Hooking up.

[sangheili90]

She randomly followed me but she was randomly following people who went to my college. She said she had just happened to see me and liked what she saw. We talked and were flirting and then we got to the point of talking about hooking up. She could be real idk

That sounds suspicious but like I said, just tell her to take a selfie with something that can verify she is for real. Middle finger, holding a piece of paper with your name on it, etc. That or she is crazy lol.

 

[sangheili90]

I've never met such a man.

IRL I am unapproachable.

That's your problem, guys that want to actually broaden their opportunities for meeting women and go for what they actually want do this. I used to think I was "bothering" them but I stopped giving AF because I knew if I didn't do this I'd never meet anyone.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

That's your problem, guys that want to actually broaden their opportunities for meeting women and go for what they actually want do this. I used to think I was "bothering" them but I stopped giving AF because I knew if I didn't do this I'd never meet anyone.

I prefer being unapproachable IRL. That's why I'm saying that there really are hot real people on the internet for, whatever their reasons, would rather find someone (or 2) on the internet. And that's ok. He's gotten tons of great information on how to play safe. Your suggestion of a "personalized" photo is great.... one I've used myself.

But nudes within first 10 mins on IG is rather fast.... whooooah.

 

[sangheili90]

I prefer being unapproachable IRL. That's why I'm saying that there really are hot real people on the internet for, whatever their reasons, would rather find someone (or 2) on the internet. And that's ok. He's gotten tons of great information on how to play safe. Your suggestion of a "personalized" photo is great.... one I've used myself.

But nudes within first 10 mins on IG is rather fast.... whooooah.

The point is that this completely random person decided to follow him on Instagram, they had absolutely no connection in the slightest and she is looking to hook up with him and is sending nudes. I'm sure anyone can see where I'm going with this.

I'm sure there are attractive women that use online dating sites and all that, but for the most part they wont have to rely on them and they sure as hell would not be doing anything mentioned above.

 

[swingfun]

She is VERY easy though. Got nudes in the first 10 mins of talking

Not always a good thing.

 

[sangheili90]

I prefer being unapproachable IRL. That's why I'm saying that there really are hot real people on the internet for, whatever their reasons, would rather find someone (or 2) on the internet. And that's ok. He's gotten tons of great information on how to play safe. Your suggestion of a "personalized" photo is great.... one I've used myself.

But nudes within first 10 mins on IG is rather fast.... whooooah.

And in addition to this he mentioned that this individual has been going around following random people from the college he went to.

 

[693987]

She is VERY easy though. Got nudes in the first 10 mins of talking

Keep in mind that sangheili has the experience and sample size of literally one single romantic/sexual encounter to base what he's saying off of. During which he didn't use safe sex practices, in spite of an incredibly low opinion of women who are single mothers.

Some of the advice he has given is pretty reasonable, but he doesn't have much real world experience to base it off of (if you look at his very extensive post history). I would suggest taking tips from him with a more than the usual grain of salt, compared to any other information found and/or given online

 

[wnjcwjkk]

Keep in mind that sangheili has the experience and sample size of literally one single romantic/sexual encounter to base what he's saying off of. During which he didn't use safe sex practices, in spite of an incredibly low opinion of women who are single mothers.

Some of the advice he has given is pretty reasonable, but he doesn't have much real world experience to base it off of (if you look at his very extensive post history). I would suggest taking tips from him with a more than the usual grain of salt, compared to any other information found and/or given online

To be fair, "Catfishing" is extremely common. I've known multiple people who were talking to somebody online and I hated to tell them, but I could tell right off the bat that the chick in the photo wasn't who they were talking to.


Just being honest and realistic, at this exact moment, a big majority of hot girls on the Internet that guys are talking to, without having ever met, are Catfish. It's a really common thing. People enjoy living a fantasy life online.

I've even been messaged a few times on here by really hot girls with no Verification Photo (I've also seen a few Verification Photos on here, where it looked like the screen name had been Photoshopped into the picture).


There are usually some easy signs to pick up on, if you're looking for it. Not to sound shallow, but you have to really be self aware about whether your level of attractiveness (both physically, and the way that you present yourself online) is on par with the person you're talking to. And also if your own profile has enough information or personality to it, that it seems reasonable that an attractive female would be interested, based just on that.


Having said that, I have known very quality girls who are a bit quiet or shy (my type), who have talked about having done online dating, and I thought "Holy shit, if I knew there were girls like you on there, I need to sign up!"

Idk about just messaging random guys who they've never met. I'd definitely be cautiously optimistic, at best, in that scenario. I've been hit up before, out of nowhere, on Facebook, by a girl who I hadn't seen since Middle School. She had a crush on me back then, and I guess just thought about me one day and decided to give it a shot. Lol, turned out to be having an affair on her boyfriend with me, unbeknownst to me, but still, that kinda thing can happen.


There are definitely easy ways to prove they are who they say

 

[wnjcwjkk]

She is VERY easy though. Got nudes in the first 10 mins of talking

That's probably not a good indicator that she is real

She had her period started today. Kinda fishy but I won't cut her off

Also not a good indicator


Not trying to be a Negative Nancy, just telling you to exercise caution.

 

[wnjcwjkk]

Watched this doc on HBO the other night, called Tickled.

This woman, named like Tina Tickle, who runs a little Tickle business and has a Tickling website, gets in touch with young guys and pays them to get tied up or tie each other up in their underwear or workout clothes, and tickle the shit out of each other.

Basically, it's pushed as one of those weird internet competitions, like the ice water challenge or saltine cracker challenge.

Or, as a very mild, harmless dominatrix fetish thing. But, she pays them well, gets all their information, gets the videos.

Then, when a guy tries to move on with his life, she starts badgering them, bombarding them with Emails threatening that if they don't do her bidding, she will message every single person they know that they are on a gay porn fetish website. Basically causing chaos in their lives. One guy was a soccer coach and lost his job.


Turns out, it wasn't a woman at all. Some sicko, fucking asshole, rich trust fund guy with a Tickling fetish, and a domination fetish who likes to control people's lives.

Point is, it made me really think about how you really never know who you're talking to, or what they want out of you, and they could be looking to use anything against you.

So always find out who you're talking to, meet them in a safe location, and be careful what you send to them and what information you give.

 

[693987]

Oh, I'm all for caution, just like my first post said. Meet somewhere public, let someone know where you'll be and when, I even had someone check in on me by text and I would respond with a specific word or phrase to let them know all was well. That being said, some women (and not just the fat unattractive ones ) do choose to meet people through the internet/etc. And it isn't necessarily out of any sort of desperation.

Edited to add: people outside of the internet aren't always what they say either, so in general being more cautious is prudent

 

[sangheili90]

To be fair, "Catfishing" is extremely common. I've known multiple people who were talking to somebody online and I hated to tell them, but I could tell right off the bat that the chick in the photo wasn't who they were talking to.


Just being honest and realistic, at this exact moment, a big majority of hot girls on the Internet that guys are talking to, without having ever met, are Catfish. It's a really common thing. People enjoy living a fantasy life online.

I've even been messaged a few times on here by really hot girls with no Verification Photo (I've also seen a few Verification Photos on here, where it looked like the screen name had been Photoshopped into the picture).


There are usually some easy signs to pick up on, if you're looking for it. Not to sound shallow, but you have to really be self aware about whether your level of attractiveness (both physically, and the way that you present yourself online) is on par with the person you're talking to. And also if your own profile has enough information or personality to it, that it seems reasonable that an attractive female would be interested, based just on that.


Having said that, I have known very quality girls who are a bit quiet or shy (my type), who have talked about having done online dating, and I thought "Holy shit, if I knew there were girls like you on there, I need to sign up!"

Idk about just messaging random guys who they've never met. I'd definitely be cautiously optimistic, at best, in that scenario. I've been hit up before, out of nowhere, on Facebook, by a girl who I hadn't seen since Middle School. She had a crush on me back then, and I guess just thought about me one day and decided to give it a shot. Lol, turned out to be having an affair on her boyfriend with me, unbeknownst to me, but still, that kinda thing can happen.


There are definitely easy ways to prove they are who they say

Good post, man.

Catfishing is extremely common on the internet but it is also very easy to determine if someone is for real or not. Regardless of how attractive the woman in the photo may be, women aren't going to message a complete stranger on social media, meaning they no have no mutual friends, don't go to the same school, etc. The only exception would be on a dating site or a site like this.

In your case it made since why you were hit up on facebook, it was some girl you knew from way back in middle school, definitely not a total stranger. In the OP's case it is a totally random person, very weird.

 

[sangheili90]

Watched this doc on HBO the other night, called Tickled.

This woman, named like Tina Tickle, who runs a little Tickle business and has a Tickling website, gets in touch with young guys and pays them to get tied up or tie each other up in their underwear or workout clothes, and tickle the shit out of each other.

Basically, it's pushed as one of those weird internet competitions, like the ice water challenge or saltine cracker challenge.

Or, as a very mild, harmless dominatrix fetish thing. But, she pays them well, gets all their information, gets the videos.

Then, when a guy tries to move on with his life, she starts badgering them, bombarding them with Emails threatening that if they don't do her bidding, she will message every single person they know that they are on a gay porn fetish website. Basically causing chaos in their lives. One guy was a soccer coach and lost his job.


Turns out, it wasn't a woman at all. Some sicko, fucking asshole, rich trust fund guy with a Tickling fetish, and a domination fetish who likes to control people's lives.

Point is, it made me really think about how you really never know who you're talking to, or what they want out of you, and they could be looking to use anything against you.

So always find out who you're talking to, meet them in a safe location, and be careful what you send to them and what information you give.

The reason why these people catfish are infinite, but I think a lot of them just enjoy the attention and/or don't have anyone to talk to. Some are definitely manipulative, others just want nudes, etc. Regardless, normal people don't do stuff like this and you'd be far better off without having such an individual in your life.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

In today's age of technology there's no reason to meet a person cold. Ask for a cam session. To see the face and entire body. If they balk, pass.

It's too easy today to identify the catfish before you meet in person. Pix alone mean nothing. Most sane people understand this.

 

[insert_8]

She is VERY easy though. Got nudes in the first 10 mins of talking

She may actually be who she says she is (or maybe not) but I'd suggest you get a better handle on what she's after.

Nude pics after 10 minutes of online chat? AT BEST this sounds like somebody who mainly wants a random session of no attachment, no commitment, sex - sort of masturbating with a live penis. At worst, she's trying to get you involved with something you'd rather not do.

 

[deleted817718]

Try treating her with dignity and respect like you should every human being.

 

[curtdude]

If she is that easy to fu k you how many more has she done this with . You know when you screw her you are screwing the other dude she had had sex with what ever they had you will get wrap upnyour monster be careful

 

[sangheili90]

@Greg18

Any updates on this?

 

[1070670]

Talking on and off.. don't really think its getting any where

 

[sangheili90]

Talking on and off.. don't really think its getting any where

You should have asked her to confirm if she was for real or not, don't even waste any more of your time on this.

This should be a great learning experience for you, the people you'll want to actually meet and possibly get into relationships with will be found outside, not on your computer or some app on your phone. As a guy it can be tough and approaching totally random women can be intimidating but it is worth it, just be prepared for rejection and or those who you really hit it off with already being in a relationship.