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i think we are who we are. y must we affix ourselves with labels? does it make us feel better about ourselves or gives us permission to be how we want to be? i just don't get it...

just do what you like and don't what you dislike. it's that simple. y do we make life so hard?
 

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First off people can label themselves anything they want. I don't think we need more example of that then those who call themselves pro-life. I don't think labeling yourself as something is at the heart of the issue here. I think it's still being able to gain respect with the label you've chosen which brings all the problems.

Most of the time people get upset with others because the labels they've chosen for themselves don't fit logically. Or there's an appearance of the labels not fitting logically.

Had to look the word up to fully understand it but as far as i can tell there's no sex included. Which confuses the hell out of me. I find men attractive all the time. I would never have sex with them because i'm straight but i do.

If there is sex involved though then yeah they're bisexual in the very least.

Yeah, the more i read up on it the more i'm confused. If this is based solely on finding someone of the same gender and opposite gender attractive then that would logically lead to everyone being both hertreoflexibe (?) and homoflexibe (?)?

I mean, who can't find celebs of both and all possible genders (including trans people) attractive? No one. Not really. So if the label is based on attraction then everyone is both things all the time. And if it isn't based on who we regularly have sex with then why label it a sexuality?

If it's based on sex and the categories of people we have sex with regularly...then there really is already an app for that.

So ya know what. I'm going to call this one as needing more discussion. Why more discussion.
 

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The Kinsey Scale was introduced in 1948 and holds that there is a continuum from straight, through various shades of bisexual to gay. Whilst some people's sexual activity does change over their lifetime I believe this is simply a case of expressing a different part of their innate attraction, i.e. someone who was born such that he is attracted to at least some extent to both sexes may pursue one of those attractions more when younger and migrate to the other as he matures. I haven't see anything to make me think there is anything fundamentally wrong with the Kinsey scale - if anything more people are now admitting that they are "not completely straight", i.e. A Kinsey 1 or maybe 2. You could attach Hetroflexible as a label to such people but the very fact you've questioned it makes we wonder how useful the label is. We all need to agree what a label means for it to be a useful description (and it certainly shouldn't be a prescription).
 
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It is what it is I think. Some people hate labels some love to label everything. Sexuality is a scale, some people move along it and some are set at on position so to speak. What right does anyone else have to label you as something you don’t identify with.

50 years ago people would laugh at you if you identified as pan sexual or asexual or gender fluid? We’ve come a long way.