Honey, you awake?

[JustAboveAverage]

Me and my girlfriend recently started our sexual adventure, and it's just heaven. To me at least. Neither of us have that much sexual experience, but when we're having sex, I don't really get any response from her. She's just lying there with big eyes, looking at me.
I'm not saying she should wake the neighbors screaming everytime, but at least some moaning or anything.
At first I thought my penis was too small (bet you read that before), but after reading a post here about average penises, I, to my joy, discovered I'm slightly above average with about 17 cm. (don't measure in inches, but would be around 6.80 i guess).
My question I guess is why? I know I should proberly confront her with it, but that's really something i want to avoid, this early at least. We often do different positions (doggy, etc) and with same results.
I'm 19 years old, and my girlfriend is 17 (it's legal here :tongue, and any help would be appreciated. How can i make her moan?

 

[Xii]

Just talk to her for god sake! geez, sorry to be so forward but why don't you start by telling her you'd like to hear some noises, that it'd be fun to get a bit loud, or just ask her gently if there's any reason behind her not making noises. Also remember that not all women are porn stars, and that we do not all react like them either. There's no rule that says if a woman is enjoying sex she has to moan.

my 2 cents , and all the best

 

[Gillette]

Do you make any sounds yourself?
Best way to lead is by example.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Make it part of the game to ask her what she wants..harder, faster, deeper etc.
Stop doing what you THINK you should be going and pay attention to what she wants you to be doing..it is that easy

 

[Heather LouAnna]

Find the clit.

 

[chrysler fanatic]

Just remenber that at seventeen years old this kind of stuff can be intimidating. I went through exactly the same thing with my girl. What I discovered:

1) She has to be totally comfortable. Most girls don't get loud when they're afraid someone might here them. There is an embarrasment factor with women, especially young ones; its your job to take her away to a place where she feels totally relaxed ( I mean this in the emotional/mental sense, you don't have to actually GO somewhere).

2) My girl spends most of her sex time biting her lower lip. She makes no noise, but the reaction is proportionate. If your girl enjoys it she will have a "tell" like in poker. When you see it instantly start talking to her and when she answers you will hear what you're looking for in her voice.

3) After a while I just told my girl that I would like a more consistent audible reaction. I demonstrated it by having her blow me, and I just bit my lip instead of my usual reaction. She said, "Okay, that IS really boring."



Give her time, and above all, reassure her that you care. And if you don't care then you shouldn't be having sex anyway.

 

[JustAboveAverage]

Thanks for all the replies.

Just talk to her for god sake! geez, sorry to be so forward but why don't you start by telling her you'd like to hear some noises, that it'd be fun to get a bit loud, or just ask her gently if there's any reason behind her not making noises. Also remember that not all women are porn stars, and that we do not all react like them either. There's no rule that says if a woman is enjoying sex she has to moan.

my 2 cents , and all the best

The obvious solution, thing is, I'm kinda shy, and the relationsship is relatively new, and don't want it to look like it's just sex.

Do you make any sounds yourself?
Best way to lead is by example.

Yeah, I'm moaning quite a bit. Both due to pleasure, and I rarely exercise.

Make it part of the game to ask her what she wants..harder, faster, deeper etc.
Stop doing what you THINK you should be going and pay attention to what she wants you to be doing..it is that easy

Now we're getting somewhere. But again, I'm kinda shy, so it's hard for me to simply ask those things

Find the clit.

The what? (kidding)

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Hmm.. Give personal experiences. What did you enjoy when your sexlife was pretty new?

 

[Gillette]

Great response, CF.

P.S. Welcome to LPSG, JAA.

 

[JustAboveAverage]

Just remenber that at seventeen years old this kind of stuff can be intimidating. I went through exactly the same thing with my girl. What I discovered:

1) She has to be totally comfortable. Most girls don't get loud when they're afraid someone might here them. There is an embarrasment factor with women, especially young ones; its your job to take her away to a place where she feels totally relaxed ( I mean this in the emotional/mental sense, you don't have to actually GO somewhere).

2) My girl spends most of her sex time biting her lower lip. She makes no noise, but the reaction is proportionate. If your girl enjoys it she will have a "tell" like in poker. When you see it instantly start talking to her and when she answers you will hear what you're looking for in her voice.

3) After a while I just told my girl that I would like a more consistent audible reaction. I demonstrated it by having her blow me, and I just bit my lip instead of my usual reaction. She said, "Okay, that IS really boring."



Give her time, and above all, reassure her that you care. And if you don't care then you shouldn't be having sex anyway.

Extremely helpful reply, thanks alot

And thanks for welcoming me

 

[wonderland]

If she is relatively inexperienced she may be shy or unsure about how she should react. Many women at that age are not in touch with their sexuality. Or maybe she is just the quiet type. Give her some time.

 

[transformer_99]

Personally, I don't want the moaner or screamer myself, I prefer they coo, similar to the noise a dove makes. You can pretty much hear that in her breathing patterns during intercourse. The wide open eyes, to me, means she's gotta be terrified, that would be uncomfortable for me to see that expression on her face. Another gauge, when you're done having sex, if she's not a cuddler and she rolls over and withdraws completely from any intimacy, that could be a sign that it wasn't a pleasant experience for her ?

Like others have indicated, @ 17, she really may not know what she's doing, not that @ 19, some/many men know either ? Maybe just the quiet type too ?

 

[cowbop]

Make her come first, you know, go down on her until she does. Then tease her with it as you have sex, don't just dive in and do the same over and over. Don't fully penetrate until the bells (yours) are about to ring.

If you do all this and she's still quiet, she is just that way and don't worry too much about it...you're still having fun! :biggrin1:

 

[JustAboveAverage]

It's about bedtime, and i have a plan. I was a bit surprised that she might not feel totally safe with me, none the less, it's still an option. I'm writing this in a haste will she's taking a shower. I think I'll cuddle alot more than i usually do, and lick her some more. Try showing her, that pleasing her, pleases me.

Anyway, I'll update tomorrow how it went.

 

[Mumzi]

Just remenber that at seventeen years old this kind of stuff can be intimidating. I went through exactly the same thing with my girl. What I discovered:

1) She has to be totally comfortable. Most girls don't get loud when they're afraid someone might here them. There is an embarrasment factor with women, especially young ones; its your job to take her away to a place where she feels totally relaxed ( I mean this in the emotional/mental sense, you don't have to actually GO somewhere).

2) My girl spends most of her sex time biting her lower lip. She makes no noise, but the reaction is proportionate. If your girl enjoys it she will have a "tell" like in poker. When you see it instantly start talking to her and when she answers you will hear what you're looking for in her voice.

3) After a while I just told my girl that I would like a more consistent audible reaction. I demonstrated it by having her blow me, and I just bit my lip instead of my usual reaction. She said, "Okay, that IS really boring."



Give her time, and above all, reassure her that you care. And if you don't care then you shouldn't be having sex anyway.

Good ideas here. She is young, she is new at this, give it time and don't pressure here. If you do she will only feel more uncomfortable.
I was probably the same at that age. Raised catholic, mother talking about reputation, and not at all comfortable with sex, just curious.

I'd only has 2 partners before I meet my hubby and he was amazingly patient.
His patience made all the difference.

Give it time, it will happen naturally. Allow her to become comfortable with you, with the relationship and with her body, with her sexuality.

 

[socoken]

yeah, just be patient. When my gf and i started, she was the same way. i just kept at her and 4 years later, i cant keep her quiet.

 

[Gisella]

Good ideas here. She is young, she is new at this, give it time and don't pressure here. If you do she will only feel more uncomfortable.
I was probably the same at that age. Raised catholic, mother talking about reputation, and not at all comfortable with sex, just curious.

I'd only has 2 partners before I meet my hubby and he was amazingly patient.
His patience made all the difference.

Give it time, it will happen naturally. Allow her to become comfortable with you, with the relationship and with her body, with her sexuality.

Yeh, I do agree...

And do not pressure her, let her find her own personal and unique expressions..people are different and she is young still making her own discoveries...give a 'safe' place for her to feel confy enough to let it go and you too relax.:wink:

:smile:

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

Also it may have something to do with where you are having sex and her concerns about someone walking in or knowing/hearing what she is doing..

And dont expect she is going to start screaming like a crazed porn star...To be honest not all sex is good and you should appreciate a little moan rather than a fake scream.

Let her know she can be comfortable with you and you want her to relax, enjoy herself and let her gaurd down and she will in due time.....she is only young and probably is still shy & awkward, but good luck and be patient with her

 

[JustAboveAverage]

So, last night i tried to slow things down. We spend alot more time cuddling than usual, ad i think she really enjoyed it. I did too, actually.
After alot of cuddling, i went down on her, and stayed down there for quite some time. And.. I was kinda stunned what she said, cause she's like a really shy type, like me. "I want you inside me". The sex was great, and I'm starting to lean towards the theory, that she just doesn't make noice in bed, which is ok. The thing i was afraid of, was that she didn't enjoy it, since there were no noices. But slowing things down really helped.

 

[D_Kay_Sarah_Sarah]

As long as she has a orgasm/cum's then you are doing fine

Plain and simple..not all women are screamers or porn stars.

Glad to hear things went better this time