This is an excellent post. I agree with it 100%. Anal sex has been the downfall of gay men. There was so much unprotected anal going on in the 70's that nobody knew what would happen in the early 80's.
All that promiscuity led to AIDS. At first only a handful of guys had it, then hundreds, then thousands. Gays gave blood causing hemophiliacs to get AIDS. Bisexual men gave AIDS to their wives and girlfriends. Intravenous drug users spead it among themselves and to their partners. And now we have millions of people gay, straight, young, old, worldwide who have HIV or AIDS.
Sure there are some gay men in committed relationships, but they are so rare they're considered freaks by other gays. I know a few gay couples who are monogamous, live in so-called "straight" neighborhoods, and they say they're like some kind of aberration. And they tell me that most gay relationship don't last very long, or they open them up after a year or so and have sex with other guys.
Barebacking is back in style which is really sad. Hopefully things will change. I recently checked out Craigs list in SF and was amazed at all the guys looking for bareback sex. I wrote to the SF Board of Heath (is that a freudian slip?) and they more or less said they're doing everything they can but it's up to the guys themselves. They are their own worst enemy.