Hookup sex VS relationship sex

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I'm in a relationship with three subs. They know what I like and serve very well. They are into it all and get off on it all too. With hookups, new pussy is always fun, but somtimes it doesn't fit well, they aren't as into it rough as they claim on tinder or whatever. So I love to fuck new women but sometimes its crap. Well trained women are sometimes better tbh.
 

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Is one better than the other?
I love being in a committed relationship, as love is a factor in lovemaking and sexual connection. You get to know exactly what turns each other on, which enhances the sex.

However, hookup sex can be just as fun in its own way. When you don't really know the person (yet) or if you will ever get together again, it can be liberating to freely express yourself sexually. In between relationships, I've been lucky enough to have some sexual encounters that were truly memorable, and lots of fun
 

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are we talking FWB sex or one night stand hookup?

for me FWB sex is the best because there is no commitment you don't have to stay for breakfast or go out on the next day you have your way with each other weather it be passionate or hard core fucking and you leave if you want no commitment
as long as before you start the FWB relationship you each know It is just sex
 
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Is one better than the other?
Define "better", only because I think that term is often strategically nebulous to appeal to subjective tastes as opposed to objective review.
To me, hookup sex is more exciting, usually. Relationship sex is more consistent(ideally). There are opposing metrics of each that prevent me from making a decision as to what I think is better, but I guess the choice of marriage implies I was more willing to deal with the consequences of the latter than to opt for the benefits of the former.
 

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I would put things in these categories:

Hookup Sex
  • Hookups and anonymous sex
  • 1 night stands
  • Fuck buddies
Relationship Sex
  • Girlfriend/Boyfriend
  • Any type of committed relationship with 1 or more people
  • Friends With Benefits
I make the distinction between fuck buddies and friends with benefits as I truly believe there is that difference - friendship, which is a relationship. My past FWB relationship was truly a friendship, but we just so happened to love fucking each other. We were not dating or "romantic" but any time she and I got together to do anything (as friends) more often than not, sex was part of our time together.
 

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Hookup sex has its drawbacks, as in her pussy might not be as fresh and a turnon as I hoped to where I wouldn't even want to insert my fingers in there. That's happened to me, but if we're talking ideal situations, then relationship sex is better. You know each others likes and want to satisfy your gf/bf. Hookup sex can be hot as in 2 or more horny people fucking each others brains out, but usually it's your own satisfactions you want to get out of it, as opposed to truly wanting to please your partner/partners because you love them. I get a lot of satisfaction pleasing others sexually and seeing them shake from big orgasms, so I take an interest in my hookup sex girls' pleasure, yet at times was just interested in my own.
 
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Neither is the same but can have similar out comes.

What you’re calling hookup sex I would call a FUCK. There are no strings attached and sometime no unwanted guilt or holding back if you were. She will get nasty sometimes where she might not in a relationship.

But relationship SEX I call Making Love there is just nothing like it. It is based on trust and comfort with each other. You can explore NEW things within that comfort. Although not the same intensity or freedom maybe as a FUCK with Making Love it is so much more than just physical or pleasure although that is the end objective. I also have a FUCK with my lover from time to time it is just different.

A FUCK may not be about time more down and dirty where as Making Love can be all day as it comes in waves or plateaus, more sensual, more intimate.
 

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there's pros and cons to both, and sometimes for the same reason. Relationship sex is funner because there's more kissing and foreplay. Transactional sex though is great because there's not as much kissing and foreplay. I suppose it depends on mood. Transactional is great because it's exciting to be with someone new and mysterious. Relationship sex is great because you can depend on its reliability and familiarity.

Relationship sex is nice because you'll wake up next to the person in the morning and that's a huge plus, and probably get to have sex again in the morning, which is an even bigger plus. And you get to cook them breakfast and you know that they like your cooking.

Transactional sex feels emotionally safer for me, of course. It's nice to feel like there's less consequences and trust issues present. But I tend to have trust issues in relationships and hook-ups are a great vacation from that. It's relieving to have sex with someone who you know can't hurt you in a deep way. There's no hidden agendas and you can trust that you and the other want the same thing from each other. That's probably to biggest plus for hook-ups.

So I really don't know what's better. It depends on what mood I'm in and where I'm at in my life. Overall though, in my life, I guess I would say hook-up sex has been better for me.
 

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I am 100$ from the relationship but know that the hook-up is what most people are doing nowadays. I like to have a person I can feel like knows me and is there no matter what happens and since the hook-up will not be that .....But hookups are a backup if you say or do something they don't like and break it off.
 
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