Hot guys with little dicks

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Elijah_MorganWood, Jan 13, 2006.

  1. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    Earlier when I was churning up Dean Cain pics for a thread in Celeb Endowments, I thought of my own Dean Cain, a very cute Latino muscle stud who looked an awful lot like Mr. Cain. My muscle stud had a dick the size of my thumb. I was so sprung over him it mostly didn't matter. He was the first guy to go "all the way in", thankfully he was small enough to do it. The one time I tried previously, the guy was hung like a horse and I only got the head in...but I digress. I figured he must compensate in some way. After a while, I thought maybe he was just a nice, well adjusted guy. WRONG! He was a closet size queen cock whore!!! He had been sneaking pics of my cock when I was changing for the beach, getting out of the shower, etc. I also found out he had a photo album of hundreds, possibly thousands of cocks he'd snapped photos of first hand.

    Do nice looking guys with really small dicks compensate for it in some way? Have you met any well adjusted ones? I'm not talking a little small, I'm talking tiny. Discuss.
     
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    I think it's a bit of a myth that guys with tiny cocks necessarily compensate. Certainly some do, if the size of their cock is an issue to them - because they have been conditioned by society to believe that they are somehow 'lacking' and thus need to compensate.

    On the other hand, other tiny-dicked dudes are perfectly happy with their equipment and just get on and enjoy it without feeling the weight of size-oriented society upon their shoulders at all.

    My ex was a little under 3" and sexually, he had no hang-ups (there's a pun in there somewhere, but I'm stifling it)... in fact, if I hadn't fucked up the relationship, I would never have left him. But now I get to be a dramatic pining queen, so every dark cloud has a sparkly lining.

    This was about the third guy I had been with in the 3" department (I know, I'm like a magnet :rolleyes:), and all of them seemed completely happy with their equipment, and never once asked "is it big enough for you?" --- only guys with average or above-average length dicks have ever asked me that; and they had clearly fallen victim to the belief that not-having-more means there's something wrong with you. *sigh*
     
  3. DC_DEEP

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    Cute Sorcerer, sorry you had a "jerk experience." But please know this: for a moment, put aside any thoughts of the genitalia, and realize that people - male, female, cute, ugly, fat, thin, rich, poor, whatever - run the spectrum of personalities. Some are jerks, some are not. Now, re-attach the penis to the image... dick size does not affect the personality, the brain does. I used to attract more than my fair share of jerks, but I realized that I was looking in the wrong places for the wrong types of people for the wrong reasons. There are lots of great men out there, with dicks of all sizes.
     
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    I hate to poop on the party of equality that I usually support, but I think the social impact would be impossible to ignore. How could a man with an extremely small penis NOT be affected by what he knows people will think? Yes, a broad minded person would be able to adjust and go on with their life, but that's really asking quite a lot. How many flat chested women run right out there and get the biggest boob job they can talk their doctor into doing? Plenty of women with perfectly nice tits get bigger ones too. It's no surprise that men who are under average feel the pressure to "measure up" and could easily become obsessed, knowing they are really left with no options to do anything about it, yet.

    When implants become a more practical option, I think we'll see lines out the door at the cosmetic surgeon's office.

    To answer the question, I've found some smaller guys to be downright mean-spirited, kind of making their fear of rejection a self-fulfilling prophecy. They get to think they've been rejected for the dick and pine away about that when it's more often because they treat women like shit and don't develop their sexual skills like a man with more confidence will do.

    Also, it must be clearly noted that the actual size of the dick doesn't matter at all, it's the man's PERCEPTION of his dick that will influence his behavior.
    I'd bet every dollar george bush ever stole that you could blame the vast majority of violence against women on men's insecurity about their penis.
     
  5. AndrewEndowed24

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    Well, it certainly wouldn't explain Tommy Lee.

    Violence against women has been male habit from times before we developed the intellectual sophistication to become obsessed with our penises... I'm actually slightly offended that people tend associate antisocial male behavior with some sort of sexual malady. One senses a desire on the part of females to ground their sexual preferences in, or at least prove them consistent with, our morality. As if bad men must also be bad sexual partners. Obviously when fully thought out this makes no sense, in fact the opposite may be true. But as a mere half-notion, unanalyzed it seems more plausible. I don't go in for psychology, even behaviorism, but recent findings show that men with an abundance of confidence are much more likely to be violent. The pathological tend to have rather high opinions of themselves. In the end, claims that attempt to couch certain forms of in a particular aspect of the male anatomy tends to say more about the preoccupation of the claimer than about well, anything. I mean, men are concerned with their penises but strife between men and women be more deeply rooted. I would also note that if people can manage to convince themselves that penis size has quite a bit to do with domestic strife, it leads to the conclusion that men are the sole causes of it. Obviously males hold the culpability for the actual crime but before Madame Zora's erudite observations, one could say that the female had at least some role in driving him to do it (not that that in anyway justifies it, but it is better than pretending that it comes from a fantasy source, rather than the result of genuine enmity towards another). There is a desire to make hideous crimes the works not of mankind, but of some other source. Madame Zora has replaced "the devil made me do it" with "me winky told me so". The semi-freudian sexual explanation is a way of hiding from the fact that vice seems to be a consequence of ordinary human activity, not of some deviation from it, human minds don't need any perverse obsessions to be capable of evil, they need only follow their nature unthinkingly. We need not go searching in the fantasy lands of pop psychology to find the reasons for abuse. If most abuse is the result of penis size, why stop at physical abuse, why not say that the majority of occassions in which males grow angered at females is the result of penis size? Where does it end? The fact is that men and women have always tended infuriate each other and the amount of physical abuse is about what one would expect there to be given the amount of tension inherent in relationships and human history being what it is. The truth is actually rather boring most of the time.
     
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    Wow, that wasn't boring.

    It was my opinion, I stated it as such. Even after that rather eloquent refuttal, I stand behind it.
     
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    I haven't seen any studies saying this, and it makes no sense on its face. Not saying it isn't true cuz I don't know. But common sense would say that a self confident guy would have no need to whip up on a woman, or anyone else. There is a difference between confidence and fake cockiness. The bullies I encountered growing up were in bad situations at home and weren't terribly attractive. And none would rate high on the intellegence scale. I know a couple who are now in jail. :tongue: They seemed confident and in control, but they were not.

    I can recall two guys that I was with that I would term small. 4". So not tiny but small. One felt the need on our first date to reveal that fact in conversation. So there did seem to be some insecurity there and he wanted to "warn" me. The second was one of the hottest dudes I've ever been with. He was uncontrollably horny, which became infectious. He knew he looked good and was a porn star in bed, so the size didn't matter. Didn't matter to me either. Won't go into details, but it was a VERY long night.

    My best friend is quite large, and you'll never meet a sweeter guy on the planet. However, I've found a very slight correlation between dick size and being an asshole overall. In the opposite sense maybe that some have found. Big cock = dickhead slightly more often than small cock = dickhead.
    Maybe its different for gay versus straight. Dunno.

    Shit. Its thundering outside. In January! Gotta go before the PC goes kaboom. :eek:
     
  8. AndrewEndowed24

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    Self-esteem refers to these people's perceptions of their value, it does not speak to there actual value. That may explain why they seemed confident, for I have found that self delusion knows no bounds. Within the field of psychology there has been a somewhat uncorroborated assumption that self-esteem is the solution to both social and personal problems. Its popularity stems largely from the fact that it is appealing for obvious reasons. You can solve your problems by being happy as opposed to say, solving your problems so you can be happy. The first rigorous tests of self-esteem's effect on performance happened in education, with very dissapointing results. They found that, surprise surprise, self-esteem is correllated to sucess because sucess often results in it, not vice versa Recently many psychologists have been coming out of the wood work and deriding the self-esteem movement. Self-esteem has a significant place, however it is not the panacea which it was once thought to be. Think of Raskilinov, who believes he has the right to kill. My contention is that it is more commonsensical to suppose that someone who has a high opinion of himself, in relation to others around him, would think of their rights and emotions as less important than his own and act accordingly, sometimes violently. (eg. us unilateral military pursuits ). Only after indoctrination to the self esteem movement do we think it odd that someone with high self esteem would behave poorly. Those who have a good lot in life may also be smart enough to recognize that it is fruitless to engage in certain forms of bullying, like the sort you experienced from those who have had quite a hard time. However, if we study corporate america we might see that, when it is 'worth their while', many of those who life has been kind to will behave ruthlessly. Some might say that the sort of self-esteem which leads one to crime and violence surely isn't real self-esteem. I have a certain amount of respect for this view, but i don't consider it a rigorous one, it stems from an assumption about the sorts of things that a person who really thought highly of themselves would do. I think that insecurity may play some role in violence, but not as large a role as once was thought. Thanks for reading such a long post. The studies i referred to linking violence to self esteem were cited in the Stanford public policy magazine, Social Innovation Review i believe it is called.
     
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    I find that almost comical. Self esteem in the true sense is not bruised ego. If you insist on redefining the words, then there is no way to argue the point. I'll stick to the dictionary, which gives me "An attitude of acceptance and respect toward oneself, manifested by personal recognition of one's abilities and achievements and an acknowledgement and acceptance of one's limitations". What YOU are referring to is an ego shattered goon who uses power to manipulate others while engendering an inflated perception of self, which is NOT self-esteem. To this end, we are arguing on the same side of the coin, except for our definitions.

    I even agree that achievement drives self-esteem, not the reverse. This is exactly WHY I assert that those who don't feel they are "endowed", whatever that means to THEM are likely to harbour resentment which plays out in anger against persepctive partners and the self-fulfilling prophecies of rejection. Yeah, pop-psychology Freudian bullshit, but it's shocking how often human motivations are really exactly that simple. Remember, I clearly stated that it wasn't dependant on their size, but how they felt about their size, two different things entirely.
     
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    One of my hottest lovers had a really tiny dick. He could ride me and cum without touching himself from anal stimulation alone. *HOT*!! The size of his dick was not at issue at all. He seemed perfectly secure, and loved my bigger one, which made it all even sweeter.
     
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    To clarify, no part of my most recent reply was meant as a response to Madame Zora's statements. i am happy to clarify my position now. i don't understand why people insist on calling it a bruised ego. Why should an angry man have not merely be a rageful Achileos, aware that he is the greatest warrior of the Acheans and thus his sense of outrage at having been slighted was proportionally greater than the other warriors who were forced to pay tribute to Agamemnon. Obviously few are actually Achilleses but mutatis mutande, we can see microcosms of that situation in ordinary events. Accept that it is an assumption to believe that someone who thinks well of themselves understands their position in relation to the whole perfectly well. Let me put it this way, to paraphrase JS Mill: simply because there is a word denoting a concept does not mean it there is something corresponding to that concept in reality. That is, your form of self-esteem is a fantasy that is peculiarly appealing to Americans. It stems from "all men are created equal". The idea that to truly sense your own worth is to sense all other's worth as well and also that in sensing other's worth one will come up with positive findings. I won't bother arguing with your experiences, but i don't think you are looking at a complete picture of the situation. Perhaps the answer is some sort of synthesis of my view and yours, (and i don't say this because i like patching up disagreements, i do quite enjoy polemics). For example, a man who believed he had no right to happiness, or considered himself otherwise valueless, would have no motivation for growing pissy when confronted with an obstacle to that happiness.
    I know that when i am depressed i tend to shrink from the world rather than assert myself. My seretonin is down. I don't have the will to stop dropping at 32 feet per second squared down into the trash can. The more pleased i am with my situation, the more willing i am to assert myself. Evolutionarily speaking this makes sense because it allows for 'winners' to be more easily identified. However, one hardly grows angry and aggressive without some sort of provocation, often a threat to securit. The greater one's sense of one's right to happiness and security the more drastic one's response is likely to be. That is, with certain particulars like intelligence taken into account, the intelligent tend to avoid physical bullying because of obvious consequences. They also tend to find solace in abstractions like universal equality. Also, i will use the definition of esteem the Stanford team used, which, rather than being a platitude, asked people to give an honest and confidential assement of their value and ability in various areas. Your experience with the underhung may be result from a view that they are so important that you have no right to stand in the way of their happiness by denying yourself to them. No one, even with healthy self esteem would be pleased with that situation, yet one require a certain amount of confidence to really put there foot down and the force with which they do it is related to there sense of their own rights and worth. Remember, the sexual aspect of their lives is not the only aspect, they may derive a their confidence from other areas. I should also clarify that self-esteem as defined by one's perception of his worth can be artificially doctored, as in the public school experiments. Self esteem is related to performance but it can be found in many other ways as well. the only thing the public school tests proved was that it does not cause performance.
     
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    There was a fellow that used to work out at a gym I belonged to that might fit this mold. He was very handsome. And, despite being maybe 5' 4", he had the best body that I have ever seen in person. This was in no small part to the fact that he was an absolute warrior in the gym.

    Getting back to the point - he also had one of the tiniest flaccid penises I have ever seen. Literally no bigger than the tip of my first finger.

    One time another guy dressing near me nodded toward him and said "No wonder he works out so hard."

    I had no real relationship with this guy other than a few odd comments as we made our way through the workouts, but I can't help by think that the combination of being short and having a tiny penis drove him to get as buff as he was.
     
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    You could be talking about my boyfriend
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    Rope beat me to it with a similar post. It is obvious to anyone who has ever watched a bodybuilding contest that the contestants wear bikinis which are so tiny that they could not possibly contain the penis of most members of this board, much less their nuts. A buff young guy can be an object of beauty, but in my opinion, the ones who overdo it are compensating for the small size of their penis.
     
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    You're less risk-averse than I am, then, because there is no way in hell that I would ever risk a fortune of that magnitude.
     
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    That's a pretty silly opinion to have, don't you think?
     
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    yes, i had a long-term boyfriend who was both very hot and on the smaller side of average in the trouserial department.

    yes, he was also an emotionally abusive, sociopathic basket-case (with hindsight, i'm also pretty sure he was straight).

    :shrug:
     
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    Oi vey, this could be a can of worms, but here goes. I have a friend who is currently researching social psychology and male empowerment, specifically as it pertains to black men. He's fascinating to talk to because he has backed up from the issue and is able to look at it clinically. The main problem with our perceptions is that we are confused about "equality". We hear echoes of "All men were created equal" and we think it's true, just because some guy said it! Well, it ain't. Some are fat, bald, rich, stupid, heroic, insightful, timid, hung, scared- very different, and in that sense INEQUAL. What our government documents were trying to infer was equal OPPORTUNITIES under the law, it was making no comment on our individual assets or deterrants. Are short men more likely to have ego issues? Yes. Do all short men have ego issues, no of course not! It's just that, statistically, the percentages are higher, which leads psychology to look for reasons why. A socioligist is not charged with the duty of considering an individual's worth, he is only looking at numbers, so he gets opportunities that nice guys walking down the street don't get. Do more black men commit crimes? yes. Do all black men commit crimes? No, of course not. Sociololgy only looks at what IS, psychology looks at why it is.

    Answers to any of the questions that plague mankind will always be bio-psycho-social. To ignore any part of that is to have a diminished understanding of what is going on around you. We are not born tabula-rasa with no genetic influences. We are certainly not free from social stygmas attatched to our differences. It's just reality folks, nice place to visit sometimes.
     
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