"Heteroflexible"?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by someotherguy, Jun 10, 2011.

  1. someotherguy

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    I was recently made aware of this term by a good friend of mine. We were having a conversation on what I would label myself. I can't call myself "Bi-sexual" because I can never see myself as having an emotional relationship with a man. Neither can I label myself as "straight" because I have had sexual encounters with other men and have quite enjoyed them. He said that perhaps I was "heteroflexible". I looked it up and it summed up my view on things.

    "A person who enjoys sex with both male & females but considers themself heterosexual in the sense that they do not relate with the same sex for an emotional relationship like a bi-sexual could. Heteroflexible is a heterosexual person that is beyond the bi-curious stage but would never engage in an emotional relationship with the same sex."

    What do you all think? Have you heard of this before? Could this be a valid term? Or is it just another useless label that eases people minds when they're confused about themselves?
     
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    I have to agree with most of your philosophy...
    Anyone in San Diego who feels the same??
     
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    I feel totally the same thing as you!
     
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    yea that sounds like me
     
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    Thumbs Up!... Im Guilty Of Flexing!
     
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    i think thats me too
     
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    George Duroy of Bel Ami Online coined the term flexisexual, which I think is better. Most of his models are flexis,
     
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    I'd be more than happy to bend a few of his models over...
     
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    Does the root "sexual" refer to emotional relationships? I was not aware of that.
     
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    I know several guys who label themselves heteroflexible. They enjoy sex with men, but when they are looking for a relationship it is strictly female. I do know that the heteroflexible guys I've been with tend to fall into three categories.

    1) They'll take a blowjob, a handjob or top a guy. That's as far as they flex.

    2) They want to suck cock, get fucked or play with your cock, your ass, whatever. But it is on their terms. They may be the receiver, but they want to be in charge of it. Basically, you're a walking dildo/sex doll for them.

    3) The "sex is natural, sex is fun" guys. These are my favourites. They're not gay, they're not bi. They just know they can have a good time with a guy. There's no emotional involvement. It is just a release and walk on the wild side for them. But, you can suck 'em, fuck 'em, they'll blow you, they'll try it all. They don't need to be in control, they just want to enjoy the experience however it plays out. But just remember, you're into guys, they are into girls. You might fall for them, but the highest level you could achieve in their life is fuckbuddy. They will NOT become a boyfriend.

    Well, that's what I've seen in my experience. I have noticed many straight men are more comfortable now with pursuing another guy to live out a fantasy they may have had or to recreate a circle jerk, forced blowjob form an older brother/upperclassmen. Or as a guy once said to me "my wife fucks me with a strapon, but cold plastic ain't nuthin' compared to a real cock".
     
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    Interesting reactions so far. Keep 'em coming!
     
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    Sorry, but for my money you peeps are full of shit. If you're so "just" horny, go fuck a melon.

    The fact is, you love cock on some level. The problem is, you have a problem accepting the fact that you can't love that there's a person attached to it and a psyche as well. So, you try to divorce yourself from that.

    You "kids" with your all "don't label me" bullshit is ridiculous. It's all about the fact that you don't know how to confront yourselves and face up to yourselves. I'm tired of it. The idea that you actually want to, and enjoy, sucking and getting fucked by, dick but can't "emotionally relate" to men is a total load of shit. You need to integrate yourselves.

    Seriously, stop trying to compartmentalize everything. It can't be done and you're only fooling yourselves and each other. If you want to be a real grownup, it means working these things out. You don't have to make full, 100% decisions here and now, but you have to fully synthasize yourselves eventually if you want to move on and progress.
     
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    Pure heroism.
     
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    More like pure bullshit, if you ask me.

    As for me I consider all of the labels as next to worthless, but must admit that "heteroflexible" comes damned close to describing me.
     
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    Finally the truth is spoken with no holds barred. Thanks, Nick. I think the "no label" excuse has a little merit in certain circumstances but generally speaking if someone is having sex with another person they have to acknowledge the truth of the situation, and emotional integration is a huge part of that. This idea that guys can just suck cock or get sucked and that it means nothing is a whole crock of shyt. After all whether you want to believe it or not, "just sex" is two people relating to each other and it does have consequences for both parties. It's not so much what you call it, but rather how you deal with what emotions it brings up in you and how you integrate those feelings into the rest of your life. I see a whole let of suffering in the world created by men (and women) who disregard their sexual affairs to their own detriment. Pretending like something didn't happen or is "just sex" is a cop-out which will affect the parties somewhere down the line. I feel the mature response is to "own" what we do however we may define it.
     
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    A friend and I believe we invented this word in 1993. I am glad it is spreading. I define it exactly as the OP, and it is my sexual orientation. I do not relate to women with any kind of romantic love. I have never wanted a girlfriend, I don't even have many female friends. I am not attracted to most women, even superficially. For any kind of companionship I prefer a man. That means friendship, romantic love, and sexual relations. But I am attracted to some women, for friendship, some for friendship and sex. I have never fallen in love with a woman. The very idea is repulsive. Live with non-related women in my house? Hell no. I can't stand living with women.
     
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    Both. I think much of the time it's a way to not be in the closet, but to say you have sex with men, but not have to label yourself as part of the other.
     
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    I've always had trouble maintaining a truly deep and meaningful romantic connection with gourds. (Though I have to admit - I haven't actually tried fucking melons.) Which is probably why I've only fucked around with homo sapiens. (Other animals I keep as pets - or eat)
     
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    This totally describes me! I've done sexual stuff with other guys and enjoyed it, but I really feel an emotional connection and attraction to girls.
     
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    Originally Posted by someotherguy

    "A person who enjoys sex with both males & females but considers themself heterosexual in the sense that they do not relate with the same sex for an emotional relationship like a bi-sexual could. Heteroflexible is a heterosexual person that is beyond the bi-curious stage but would never engage in an emotional relationship with the same sex."


    ....of course, it is absolutely obscene to think that a heterosexual person could EVER have an emotional relationship with someone of the same gender. I mean it's perfectly fine to fuck or suck them into oblivion, but to love them is downright disgusting!!!! :confused:
     
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