My concern is that that "groupthink" just promotes intolerance. If you're fighting intolerance with intolerance, you're not going to be very productive.
These weren't friends of hers, simply sexual/romantic prospects. It's the ultimate hetero male fantasy until they realise there's a possibility their hot bi girlfriend might leave them for a woman. Then they just become insecure. Not that this happens with every hetero male with a bi girlfriend, but it has happened quite often with my best friend.
That perpetuates the very dichotomy we've been working toward overcoming. The point I'm trying to make is that there really shouldn't be an "us" and a "them", and exercising the same offensive behaviour is antithetical.
To clarify things, I didn't mean that expressing disgust in women/vagina necessarily made one "heterophobic" (do note that I've been putting that word in quotations this entire time). Like max said:
and I followed up emphasizing that that was the point I was trying to make. To put it simply, vocalizing disgust in women/vagina, without sincerely experiencing disgust is the "heterophobic", discriminatory behaviour of which I'm referring to (depending on context...you're welcome, max). If a person is genuinely disgusted by women/vagina, then that's their own prerogative, and not the very specific behaviour I'm speaking about. If that was unclear, I apologise, but again, I did make that point after max's post.maxcok said:
Also, this thread is here for people to explain why they're disgusted by female genitalia. If you can justify it (i.e. you had a terrible sexual experience with women), then you're not in the demographic I'm addressing. If you can't justify it, then explain how your behaviour isn't "heterophobic".
Oh, and just to further clarify, I am openly gay male with no desire whatsoever to sleep with women, so it baffles me how you can accuse me of trying to get across a point I'd never support. If you had read clearly, you'd've noticed I'd written [in my OP], "Today, I have yet to sleep with a woman, but I do readily accept it as a possibility in the future if for whatever reason I develop that desire," meaning, I have not yet developed a desire to sleep with women. As in, I don't want to sleep with women.
Read above.
I never said this was a new trend. I simply called it a trend. A pattern I've noticed amongst the gay men I've interacted with in my lifetime. I've only been around for the years I've been around, so obviously the only experiences I've had have been in this era. I can't possibly know whether gay men in the decades preceding my life acted in a similar fashion or not.
Thanks for sharing your experiences.
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