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My girlfriend of almost two years and I (I’m 30, she’s 29) have had a near constant argument simmering under the surface for a while. I’ve taken a new job about two hours away and have been working 60 hours a week (I love my work and put everything I have in it) - but we talk nightly and I make the drive every weekend to see her.
She’s wanting marriage and I’m hesitant to say the least. Part of me is hoping for further career advancement, and not ready to sacrifice any opportunities for familial responsibilities - I feel I’ve only got a short time left without concrete and limiting commitments. Additionally, I’m just not ready for marriage - plain and simple. She, meanwhile, would probably move anywhere with a more concrete commitment. I’ve been upfront and honest about my thoughts on marriage. I don’t want to break up - but it seems like it’s headed in that direction. She’s a great person, fun to be around and we get along well.
Should I end it for her sake? Is it fair of me - even though I’m trying not to string her along - to tell her I don’t know if I want marriage? Is my indecision selfish?
She’s wanting marriage and I’m hesitant to say the least. Part of me is hoping for further career advancement, and not ready to sacrifice any opportunities for familial responsibilities - I feel I’ve only got a short time left without concrete and limiting commitments. Additionally, I’m just not ready for marriage - plain and simple. She, meanwhile, would probably move anywhere with a more concrete commitment. I’ve been upfront and honest about my thoughts on marriage. I don’t want to break up - but it seems like it’s headed in that direction. She’s a great person, fun to be around and we get along well.
Should I end it for her sake? Is it fair of me - even though I’m trying not to string her along - to tell her I don’t know if I want marriage? Is my indecision selfish?