Hookup apps?

What are your go-to apps?

  • Grindr

    Votes: 27 75.0%
  • Scruff

    Votes: 19 52.8%
  • Daddy Hunt

    Votes: 1 2.8%
  • Hornet

    Votes: 1 2.8%
  • Surge

    Votes: 1 2.8%
  • Hole

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Grizzly

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • BRO

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Squirt/GuySpy

    Votes: 4 11.1%
  • Gaydar

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Total voters
    36
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I’m interested to know what hookup apps guys here are using? If yours is not listed, post it below.

If you don’t use any at all.... write a huge, moralizing, superior rant about anyone that does and how your so much better than the rest of us... then delete it and move along, ‘cos it’s the superior thing to do :)
 

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Grindr, Scruff, Jack'd, Surge, Growlr, Hornet, Adam4Adam, BoyAhoy, Chappy, Manhunt, Daddyhunt, Recon, FetLife... they all have their pluses and minuses.

I travel a lot and have learned that they vary widely by city. I'm a very "Scruff" kind of guy -- bearish and bearded -- yet Scruff is not so great for me in SF. But in New York and DC it's always quite busy. Grindr in SF for me goes in waves -- it'll be productive for a couple of months, then nothing for a few months. Growlr for me is terrible in SF, but much better in other cities. Grindr and Jack'd are great in many cities in Europe, and Scruff is good in big cities most everywhere. Surge too is great in major US cities but useless everywhere else. And they have their crowds and types. Grindr in SF is very mixed, but very twink heavy. Jack'd is very Asian in SF, but very African-American in NYC. Hornet is very Asian on the US east coast, but very mixed on the west coast.

Also, I do pay for the apps for a month or two once in a while. I've never understood why someone will go spend $25/week on Starbucks, but balk at $9.99 for a month of better dick hunting. For me living in downtown SF, I need pay so that I can see more than the first 100 closest guys -- the first 3 screens are all people in my own damn apartment building! Sometimes you do get what you pay for.

If an app isn't working for you, try another one. Try them all. Try back on ones you haven't tried in a few months -- the population on them changes frequently sometimes. Consider paying for an app occasionally, you might find that it shows you more guys than you knew were there. And use the tools like filters, blocking, etc., to help sort through your feed if you're not seeing what interests you. If you're too cheap to pay, then the 100 (or however many) needs to be focused and well-curated.

And don't forget the "dating" apps... Tinder, OKCupid, etc. Yes, you find lots of people looking for LTRs, but many are open to something more casual in the meantime.

There's a gay comedian named Joel Kim Booster, check out some of his comedy on YouTube. He has one routine where he refers to a bunch of the apps and refers to being on all of them as "checking his traps." It's pretty funny, but also insightful. You have to be on all of them, you never know when something's going to fall into your trap.

Finally, you have to be realistic and strategic about the apps. There's a lot of assholes on there, so I don't put up with any crap. I'm liberal with my blocking. Not my type? Block. Profile sounds like a drama queen? Block. Can't keep up a conversation? Block. Won't share a picture? Block. The end result is that my feed is a lot more focused and I have to do a lot less scrolling. And if you're only viewing those closest, once you block a bunch, the circle widens.
 
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Thanks for the responses so far guys!

Hubby and I are on Grindr and Squirt when we are looking for a third. We’ve had a fair bit of success, but also wondering how prevalent the other apps are.

Living wasaay up North, the population and selection is pretty limited anyway we shake it.
 

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I use A4A .... I found that using this App have made realize what race of men are in my area. I would say 90% of the men in my area are black on A4A. Which is cool with men. I tend to lean to the endowed man but do enjoy enjoy the average guy. The sad thing is that many of the endowed guys feel they have to be compensated for the opportunity to play with them....:(
 
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I use A4A .... I found that using this App have made realize what race of men are in my area. I would say 90% of the men in my area are black on A4A. Which is cool with men. I tend to lean to the endowed man but do enjoy enjoy the average guy. The sad thing is that many of the endowed guys feel they have to be compensated for the opportunity to play with them....:(
Dude I know EXACTLY how you feel. This Pay 2 Play is getting old. Yes it's really fun to enjoy a very well endowed guy but to make it seem like I'm paying a bill? If I'm gonna just give money like that, mind as well go to a strip club or something. When they reply with "Generous?" I immediately block em. I really enjoy giving head so why would I pay like $60 for like a few minutes? That's the price of a brand new game lol
 

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I've noticed that when I travel to different areas of the country, the apps vary in popularity. Where I live, adam4adam and Grindr seem to be more popular. Scruff and Growlr have a few men, but they aren't as active on those apps. Jack'd gets maybe 1 or 2 guys locally, the other guys are too far away.
 

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I've had fun with jack'd but for the most part it's these 5K+ miles away random spam guys that be getting on my nerves. That app is full of Jack'd-asses as of late. My local ppl SUCK and the ones I can connect with are hundreds of miles away. I haven't deleted my profile but I DID uninstall it. Maybe I'll try again later.
 
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Dude I know EXACTLY how you feel. This Pay 2 Play is getting old. Yes it's really fun to enjoy a very well endowed guy but to make it seem like I'm paying a bill? If I'm gonna just give money like that, mind as well go to a strip club or something. When they reply with "Generous?" I immediately block em. I really enjoy giving head so why would I pay like $60 for like a few minutes? That's the price of a brand new game lol

It is ridiculous that they think this is ok on a hook up app.... I see nothing wrong with Paying for a good time. I have been able to tell a few of them, that if this is the route they choose to do. Then they should become Escorts. They would come back with, " Well Im not an Escort".. I would tell them Yes, you are, because you want to be compensated for your time. I should know because I am one myself... but I use the Apps on occasion for my own fun... they are surprised....LOL
 
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Don't use Hornet. It absolutely sucks. They don't make everyone play by the same rules. You can see photo after photo of a certain type. When you upload the same kind of photo you get flagged for it with absolutely no explanation to know how to do it differently next time. Plus they allow enormous mountains of spam messages. As an app it's just a huge, stinking mess of hypocritical mods and spam.
 
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