Hi there Steve
I admire your self awareness and your openness to what it reveals.
Your title gives me a sense that you are confused and looking for answers, if I misread it, then please humour my reply.
You fit in wherever you will choose to fit in. What I mean by that is no one knows you better than yourself. You don't have to find a label or a stereotype in order to have an identity or a sense of fitting in. You are you...that should be enough, the rest is simply an expression of your inner truth and reality.
We grow up in a world that only wants black or white and supplies labels that match. Are you gay or straight? Introvert or extrovert? Not that much emphasis is placed on the grey... yet grey is just as good.
You will find that as time progresses, you will encounter varying shades of grey (in all areas, not just sexual preference), that too is good. It is a sign of growth and transformation.
To cut a long story short, don't worry too much about the label and concentrate on who you were divinely created to be. In that you will find a sense of fitting in, acceptance and immense peace.
Best wishes as you continue to journey within yourself.