Dont take it too personally, Looking. I think our fellow members are uncharacteristically mistaken on this one.
I dont buy that you are being shallow on this one. I dont respond sexually to people because they are quite perfect and wonderful. I respond because I respond dont ask me to explain. I get it that you like em big but I think theres more. One of these days you just might fall for a guy who isnt and you wont be confused about it.
Ive had that experience. I like x type and then out of nowhere, a y comes along and Im crazy hooked.
You are not crazy hooked on this guy and you really need not worry about being shallow, you need to show some balls and be confident in yourself and sticking up for your emotions. I believe you when you say hes perfect. I believe you when you say hes got a weenie weenie and hear you saying its a deal breaker. Well, somethings a deal breaker and you dont like the boys dick, but I bet if he really were the right guy for you not a picture perfect image of what is supposed to be right youd be sucking that dick like mad.
When we feel the way about someone we should be with, their dick is always the right kind of dick because if the chemistry is right, the way they sound when they talk, or snort for that matter, and the way they smell, and they way they move, and so forth, they way they are just gets to us and we want to be all over their body and definitely their cock becomes exactly the right kind of cock.
This is not shallow. Disdaining your buddies spouse because she comes from the wrong side of town is shallow; not associating with people because you are afraid your other friends will disapprove of their clothing or speech is shallow. Not wanting to suck a guys dick when you dont want to suck it is never shallow.
No body should ever be embarrassed in to thinking he should suck somebodys dick because that somebody is really a wonderful person.
It doesnt work that way.
Suppose we meet some guy in a bar and our buddies stick up their noses because they seem to think hes beneath them, but we cant get our mind of him, and we have a chance to be with him. Would you not be with him because your snobbish friends dissed him? That would be shallow. Be with him and blow him until he hurts if he drives you nuts and screw what other people think of him.
It sounds as if this is a really nice guy and you two should be friends.