Hiting the big 5-0 and beyond

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There are a diverse group of people here in LPSG, young and old in particular. I'm in my mid 50's and this being a site about sex I pose this question to fellow 50 and beyond, well those in there 40s may also notice this.

What physical changes have you noticed in yourself, SO, or partner as you hit the big 50 and beyond with regards to sex and what solutions helped in this regards. For me of a decrease in cum, strength of my ejaculation have been noticeable. Libido not so much. My wife though has been her being able to get wet down there and her libido. I can make her cum orally, but because she is drier she will avoid fucking during those times when it is significantly drier where it hurts. Have used lube which has worked to some extent. I cum only through her or I giving me a hand job, and the occasional fucking, on wet days.
 

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All I can say is that sex gets better and better as you get older - the mortgage is paid - there is no stress anymore - life is great as you reach and get over 50....
 

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my libido is not what it used to be. I cum a little less, still shoot pretty good. have moderate ED at times. generally, use generic cialis as an ED aid.

wife has next to no sex drive anymore. she lubes up when we do have sex. sometimes complains that I'm too big. she still likes to get on top and ease me in slowly. it takes awhile longer, but she will get wet and cum pretty much like before, except there are no multiple orgasms. before I could leave her unable to walk or talk for 10 minutes, she would lay there moaning and quivering. and she is only interested in doing it once.

many times she doesn't want to fuck but will give me a long BJ and jerk me off.

been together for 35 yrs, and it certainly isn't like it was, but what the hell is like it was 35 yrs ago???
 

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Sex after 50?:confused:

As a single gay man with low finances and increasing health issues, it is getting harder (pun?) to find partnerships in which mutual attraction is shared. The cum stopped shooting (usually oozing) about four years ago, erections are not as easily achieved without ED drugs, and sharing a bed all night seems impossible due to sleeping disorders. I wish I could say it is better than ever like some here do, but I am close to giving up.
 

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All I can say is that sex gets better and better as you get older - the mortgage is paid - there is no stress anymore - life is great as you reach and get over 50....

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at this. I haven't yet reached 50 but the Mortgage and stress are still elevated. All I can hope for is that the same remains true for other areas.
 

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my libido is not what it used to be. I cum a little less, still shoot pretty good. have moderate ED at times. generally, use generic cialis as an ED aid.

wife has next to no sex drive anymore. she lubes up when we do have sex. sometimes complains that I'm too big. she still likes to get on top and ease me in slowly. it takes awhile longer, but she will get wet and cum pretty much like before, except there are no multiple orgasms. before I could leave her unable to walk or talk for 10 minutes, she would lay there moaning and quivering. and she is only interested in doing it once.

many times she doesn't want to fuck but will give me a long BJ and jerk me off.

been together for 35 yrs, and it certainly isn't like it was, but what the hell is like it was 35 yrs ago???

Just made 28 years, after I started PE I do notice harder erection although staying hard longer is less. The sex sounds like my story pretty much.
 

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I am in my mid 40s. My cock still gets hard on demand and, sometimes, I can shoot cum over my head (which I wasn't able to do in my 20s). But, I don't wake up with morning wood every day like I used to (actually rarely do, anymore) and I don't have a burning desire to come everyday like I used to, in my 20s and 30s, when I needed to come at least once a day and going 2 days was an impossibility, even when seriously ill. Now, I can go 4 or 5 days, and it is no big deal. Yes, sad.
 

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69, still get great morning wood which my lady finds and envelopes in her pussy. Evenings we're usually too tired to enjoy much more than some cuddling. My cum is getting smaller in volume but I still shoot a foot or more and she says it tastes good on the rare occasion when I don't cum inside her.
 

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I work with Senior Citizens in a luxury retirement community. Our average age is 87! The #1 dilemna in most of these retirement communities nationwide is STD's! After so many years of marriage, many of our widows and widowers are lonely. Now of course your libido diminishes over time and your body does change -- however, from even the married couples we have, for most people the issue becomes quality over quantity! Abstaining from sex for a few days and weeks can make the experience that much more satisfying.

Enjoying your sexuality even into your 90's is not impossible and yes - now with the little pills for men, extra help is available. It's the desire that rules! And because your brain is the largest sex organ of the body -- if you "think" you're too old.............you will be! I've met a lot of spry, vibrant 90+ year olds in our building who are still on the "prowl!" In fact -- one 88 year old Italian man (who was asked to leave our building because of his philandering) used to get regular blowjobs from several of the women (some of whom had altzheimers). He had heart problems and took nitrates (pay attention to the cautions they give you with viagra/cialis, etc.) and often-times we'd have to call 911 because once he took his viagra and had his fun........whooops! (He's still alive by the way and oftentimes picks up his girlfriend from our building for a weekend fling!) In his words, "I guess I'm just a hot & horny Italian!"

Bottom line. Age WILL change everything. Our motto at our building, "It's YOUR life -- live it well!"
 

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Diminished frequency of morning wood in general. Hard-on still rock hard and readily achieved. Once has been enough for the last ten years but I am as horny as in the last fifteen years. Cum quantity has actually increased and shoot almost as vigorously as when a teen. Takes longer to get hard but it does! Love blow jobs from women or men more than ever!
 

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.............and a cute joke. An older fellow was staying with his grandson when he came upon him counting something. "What's that?"
"Viagra"
"really? Do they work?"
"Hell yeah, but they're a little expensive.....about $10 a pill.
(older Gentleman) -- "Do you mind if you give me one? I'll gladly pay you."

The next day the old man hands the guy $110. "Hey grandpa, I told you they're only $10."

"I know," said the grandpa. "The $100's from Grandma!":biggrin1::biggrin1::rolleyes:
 

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Not there yet, but try to keep the body and mind healthy. I know some things are inevitable with time, but I'll be damned if I don't go down (!) swinging! :wink:

But yes, I'm starting to see changes from my 20s and 30s...
 

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69, still get great morning wood which my lady finds and envelopes in her pussy. Evenings we're usually too tired to enjoy much more than some cuddling. My cum is getting smaller in volume but I still shoot a foot or more and she says it tastes good on the rare occasion when I don't cum inside her.
Man, what's your secret? You look fit and active in your album. Is your wife close in age to you too?
 

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I work with Senior Citizens in a luxury retirement community. Our average age is 87! The #1 dilemna in most of these retirement communities nationwide is STD's! After so many years of marriage, many of our widows and widowers are lonely. Now of course your libido diminishes over time and your body does change -- however, from even the married couples we have, for most people the issue becomes quality over quantity! Abstaining from sex for a few days and weeks can make the experience that much more satisfying.

Enjoying your sexuality even into your 90's is not impossible and yes - now with the little pills for men, extra help is available. It's the desire that rules! And because your brain is the largest sex organ of the body -- if you "think" you're too old.............you will be! I've met a lot of spry, vibrant 90+ year olds in our building who are still on the "prowl!" In fact -- one 88 year old Italian man (who was asked to leave our building because of his philandering) used to get regular blowjobs from several of the women (some of whom had altzheimers). He had heart problems and took nitrates (pay attention to the cautions they give you with viagra/cialis, etc.) and often-times we'd have to call 911 because once he took his viagra and had his fun........whooops! (He's still alive by the way and oftentimes picks up his girlfriend from our building for a weekend fling!) In his words, "I guess I'm just a hot & horny Italian!"

Bottom line. Age WILL change everything. Our motto at our building, "It's YOUR life -- live it well!"

Have you ever witness the goings on? I'm older but still can't imagine my parents getting it on at 80 or 90. But hey at least they're happy.
 

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I'm 66 now and the biggest difference with age for me is the amount of time and stimulation it takes to go from fully flaccid to fully erect. Up until twenty years ago my erections were virtually instantaneous and in a way I kinda miss that. But the slow process of taking several minutes to achieve a stiffy can be kinda fun in its own way. So I guess I have no complaints. No doubt one of the ED drugs would speed things UP (pun intended) but they're just too damned expensive.
 

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As I approach "mid-life", I really find no significant changes sexually, but actually thinks my sex drive/libido is even stronger than in my 20's. I still wake up with some intense morning wood, find that my volume of ejaculate is greater, actually produce pre-cum more than ever, and experience much more intense orgasms. I credit a lot to keeping in good physical shape and eating healthy. I also think that as you get older, a lot of life's stress factors decline, and you can enjoy the sexual experience more. I also strongly believe, that after having a vasectomy some years back, it has helped take away one of the "risk" factors.

I have always tried to keep up to date on sexuality issues. What other people experience and try. That is one of the really positive things with LPSG. I read about others, young and old, and their experiences, good and bad, and take what I learn to the bedroom. It keeps thing new, fresh and exciting.

As you might conclude, I haven't let age effect me in the least!!