Heterosexual masturbation question

[TWZR21]

Hi all, I am doing a bit of psychological research here and thought this would be a great place to get some general opinion. My question is for heterosexual men who masturbate. Just the following 2 questions:

1) When you masturbate, do you fantasize you with a girl by seeing the two of you having sex (visualizing it as if you are watching a porno of you and her) or do you fantasize as if you are engaging with her directly (not seeing from an outside view but as if you are directly acting upon her)

2) Are you aroused by the what you are doing her (example aroused by the fact YOU are making her orgasm, or YOU are giving her pleasure, that YOU are giving to her) or are you aroused by her receiving you and what how she feels about what she is having done to her.

I would really appreciate it! The point of this is to get a general idea to see how much men naturally (and very commonly) eroticize their own masculinity during sex, in comparison to how they eroticize a womans femininity during sex. Thanks in advance!

 

[D_Edwin Eatser]

Q1 - directly. If I'm looking at a pic or a dvd of a woman on her own, I imagine I'm kissing her, licking her, fucking her etc. If I'm looking at a pic or dvd of a couple, I imagine it's my cock inside the woman, or if it's group action, the woman I fancy best. I do the same to a lesser extent with lesbian or gay pics and dvds. I've been doing this since I started as a young teenager.

Q2 - the latter. This is different to sex with a real person, where I do get very turned on by arousing my sex partner.

When watching porn, I often try to cum at the same time that the man who is fucking the woman or man I'm focussing on cums. Then I feel the orgasmic noises and expressions of the person who has been fucked are directed at me.

 

[borntobeking]

Great questions.

1. I visualize engaging with her directly.

2. I am turned on by what I am doing to her. I like to imagine that I am giving her the greates pleasure than she has ever received.

Also freyasfolk wrote, "When watching porn, I often try to cum at the same time that the man who is fucking the woman or man I'm focussing on cums. Then I feel the orgasmic noises and expressions of the person who has been fucked are directed at me." I do the exact same thing.

 

[TWZR21]

Great! Thank you so far! Anyone else, please pitch in guys......

 

[ThongerDude]

1) I imagine I am doing her directly.

2) I am aroused by what I am doing to her and making her orgasm.

 

[anoushka]

1) When you masturbate, do you fantasize you with a girl by seeing the two of you having sex (visualizing it as if you are watching a porno of you and her) or do you fantasize as if you are engaging with her directly (not seeing from an outside view but as if you are directly acting upon her)

Either engaging with her directly or fantasizing someone else (an imagined male ideal) is with her. I never see myself from outside myself.

2) Are you aroused by the what you are doing her (example aroused by the fact YOU are making her orgasm, or YOU are giving her pleasure, that YOU are giving to her) or are you aroused by her receiving you and what how she feels about what she is having done to her.

The latter. Imagining the former felt odd to me.

 

[bigjpgh]

to be frank, its both for each question, kind of depends on my mood.

 

[blackguy1]

Q1 - directly. If I'm looking at a pic or a dvd of a woman on her own, I imagine I'm kissing her, licking her, fucking her etc. If I'm looking at a pic or dvd of a couple, I imagine it's my cock inside the woman, or if it's group action, the woman I fancy best. I do the same to a lesser extent with lesbian or gay pics and dvds. I've been doing this since I started as a young teenager.

Q2 - the latter. This is different to sex with a real person, where I do get very turned on by arousing my sex partner.

When watching porn, I often try to cum at the same time that the man who is fucking the woman or man I'm focussing on cums. Then I feel the orgasmic noises and expressions of the person who has been fucked are directed at me.

I am the same way :biggrin1: but without the gay porn part

 

[pomaz59]

really interesting question!

1) When you masturbate, do you fantasize you with a girl by seeing the two of you having sex (visualizing it as if you are watching a porno of you and her) or do you fantasize as if you are engaging with her directly (not seeing from an outside view but as if you are directly acting upon her)

i imagine it like porn, so i'm watching us from the outside.
this is actually in my opinion not so fortunate, because this way i don't go through the 'whole experience', i dont really living my imagination, i'm more like a bystander. but i masturbated always like this

2) Are you aroused by the what you are doing her (example aroused by the fact YOU are making her orgasm, or YOU are giving her pleasure, that YOU are giving to her) or are you aroused by her receiving you and what how she feels about what she is having done to her.

i'm mainly arroused thinking about my pleasure, but sometimes i like thinking about how she would feel, imagine her having an orgasm and in the extrem 'dreams' how she would squirt.

 

[TWZR21]

Very interesting! It's coming together nicely, as I thought, most heterosexual men, do eroticize their own masculinity (to a degree) as they are aroused by the fact that they are the ones providing the pleasure, more than her receiving the pleasure. I appreciate all your answers, this is very helpful. Feel free to keep it coming.