Hmm. Gay or Straight?

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  1. Fire Stick

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    A few months ago I joined a new gym, since the one I had been going to announced it was closing at the end of the year. The manager of the new gym -- who is the one who signed me up when I joined -- is a guy in his mid-to-late 30's, handsome, but about 20 lbs overweight. He has always been reasonably friendly, speaking to me by name when we make eye contact, but nothing over the top. He has never acted in any way to suggest he is particularly interested in me, and I have always assumed without any thought that he is staright. My "gaydar" has certainly never gone off.

    Yesterday, I was in the locker room changing. I was there at an odd time, and no one else was around. Just as I had stripped naked and was about to put on my jock strap, he came walking by at a brisk pace. Without stopping or slowing down, he looked over at me and quipped, "You should make movies." I suppose he could have meant westerns or historical dramas, but I doubt it. I called after him as he walked on, "How do you know I haven't?" I believe I heard him chuckle.

    Would a straight guy say that?
     
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    Telling another dude he should make porn because he has a big dick is not in anyway an indication of his sexual orientation (unless he was really flirting with you?). Men talk about big peters they see all the time in the pornos ...

    I shouldn't say this, but my dad had trucker friends who commented on his size ALL THE TIME. How did they know? Seeing him piss on several occasions. He got loads of attention (yep, from the guys), but that was ages ago.:biggrin1: Porn was his "missed" career, too!
     
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    Keep in mind, he is the manager and probably won't do anything to risk his job. The fact he kept going is one sign of that.
     
  4. jockmaestro

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    There's no way to determine that. Straight guys can make comments about size and just be joking around. Like Jiminy Cricket says, "Always let your gaydar be your guide."
    Oh sorry, is it GAY to refer to Jiminy Cricket???
     
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    Sure. Seems pretty innocent. Straight guys comment on each others cocks.

    Fire, you could be in straight porn as well, if you were so inclined. (Whoops, sorry, forgot you were bi)
     
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    "Hmm. Gay or Straight?"



    Are those the only choices?
     
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    There actually ARE some straight men with a sense of humor out there, you know:rolleyes:
     
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    Neither or both or one or the other.

    In short, there's no way to tell. Seems like just a casual if somewhat ambiguous joke to me. Anybody of any orientation could have cracked that one.
     
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    If he's worked there a while, it may be a compliment he uses on guys with big dicks in his locker room. Most guys appreciate that sort of attention if it's just a compliment like that. And he's got a vested interest in keeping people coming back to the gym.
     
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    The only way to know FOR SURE is to ask him what his favourite Madonna album is. If he says anything but "I don't own one" YOU'VE GOT A GAY.
     
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    Fixed that for you.:wink:
     
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    Not that you're wrong darling, but the man in question is an American in his mid-to-late 30s. They all worship her Madgesty. Who do you think kept her career alive through those awful mid-90s albums??? ;P
     
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    Naw..this is more about you and your "GAYDAR" (that's a new one on me)..The manager at my fitness club kids me and others about working out too much in the locker room as he makes his rounds..
     
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    I don't think that those comments can determine what his sexual orientation is,but anyway did you like it when he said that?
     
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    Yes, a 100% straight man would say that just for fun. So would a gay man that wants to get your attention.

    This is really a "ball's in your court" situation. If this guy rings your bells and you can act upon it, consider it an invitation and start talking it up. If he doesn't, just keep going and don't worry about what the "real" intent was. There may not be any.

    An astute previous poster has commented that if he's in charge of the gym, he's like a bartender who is expected to socialize and get you feeling good about is place, which is essentially identical to other places all over town. It may be nothing more than cynical ego-boosting.
     
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    He threw a compliment...cool. I wonder if he caught himself staring at you and thought he needed to say something as to not look like he had deliberately checked you out. Even a straight guy is going to see you as a handsome guy with a great physique and well hung. He might be stating the obvious with no pick up intended. Now if he keeps ending up by you when you are naked and making a similar comment. He wants to suck you off.
     
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    It's possible that he's just a very rude hetrosexual male.
     
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    Why is (presumably) complimenting his dick and/or his body rude?
     
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    Eunuch...:tongue:
     
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