I want to start a (polite) discussion based on this reply I posted in the Shawn Mendes thread about the toxic thing of using stereotypes to put labels on people.
Why does homosexuality to most people seem to be about so much more than it really is?
That's it, that is the only thing that it should be about.
Yet, when you look at society, there is this whole lifestyle thing created around it.
There are all these stereotypes that we as the gay community have created ourselves and are actively using to distinguish ourselves from 'the rest'.
This goes from the way we talk, to body-language, to what music we like, to fashion style and so forth... There is al whole range of things nowadays that are labelled 'gay', and we all rely on it, which is absurd.
A guy wearing pink he must be gay
A guy painting his nails he must be gay
A girl having short hair she must be gay
Etc. Etc. etc. You all know the stereoypes.
Als then about music... Why is it popular for every gay to like music by Britney Spears, Lady Gaga and Beyoncé?
Why are we doing this to ourselves? Why are we creating all these boxes and put everybody including ourselves inside those boxes in order to fit in? We are limiting ourself so much for no reason. Why can't we just be ourselves. Isn't that what we all want in the end?
Why are we going to such lengths to create this 'gay community' and then try so hard to fit in without those boxes?
How many gay people don't feel welcome in the gay community, because of these stereotypes?
I am one of those people. I am not a stereotypical gay, yet I am proud to be gay. However, I would feel completely out of place at a Pride event. Ironic, right?
Isn't Pride supposed to be about being proud of who we are?
Then why is every every pride event such a massive cliche, full of all these stereotypes, all over the world. It ticks all the boxes of what is labelled gay.
Why is it always barely dressed men dryhumping eachother to loud female pop-music, trying so hard to shock and to rebel. That really isn't helping the cause. I think it is part of a very big problem in this gay community. It is trying so hard to be different.
Why don't let all these stereotypes and this whole clownery go and let homosexuality just be what it is really all about. Not about how different 'we' are, but focus on how we are actually the exact same.
Not about the way we dress, the way we talk or what music we should like. All these toxic boxes we put people in.
Simply about loving the same gender.
Nothing more, nothing less.
That's the best thing we can for acceptance and respect from other communities and would also really improve the confidence and self-love of ourselves.
Why does homosexuality to most people seem to be about so much more than it really is?
What is homosexuality?
The quality or characteristic of being sexually attracted solely to people of one's own sex.
The quality or characteristic of being sexually attracted solely to people of one's own sex.
That's it, that is the only thing that it should be about.
Yet, when you look at society, there is this whole lifestyle thing created around it.
There are all these stereotypes that we as the gay community have created ourselves and are actively using to distinguish ourselves from 'the rest'.
This goes from the way we talk, to body-language, to what music we like, to fashion style and so forth... There is al whole range of things nowadays that are labelled 'gay', and we all rely on it, which is absurd.
A guy wearing pink he must be gay
A guy painting his nails he must be gay
A girl having short hair she must be gay
Etc. Etc. etc. You all know the stereoypes.
Als then about music... Why is it popular for every gay to like music by Britney Spears, Lady Gaga and Beyoncé?
Why are we doing this to ourselves? Why are we creating all these boxes and put everybody including ourselves inside those boxes in order to fit in? We are limiting ourself so much for no reason. Why can't we just be ourselves. Isn't that what we all want in the end?
Why are we going to such lengths to create this 'gay community' and then try so hard to fit in without those boxes?
How many gay people don't feel welcome in the gay community, because of these stereotypes?
I am one of those people. I am not a stereotypical gay, yet I am proud to be gay. However, I would feel completely out of place at a Pride event. Ironic, right?
Isn't Pride supposed to be about being proud of who we are?
Then why is every every pride event such a massive cliche, full of all these stereotypes, all over the world. It ticks all the boxes of what is labelled gay.
Why is it always barely dressed men dryhumping eachother to loud female pop-music, trying so hard to shock and to rebel. That really isn't helping the cause. I think it is part of a very big problem in this gay community. It is trying so hard to be different.
Why don't let all these stereotypes and this whole clownery go and let homosexuality just be what it is really all about. Not about how different 'we' are, but focus on how we are actually the exact same.
Not about the way we dress, the way we talk or what music we should like. All these toxic boxes we put people in.
Simply about loving the same gender.
Nothing more, nothing less.
That's the best thing we can for acceptance and respect from other communities and would also really improve the confidence and self-love of ourselves.