A married man hit me up on Reddit after I posted something on the Ask Gay Bros subreddit. We sent a few chats there now we're talking on Kik. He says he is bi-curious and just looking for sex, nothing more. I'm a virgin and he's never done anything with a man before. I'm 18, he's 36. His wife doesn't no and he doesn't plan on telling her. Should I sleep with him? I've only seen a picture of his face and he's pretty attractive, and honestly the thought of someone local being interested in me really turns me on.
What do you guys think?
Here's my 2 cents for what it's worth.
Disclaimer: I don't claim to have the answers. I do have a wealth of life experience. And my thoughts are offered with you, first and foremost, in mind.
Losing ones virginity should/will be memorable. And I'd hope that such memory would be as positive as possible. But that's up to you. You need to decide if this is what you want your first time to be.
You say he's "pretty attractive". What happens if he lied? You do meet and he's not the person he represented online; he doesn't look like his picture? Like he's not 36 but 50 something. And/or he weighs 50 pounds more than the picture. Cuz that happens everyday on dating sites. Sadly, some people are not always who they represent themselves to be. And not just on dating sites!
Whatever you ultimately choose to do, I do hope you've given serious thought and consideration to protecting yourself. Can't be too safe these days, especially meeting up with someone anonymous.
Like first meet in a public place. Gives you the chance to politely decline should you choose. And if that's what you decide, stick to that decision. IF the guy is sincere, he should not only understand that, but respect it. Not everyone who meets on-line will necessarily "click" in person.
Make sure someone you know knows where and with whom you will be. Make sure you are fully educated about safe sex. Make sure you have condoms. And insist on their use. Have you looked into Prep? If you can't answer affirmative to all these, then I'd suggest you need to do more research and learning before you decide to have sex.
While the idea of your first time may be grounded in some fantasy, I'm not sure this is the person to whom you want to "give up" your virginity. Maybe look for someone closer to you in age and get to know them in person?
You have many years ahead of you. You are 1/2 the age of your potential paramour. That just gives me cause for pause. Perhaps meeting someone in person and developing an attraction that could lead you to enjoying your first gay sex? I'd hate for you to "settle" for your first time.
I'd like to leave you with this one last thought: Perhaps you might want to really think through and consider if this 36-year old curious married guy is indeed the right person at the right time for your first time. Because honestly, I don't.
Regardless, I wish you the best. Be smart. And safe!
