marleyisalegend
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I always get very annoyed by the so-called "connection" between muscularity and homosexuality, that if a guy works out, lifts weights, and takes care of his body then he is gay or less manly than a guy who doesn't. I really hate mainstream popular culture's insistence that to be a "real man" you have to have a pot belly or beer gut! It is ridiculous nonsense.
I am a gay male who does a lot of traveling and knows gays literally all over the world. The VAST MAJORITY of gays are NOT muscular and do NOT work out or lift weights. Most gay men are not even sexually attracted to big muscle-types. It is a stereotype, and is very damaging to the self-esteem of typical, normal, average gay men.
While at the same time, the stereotype boosts the self-image of many straight, conservative, often homophobic men by telling them that it is ok to be flabby and out of shape, because otherwise their masculinity/heterosexuality would be questionable.
I personally know or know of many many guys who workout and lift weights a lot. They are almost all straight. Only a very small few of them are gay. It is a distorted myth that most guys with muscles are gay, and vice versa.
I think the so-called "connection" is all just a cheeky sales gimick by the media and advertisers to appeal to the common everyday man, who does not work out, so that he will buy their product. And women buy into it as well. Just look at all the t.v. commercials, shows, and movies where the common-looking guy, who obviously doesn't lift weights or eat right, always gets the hot girl by the end! This is very true for the United States, but even more so for most other places in the world, like Britain and China. It is a contributing factor to the sharp rise in obesity among men... the unhealthy lifestyle that leads to obesity is actively encouraged by the media, especially in the U.S. and U.K.
One more thing: for most of human history, society has always put tremendous stress on women to have beautiful physically attractive bodies and to take care of their appearance. But for the past 20 years or so, men have only just begun to be encouraged to take care of their bodies and appearance. This new trend spawned a backlash by resentful men, which says that guys who put any effort into their appearance are less manly or are gay than men who don't. It is a form of resistance by men to the pressure to be attractive that women have faced since time immemorial.
The so-called "connection" between muscularity and homosexuality is a myth and is insulting to gay men because it puts enormous pressure on them to aspire to attain a hugely unrealistic body-image. It is insulting to straight men who exercise because it labels them as unmanly (not that gays are unmanly, but unfortunately the "connection" is meant to be an insult to heterosexuals, not a compliment of gays.) And it is insulting to women because it says that the hurtful pressure to have a "nice body" is only for women and gays, and straight males are exempt from that burden.
AMEN AMEN AMEN. this country has an obsessionwith fitting people into categories for instance
gay=flamboyant
black=inarticulate
skinny=anorexic
and the list can go on all day. i think the behavior of stereotyping is rooted in a couple of things
A)fear of things different or things we don't understand
B)the racism and sexism that ran this country for so many years
i think that once a person realizes that being gay has cast them into a minority, the sort of freak out, they're in a position they don't understand because, well, being a straight man (and white if it applies) can be a blessing in this country. once they're cast into this roll of minority which they don't understand, the fear factor comes in and they immediately feel the need to start attaching those labels and applying those stereotypes. this could explain why there are so many threads "why do black guys..." why do muscular men....", "do all....". it's silly to think that knowing what happens in a majority can somehow be beneficial. many stereotypes are based on fact but what use are these facts?? what good does it do you to know how many percent of gay men behave this way or that way?? what good does it do you to know that most black guys have big penises?? the only answer i can think of is that people find security when they understand things that are different from them, mostly by placing labels on them