I agree mainly with Madame Z.
To ask anyone to just "ignore" the weight of society is asking too much, and to say that anyone who is inferior in societies eyes is completely happy with themselves is stretching the truth to the extreme.
The sheer crushing weight and power of society on how we think and view ourselves and act, is going to leave a lasting impression on anyone who doesn't "measure up", and even if they arent running around snapping picks of big cocks and keeping them squirrelled away somewhere I'm willing to be that at the very least it hurts them when they lay awake at night that they are inadequate in societies' eyes.
Now I must confess my own inadequacy to use it as an example - I am really not very good looking. I have a huge (apart from another thing) nose, which makes me look like I don't know what - something with a rediculous nose anyhow. The point is, that no matter how broad minded I am, no matter how hard I try, I cannot ignore what is as plain as well, the nose on my face, and I cannot ignore the looks I get, and I cannot ignore the comments or the insults or the crushing brutalitity of my fellow man, yes, even you who moved away from me on the bus, I cannot ignore you! I cannot just "be happy with it", I cannot just "ignore societies judgement" I cannot do these things, because of just how deep the wound runs when society is so utterly turned against you, when people who you were quite comfortable around suddenly turn around and suggest that you "get a nose job on the NHS". Do you know just how absolutly soul destroying that is?
This doesnt mean I let it rule my life, I don't have the time of day for people who are obsessed with how I look (or how I'm supposed to look, or even how they look), and anyone who insults me is going to face my return comment (I have been described as having a tounge so sharp I could cut myself with it), but I simply cannot ignore it or be happy with how I look nor who I am when I simply do not meet societies standards, and is it so suprising when I am so harshly judged because of my looks that I am in a constant battle with depressive anxiety?
Now, thats with something as silly as an over-sized nose.
When the male ego is so hopelessly entangled in the need for a gigantic shlong, how the hell is somebody with a small one supposed to ever be "completely happy with themselves". Somewhere, deep down, I bet it hurts - it's just that some will show it more than others.