Here's my take on this. I go to the gym 5 days a week. Ignore the gay/straight percentage ratio and focus on the guys behavior. I know some very gay guys that go to my gym that wouldn't even consider looking at someone else junk in the shower, however discreetly, let alone smile or wink. There's a thing called gym etiquette. When you have a large group of naked men in the same room, you tend to keep eyes forward (peripheral vision excepted). If a guy is deliberately making eye contact with you in the shower, and smiling at you (unless he's already a good friend), there's a very good chance he's doing it on purpose to test your reaction. Basically, he's giving you an opportunity to encourage him to continue. If you're interested, next time you see him say something basic that he can't take offense to, like "how are you doing today?" and see how the conversation develops. If he's interested in more than friendship, he'll let you know eventually. if he isn't, you might make a new friend. Win/win either way.
I'm mostly straight, but have had my share of experimenting with the same sex. I can usually tell when someone is checking me out. If I'm intersted, I respond; if not, I ignore. When I see someone that turns me on, I smile or glance in their direction, quickly and discretly. Nothing obvious, but enough that someone interested would know, but not enough that someone not interested would be offended (no drooling). The clues are subtle, but if you get a reaction more than once, it isn't a coincidence. The key is to not doing anything offensive. You don't want to have your gym membership revoked ;-)
For those of you that took offense to the original post, I did too when I first read it. But, don't forget that it's hard to determine intent from a written conversation. It misses tone, inflection, body language, etc. Let's give him the benefit of the doubt.
And cut the guy some slack about his own gay/straight ratio. I know I've fluctuated back and forth on mine a time or two. It's like penis size. You can't know exactly where you fit in the mix until you have something to compare it to (which this site is excellent for). If he's in a little denial, so what, he'll figure it out eventually on his own without everyone rammming it down his throat (figuratively speaking). Isn't that one of the advantages of this site-a place to learn more about ourselves by hearing other people's stories and experiences?
