Honest question, how can you handle a big dick?

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I don't know if I was been too tense, but days ago I did my first hook up in half a year with a 18 cm cock and it hurts like hell. I barely enjoyed it during the whole time. It was painful.
 
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Sorry to hear this. If the pain is ongoing you may want to get checked out by a doctor. Are there signs of blood in your stool?

Where does it hurt exactly?

Without more info, here is some general advice in terms of how to handle going forward....

- solo play with a dildo or buttplug in between hookups will help you remain used to being penetrated and relaxing yourself for entry. (Unless you are playing with oversized toys this will not leave you too loose.)

- Foreplay, especially rimming and using up to three fingers can help relax you.

- Plenty of lube (always!)

- smoking weed or eating a weed edible can help relax your sphincter.

Personally, I find that if I apply lube myself with 1-2 fingers and insert them into my hole, this is enough penetration to both physically and psychologically get me ready to be penetrated. If I am still tight deeper in, then I just need to breath deeply and push out (like when I’m taking a dump) to open my sphincter a bit more.
 
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I can’t hence why o never hookup with hung guys lol. Just like to look at big dicks.

Maybe you just need some more foreplay to loosen you up?
 

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Relax, try and loosen up with a toy before if possible. Any decent top should do the loosening first, unless it was a spit and push quickie.

If it helps, experience and practice will make it easier in the long term, we have all had those John Wayne days ;)
 
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As a top adequate foreplay is needed but if you know in advance you're going to take a large one after you do your prep just pop a normal size butt plug in to help dilate you. Some guys can relax their sphincter naturally others need a bit of aid. What others have said is also true make use you have adequate lube, water base lube tends to dry up so make sure you tell your top to apply when you start to feel irritated.
 

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A really big cock is always going to hurt a little (hurt may not be the right word exactly, because it is like both pain and pleasure, but a big cock will always feel really intense). But I would agree with other comments that you may have not been with a very good top. When a guy is really big, he's gotta warm up his bottom, slowly open him up until he can really take a pounding. If you hook up with him again, tell him to fuck slow and gradually give you more of his dick. Once your hole opens, you'll love his big dick.
 
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You have to be hungry and actually have an attraction to the person that is fucking you. If you don’t have that, it won’t work.
 

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Part one. Get your ass used to taking bigger cock by playing with toys of a similar size on a regular basis.

Part two. Use lots of lube and reapply regularly, especially waterbased lube.

Part three. The bigger the cock, the longer the foreplay. Your partner needs to gradually increase the girth and depth until your body is ready to take him. This may include using toys to open you up.

Problems with taking a man's cock is mostly the top not doing the ground work.
 

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Depending on partner I usually take time to prepare myself by wearing a plug or opening myself up a little with different sized dildos. This way the foreplay doesn't last forever and less pain is involved even with a bigger cock. However well one is prepared as bottom doesn't rule out that the top might be an asshat wanting to inflict pain but preparation (beforehand) or as stated in many replies above with the other person and starting out slowly is key.
 
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I don't know if I was been too tense, but days ago I did my first hook up in half a year with a 18 cm cock and it hurts like hell. I barely enjoyed it during the whole time. It was painful.
Biggest dick I had inside me was 9x6. Beforehand, I had a couple of martinis and a glass of wine to relax and loosen me up. Also, the tip of his cock was fairly tapered, so it eased in fairly easily.

Now, I'd had other cocks that were smaller, but thicker in one way or another, and they were a bit painful at first.

I think it boils down to relaxing first, and also doing some preparation. Like, if you know you are going to have a big dick in you, use a dildo first before sex- at your own pace. Also, a good top will loosen you up, especially if they are hung. Rimming, fingers, foreplay.. all that works.
 

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the phrase "big cock" is deceiving; i have had long thin cocks as well as long thick cocks and almost always get further with a thin one than a thick one. The thin guys always(imho) seem to know how to use their blessing whereas the thick guys just want to tear a new one and get off! an over simplification but has been my experience.
Regardless of girth or length the only way to enjoy is for an extensive period of foreplay and prep. I love when we take our time and play before getting speared.
 

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Agree with most of the advice here.

As a rule of thumb I use a dildo every day in the shower or a small plug for a while if I’m working from home or whatever. It feels good, and also keeps my hole used to stretching easily - I kind of think about it the same way as I do working out at the gym. I do crunches, lift etc every other day for lots of reasons... one of which is “avoid incapacitating soreness” LOL. You’re literally just working out another muscle.

As for sex prep - the keys for me are relaxation and lube. If I have time before, like a quick shower or whatever, I give myself a few pumps with the dildo or at least a finger or 2 etc - same stuff guys above have suggested. It also REALLY helps if the top is into rimming, fingering etc. But not all of them are.

Regardless, generous lube on the cock and my hole, plus concentrating on relaxing when he goes in makes a huge difference.

Keep in mind it takes some practice to learn how to relax - you’d think it should be easy, but it’s not (until you figure out how to do it, after which it’s super easy and trust/know that you WILL figure it out and start loving the fuck out of it). Even if you think you’re “ready” your body - specifically your hole - is likely going to tense up slightly in anticipation. That’s what you have to zero in on, not letting that happen. It’s akin to getting a shot at the doctor, or better yet when you’re getting an eye exam and they do that puff of air thing. You know this isn’t going to hurt (really), and you know it will be quick, but notice how your body tenses up anyway in anticipation? That’s the same kind of reflex at work.

So understanding what your body is doing and why goes a long way to getting control of it and makes the process not as stressful. Because you realize “oh wait, there’s nothing wrong with me, this is just reflexes that I can learn to control.” That confidence will go a long way.