Through my interactions with gay men (particularly young ones) both on/offline, I have come to notice a trend of internalized heterophobia (think internalized homophobia, but in the reverse, obviously). Basically, a number of [young] gay men that Ive spoken to have expressed a feeling of disgust at the idea of being with women. Fair enough, everyones entitled to feel the way they do, but disgust is such a strong feeling, and as is generally the case amongst homophobic people, I believe it to be an indicator of something more. I think that because of the initial struggle a gay individual must inevitably face to come to terms with their sexuality, they come to believe that whatever they first discover is pretty much set in stone (i.e. I am gay, and thats all there is to it). In part, I believe that this is due to the fact that they dont want to have to again question and subsequently struggle with their sexuality. Nobody wants to have to experience that first episode more than once. This creates a false sense of security that is constantly challenged by thoughts or feelings that may arise, and results in resentful feelings towards those that threaten that sense of security. Or simply put, sexually close-minded gay individuals harbour negative feelings toward women which manifest as disgust. For example, when I was first coming into my own as a gay person, I stressed to any and everybody that I would never sleep with a woman. I was constantly reinforcing the reality that I was exclusively gay. Today, I have yet to sleep with a woman, but I do readily accept it as a possibility in the future if for whatever reason I develop that desire. Additionally, when men I was interested in would tell me they had had past experiences with women, it would really intimidate me. My sexuality + women = insecurity. Anyway, just wanted to share those thoughts and see what the people of LPSG had to say. Please feel to share opinions, ideas and stories. And just for the sake of saying it, this all obviously my own opinion and I dont in any way claim it as fact. The whole point of starting this thread is to see what we can figure out. I've added a poll; answer accordingly.