Homosexuality because of no female contact

Hi guys,

I've got a problem I'd like to hear your opinions about it. I'm a guy, not really ugly, but not very handsome too. I have the Asperger syndrom which was barriere between me and the outside world. But now, thanks to hard work, I have a small group of friends. But my whole life, I havent't got any attention from women, probaby because of my very closed personality and me being not that handsome. But since a few weeks/months, I have been feeling something for a good friend. I always imagine us hugging and kissing eachother, doing things together in town walking hand in hand,laying together in bed, even having sex. I can't be mad at him and it's very difficult to me to find something negative abour him. I have a feeling I'm getting gay because of the lack of contact between me and females, but this sounds so weird.

So I wanted to ask you guys about your opinion about this.Do you think I'm turning gay because of a lack of female contact? or could it be something else?

 

No, it's just nice to have someone close. You could have just turned over another leaf. Go for it & get some SEX

 

thats not very good advice

I think this may be happening to me as well. I dont really have anyfriends right now but i am talking to about 3 guys and on the way to establishing friendship with them and sometimes im way to clingy.

I also get attached & attracted to guys very quickly. It just feel natural and like i can be myself around guys. With females I get nervous and shy. And even when its just friendly I just never feel right.

And I dont get any attention from women either but i do get a tiny bit more of male attention

I think if you are still attracted to women than you arent gay.
But your lack of intimacy with a woman could be causing you to channel it in other ways. Our sexuality has to be expressed or it takes on other forms.
If your friend is straight I would seriously put any sexual ideas out of your head. (not simply because hes straight ) because you seem to have a healthy friendship and it shouldnt be changed lol

 

I believe you cant ''turn'' gay or straight either, us humans are just sexual and we like being around someone nice, if you dont have contact with guys anymore, you'l like that guy ayways

 

That's some piece of good advice. Thanks man!

 

I'm glad you said that.

 

You got a man crush, that's all.

It doesn't say anything about your sexuality one way or the other.

 

Don't listen to the world, listen to your own voice. And don't put labels on yourself. Let yourself feel what you feel for a while, and if you feel like putting a label on yourself, then fine; besides, your sexuality is unique if you do attach a label to it at some point. Human sexuality is so complicated, despite the laughable and relentlessly persistent notion that everyone is either permanently all gay or permanently all straight.

I am a 34-year-old virgin who will always refuse to have sexual intercourse to feel like everyone else. If I do have sex in the future, it is because I will want to from the heart.


I use porn and masturbation to keep everything in check.:biggrin1:

 

Many men are creatures of opportunity... Sex doesn't necessarily mean emotional connection. Sex with emotional connection doesn't necessarily mean gay. I don't think you are "turning gay", just starved for physical contact. That happens to everyone who is normal.

 

I am suspecting that this is not the reason you are still a virgin. Its also quite telling that you say "if you have sex in the future" and not when.

 

Gay or straight and your ability to find the right person is less dependent on who you are outside than it is on who you are inside. When we are young we are judged more on our appearance. As we age and it falls apart by virtue of gravity this loses it's importance.

If you are in fact gay it is because that is your genetic code. Many men repeatedly experiment with other men simply because they are what is available and they do not really make emotional connections with them. A sexual connection without an emotional connection is not anything other than being a sexual being needing relief from something other than your own hand.

If you were to decide to experiment, I would not play with your friend as a first choice. I would look for an actual gay connection and see where it leaves you. Odds are pretty good that from what you say that the desire and the cum will leave you both at about the same time.

 

Lucky hands of yours!

 

You can not "turn" gay. You may be bi. Or you may be anything else which is beyond my spectrum of experience.

Be that as it may, if you feel something for this man then feel it. Show it in any way that feels comfortable and appropriate to you and is respectful of him. Express who you are. Give to him unconditionally.

 

I agree you dont wake up one day and say hey I feel gayer or straighter, maybe you do. I have no idea

but in this situation I would say if your friend is gay then its alright to have those feelings. Explore them even, maybe its time you did. If hes straight you just gotta hold them in because a good friendship is a terrible thing to loose

I think its a little more than a man crush though becasue i dont think those normally come with thoughts of sex. But whatever the reason dont worry about it, whoever you are is probably an amazing person since your actully even considering all these things. =)

 

Best piece of advice you have gotten so far. (plus my PM :biggrin1

 

I am a virgin still at this age:


1) freedom that comes from virginity

2) have not found anyone I really want to stick my dick into to have some of that freedom taken away from me



Call my queer, bi, trannsexual....I don't care...when you get older, you learn not to give a %#$Q$# what others think.


I enjoy my life just the way it currently is.





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I never called you anything and I would never be so presumptuous to do so. I am also happy for you if you have found a lifestyle that you enjoy and makes you happy. More power to you. However, your op was judgmental and I detected from it a bitterness. As a result I get the impression that the reasons given were not the true explanation of your virginity - not that you need to explain it to anyone. I could be wrong and that's fine. Only you know for sure but you put it out there.

 

Bitterness? Wow... you're something else dude. On the other post I was being cynical and indicting people. Go figure.

 

C'est la vie.

 

Sorry you took it that way, but I wasn't directing my comments directly to you, but to the world.:biggrin1:

Take care, buddy.:smile: