If homophobic behavior is being afraid of homosexuals, then what is the word for being afraid someone will think you are gay, or afraid you have gay thoughts or actions? Most guys I know are not afraid of gay guys, they are afraid feelings or thoughts they have are gay, or that someone else will think they are gay. In my day, being tagged as a "Fag" was the worst. Kinda hard to defend yourself against that, unless its a good pop in the mouth. I was picked on in high school with this name calling and it affected me all through college untill I got married in my mid 20s. But I still have married friends that can not deal with feelings and thoughts they have in their heads which they perceive as gay. What is the word or phrase I'm looking for?