L-ORNITHINE. (Including many male sexual performance drugs.) Both increases outbreaks. Do however take L-LYSINE. It counter acts l-arginine. Finally, pick you up some ABREVA. It works for cold sores and genital warts. Good Luck and Stop Beating Yourself Up.
     
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    Hey man,

    What you're feeling is perfectly normal. Herpes can be a big scary thing, esp. because it's relatively permanent. For a couple days, it's okay to freak out, cry, feel shitty. It can help.

    After that, it's important to realize that it's not the end of your sex life and doesn't determine anything about you as a man or a lover. It's not a value judgment, and won't stop you from finding the person of your dreams, getting an awesome job, or anything else. Just be sure to play safe for the other person's benefit!
     
  11. helgaleena

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    You may be interested to know that besides herpes, there are other viruses that can mimic this, including the coldsore route of transmission. One is shingles and one is coxsackie vrus, also known as hand foot and mouth disease.

    I went for years thinking I had herpes when it was actually coxsackie. That by the way is very common in little children, and usually outgrown. I finally had it definitively diagnosed when I was in hospital to give birth.

    The treatment (wait it out and then be honest with partners) is exactly the same as with herpes simplex.

    Thinking back, I got it decades earlier from a steady partner who was symptom free and never admitted he had given it to me, simply quit seeing me when I got symptoms. :grrr:

    But your life is not over. It's not any more over than for a person who develops any other chroninc illness such as arthritis or tinnitus.
     
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    80% have oral herpes. About one in five have genital herpes. They are similar viruses, but different infections.
     
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    I got it from my cheating ex-wife. That's how I knew she was cheating. Luckily for me I've never had a break out on my genitals. But I do get a cold sore from time to time. Like jtmony08 said, ABREVA works wonders and Valtrex is a wonder drug from what a friend tells me. I apply ABREVA the first sign of an outbreak and it clears it up within a few days.

    It's not the end of the world, it may feel like that.

    Good luck, YHM.
     
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    regular activated tea-bags work for cold sores. apply 2x a day for 3 days. dries it right up.
    (the tanic acid in it)
     
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    When you consider the other things that are out there this is minor. As others have said you will need to be honest with your future partners and as time goes on your outbreaks will be fewer and far between. I believe there are generics for Valtrex if money is an issue. There are certain foods you should stay away from and try to avoid stress because it will trigger an outbreak.
    It doesn't help to be bitter about it because the person who gave it to you may not have known they had it.
    You will be fine!
     
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    I also found out a couple years ago that I had genital herpes, at the beginning didn't even know what was it then it was my actual girlfriend who, by my description since we were far apart, told me what was it.

    It is painful and it takes a few days to get rid of it, the best is not to touch and to keep it dry as for the bubbles to disappear the soonest, I think 75% of population have it, in some it's dormant in some it shows up from time to time, depending on how often you know how hard is it, the bad thing is that there is no cure for it.

    Anyway it's nothing tragic, I think it was my ex who transmitted it to me through oral as she was getting cold sores on her lips quite often during winter but now I don't have symptoms quite often.

    What I found out to be weird is a connection between sex drugs and herpes, I mean that sometimes i get a bit of cialis for recreational use and realize that it brings the herpes up again...

    Like one of those who wrote before me said arginine et c. do help herpes to come out again so I think that kind of drugs has to be avoided like hell, right? Nothing to pull down the side effects of these drugs vs herpes?
     
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    1 in 4 women have genital herpes! F*ck! Lying cows! Lol. Only 1 in 5 men. That suggests some guys are doing a helluva lot better than the average, or women play with themselves more often.

    Cheer up, you might only get one outbreak. I knew a girl who got facial herpes transmitted from all the coins she handled. It's better the Hep C et al.

    If my knob looked like it was rotting, I'd spend any money to get it fixed. Cough it up!
     
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