I hope that those last couple of posts didn’t make me come off trans-phobic. I am inherently pan-sexual (though I don’t mind being viewed as “gay”). But anyone who pays attention to Nikita knows what a mess she is. Just a more attractive version of Jeffree Star. While there are plenty of males obsessed with "straight"/DL/closeted/overall hetero-leaning guys and plenty of males with money constantly looking for those types of guys to take care of. So, it's not merely a trans thing.
I'm just too aware of the many different things that motivate people's behaviors and identities, the realities of fluidity, and how varied the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, emotional, relationship spectrum is. That leaves not caring all that much about identity and make s me confused why we still make a big deal about it. Personally, if I'm attracted to you and we have chemistry and you seem genuine and genuinely interested in me I don't care about identity. But a lot of people still use their identities and the identities of others to quell insecurities, for socio-political purposes and/or for fetishistic purposes. And it’s tiresome.