Hooking up frustration

[dfw051980]

Is it me or is hooking up become the most frustrating and pain in the butt thing in gay culture now lol.

Like the amount of time it takes to actually get someone to commit to hooking up its like i could have jerked off twice. And this ghosting once you get to the point of exchanging info is really BS.

Also this thing about people not wanting to mutually get off is not what im into. Like today all i really wanted was oral sex off but i also want to suck cock as well as get sucked. Every guy once i mention i wanna suck them blows me off (not literally lol) cause they wanna get used by all these dudes throughout the day without coming. I mean yah i like my dick but i like to service dick too.
I know if i was into the par*y scene i wouldnt have a problem, but im not (and no judgement towards those of you who are).
But honestly hooking up nowadays is more or less a waste of time.

 

[LPSG Simon]

Apps have always been bullshit this way.

I think it's because they exist in the zone between getting to know people and being totally anonymous, and it just takes down the likelihood for success.

IMO if people are looking to date, they should join a club and meet people with the same interests. If they're looking for sure-thing NSA, there's better luck at the baths.

 

[dfw051980]

Apps have always been bullshit this way.

I think it's because they exist in the zone between getting to know people and being totally anonymous, and it just takes down the likelihood for success.

IMO if people are looking to date, they should join a club and meet people with the same interests. If they're looking for sure-thing NSA, there's better luck at the baths.

yah ive been tempted to start going to the local "Spa" as i know its really popular... but although ive had really good encounters there its not really my thing.

 

[Brodie888]

yah ive been tempted to start going to the local "Spa" as i know its really popular... but although ive had really good encounters there its not really my thing.

I don't think spas would be any different. They still want to be fucked by as many as they can before cumming with the last for the night. The gay version of pass the parcel.

To be fair, that's one of the perks of being a bottom, though some tops play the same game too which makes it the gay version of a Mexican stand-off.

 

[bigmanmikey444]

i agree apps are so ??? to many game players.. easier to watch some porn an jo

 

[merc41]

I belong to a male masterbation group. Great.fun and lots of side hook ups

 

[BigAl9]

I am very much aware of what the OP is referring to. There have been so many times when after chatting for a rather lengthy time the other man simply stops communicating.
I have also had individuals who said that they were "on the way." Even posted "20 minutes away", "10 minutes away", and quess what 15 to 20 minutes later still has not shown up. There is so much BS. So many players. So many younger ones who think that it is a game.