His Endowment’s Affect On Frequency

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The discussion kinda came to a grinding halt once the OP was outed as a cheat, but there were some excellent posts in the “She won’t admit she likes it” thread explaining that having a large penis at your disposal isn’t all rainbows and puppies.

Allow me to pose this question directly:

Whether it’s applicable to your current partner or a past partner, has a man’s generous endowment ever negatively affected how often you had sex with him?

Simply put, would you likely have (or have had) more sex if he were smaller?
 

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When I had a large partner, I would have enjoyed sex a great deal more had he been smaller. Granted, he wasn’t the most considerate of lovers and could have made things easier, but his size always made it seems like an endurance test for me. I frequently had UTIs and pain afterwards. It didn’t help that he had a lower libido than I, so sex wasn’t frequent enough so that could become accustomed to him. Once every three weeks or so wasn’t enough. I find that frequent sex with a larger partner helps, otherwise the elasticity of my vaginal walls snap back too soon. It becomes painful again.

I’ve often made it clear if I had a choice I’d prefer an average size partner, but truthfully it doesn’t matter. I’ll accommodate whatever my man has if I care about him.
 

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The discussion kinda came to a grinding halt once the OP was outed as a cheat, but there were some excellent posts in the “She won’t admit she likes it” thread explaining that having a large penis at your disposal isn’t all rainbows and puppies.

Allow me to pose this question directly:

Whether it’s applicable to your current partner or a past partner, has a man’s generous endowment ever negatively affected how often you had sex with him?

Simply put, would you likely have (or have had) more sex if he were smaller?
I have cut off completely my largest ever partner because he was careless more than once. After I teach someone how not to hurt me, I expect him to be careful about following my very explicit instructions. I pull out a diagram of the female reproductive anatomy as part of the lesson, for fuck's sake. This person and his wife lived above me for a while, and I have heard his wife suggesting he see if I was home because she wasn't recovered from the last go-round yet.

I never really had this problem with anyone else. Everyone else has warmed me up thoroughly and immediately adjusted for my comfort. There have also been times where I encouraged some to keep doing a thing, even though it hurt a little more than was ideal, because I knew it would help me stretch to be more accommodating next time. I have also had to lie still to avoid discomfort. On those occasions I let my partners know I would be more active once I was used to the size. They were always patient with me, and were rewarded by discovering that I would, once comfortable, milk them with my strong pelvic floor while moving my hips to meet theirs. A comfortable me is more fun than a me who is still adjusting.
 
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I've never encountered a natural penis (not pumped, injected, etc) that was so large as to have any influence over frequency of sex for me. I have had "too much" sex a couple times where we might get tender spots, but that was fucking 10+ times in a day. I blame not enough lube and the sheer amount of sex, not the penis size.
 

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Nope. Not at all. However, similar to AE, I only slept with this particular guy once because he had no idea how to not hurt me. This guy didn’t even know that there was such a thing as large condoms (he was squeezing into normal ones) so I put it down to inexperience and watching too much porn. Foreplay didn’t seem to be a priority for him and some of the positions he wanted to try were completely unacceptable with little foreplay or early on in the piece.
 

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Ugh and I hate the statements about “being full”. Does a woman ever actually even speak like that?!

I have in explaining difference with my guy. As in, “a sensation of stretch and fullness.”

to @Shakleford’s question about size’s impact on frequency, nights where we’d overdo it led to my needing a couple days off.
Even with my current girthy but only a bit over average guy, I have needed to use ice afterward.
It all boils down to microtears for me. Those stinging, painful lines make more sex unappealing.
But I’m happy to do non penetrative activities.
 

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@Scarletbegonia, @AlteredEgo and @Fade, thanks for clarifying. I’ve seen so many men say it on here but don’t recall seeing women say that and I’ve never said it so just didn’t know if it was a thing! Does “being full” relate to the feeling from girth?
 
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@Scarletbegonia, @AlteredEgo and @Fade, thanks for clarifying. I’ve seen so many men say it on here but don’t recall seeing women say that and I’ve never said it so just didn’t know if it was a thing! Does “being full” relate to the feeling from girth?

For myself it's a little bit of girth, but also length. Rem is -almost- a complete perfect fit for me. He's a little long for some positions, but there's always a comfortably fulfilled but not stretched sensation.
 

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Not trying to rain on your parade, but if memory serves correctly, I've said something along those lines before. I'm more likely to just say someone is a great fit, but I think I've said something about "being full" in the past at least once.
I’ve said it, too. More of a girth thing for me, I think.
 

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Girth, at certain points.
Good fit is an excellent way of phrasing it.
I’ve had partners quite close in size and one just fit better, retrospective view, of course.


I think we de-emphasize size so much that it seems to be men’s preference, exclusively.
We fineness the point more, rather than take it and plop it on a lit pedestal.
 

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I think we de-emphasize size so much that it seems to be men’s preference, exclusively.
We fineness the point more, rather than take it and plop it on a lit pedestal.

I think a lot of guys, especially ones who haven’t been in long-term relationships, don’t understand the amount of variables involved in what “a good size” is.

Over 14 years with Mrs. Shackleford, sometimes I’ve been uncomfortably big. Other times, she’s requested a position change because “I don’t feel you as much this way.” Sometimes she savors a practically violent pounding with all I’ve got, sometimes she’s just trying to make it through to the end. Sometimes the pendulum will even swing both ways in the same session.

Mind you, I’ve had the same penis through all of it.

it’s just not as simple as needing a 5 mm socket to turn a 5 mm bolt.
 

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Remember that vaginas are changing spaces. Swelling, contracting, hormones, hydration. Lubrication that gets all the spots except the one that makes us say OUCH. And that’s the size of a BB but messes up the whole game.

also, I’m not sure how common or not this is, but I’d say that while I have sensation through the entire canal, only some areas really need much.
Beyond the obvious clitoral zones. I mean there are places half way in that aren’t consistently aware of sensation.