Stursberg said:I have worked with a therapist on my size issues
As a former mental health professional, I find this extremely offensive. You can't paint us all with that wide of a brush.rope9839 said:I'd watch this. In my experience people who go into psychology or other therapy are often more screwed up than the population as a whole. I was in therapy awhile back, but found that I soured on it due to the fact that my therapist (a women) really seemed to be getting into anything remotely sexual. It was kind of creepy, even though I had a clear feeling that she would do me if I made even the slightest move in that direction.
Snakebyte said:good to hear :biggrin1:
but tastes differ and that was the problem once or twice in the past. I'm gaining weight at the moment but not that much. I have 143 lbs on 5'9" and want to have around 155.
Pappy said:What are you doing to gain weight?? I've tried everything and can't keep it on. At 109pounds and 5'10" I look like a stick with a dick.
madame_zora said:Sound like my dream guy. Are you SURE you're gay? :biggrin1:
Sorcerer, you know Rope has a point. While many of us go into psychology to learn about the mind, the majority (in my opinion) go into it to try to figure out their own problems, however subconsciously this decision may be. I'd advise anybody seeking help not to be afraid to interview your prospective therapist, or several, before deciding to put your mental well being in their hands. LOTS of fucked up therapists out there, I've seen a couple. I've also had some spectacular help from some as well, just be careful.
Pappy said:What are you doing to gain weight?? I've tried everything and can't keep it on. At 109pounds and 5'10" I look like a stick with a dick.
Sorcerer said:I agree wholeheartedly that you should take care in selecting a therapist/counselor. Rope was "soured" on therapy due to an experience with one therapist. In the process of college leading up to a career in mental health, you can't help but really learn about yourself. It changes you forever. I DO think people SOMETIMES get into the field for selfish reasons and in some cases...such as the facilities I worked in...sometimes it was hard to tell the clients from the staff. Therapy is awesome with one caveat:
choose wisely.
I found that I got too attached to the results. On my worst days I tried to "save" people. That simply can't be done. I wasn't perfect but I did my best. I'd like to think I helped a lot of people help themselves. For the record, I quit because the $$$ didn't support my desired lifestyle in Southern California. Mental health professonals don't all rake in the dough, contrary to popular belief.
treechopper said:well..my father always had a saying " wee men like to climb high montains" i guess the sorty about the small guy in the gym backs that up. no doubt i will bring wrath upon me here but cant work with them either, always some sort of chip on the shoulder. is there a link between small dick and height obsession?
After 2 years in the field I was completely burned out. I faced the choice between taking a nice long vacation or finding another career. Since I couldn't afford to take a vacation, I got a new career. Thank God. I sat in that closed room listening to people complain and I actually like it most of the time. It made me appreciate my own quality of life. I worked with adolescents. I worked in an adult facility for a few months and it was awful.madame_zora said:Okay, so you're not a slut- you're a WHORE! Doesn't matter, you're perfect just as you are.
I never finished my degree, I dropped out in my senior year. Still, you don't unlearn things just because you don't have the degree to show how you spent your time. When I seriously considered the prospect of having to sit in a closed room and listen to people complain, many of whom would not be willing to invest much effort in their own well being, I really couldn't take it. On many levels, I am the wrong person for that job. I find the subject fascinating, but have no desire to become a clinical psychologist. Now, research would be great, but I've lost the drive to do the whole school thing.
Just like any doctor or professional in any field, we too often put our trust in people who don't really deserve it.
Snakebyte said:Eating warm meal at least twice a day. Eating in the late evening. Eating at least 5 times a day. It's slow but it works.
My weight maybe indicates that I am not too skinny but think about muscles having twice the weight as fat and now I tell you that I have only 14% body-fat.
Maybe now you can imagine how fucking skinny I am. :biggrin1:
It isn't fair. I can watch one of those food shows on the Food Channel and gain weight. I can diet and lose some weight and just one big Christmas dinner and 5 pounds are added to my weight. Very frustrating.Pappy said:I eat all the time, pretty much anything I want that's not loaded with fat, sugar or cholesterol. Some nights I'll get up in the night and get a snack. Last time I had it checked my body fat was like 5%. It's not a family thing as my siblings are average weight and will gain weight if they over eat. It really irritates them that I eat all the time and don't gain weight. I've tried the protien shakes and all the weight gain products but seems as nothing helps. My doctors told me not to worry about it. That I should be happy that I don't have any weight issues. Just once I'd like to shop and find clothes that fit without have them altered.
Pappy said:I eat all the time, pretty much anything I want that's not loaded with fat, sugar or cholesterol. Some nights I'll get up in the night and get a snack. Last time I had it checked my body fat was like 5%.
I AM the guy you're talking about. masculine, reasonably attractive, athletic and very small dick. it has affected almost every aspect of my life. I'll reveal more if anyone's interested.
I hate to poop on the party of equality that I usually support, but I think the social impact would be impossible to ignore. How could a man with an extremely small penis NOT be affected by what he knows people will think? Yes, a broad minded person would be able to adjust and go on with their life, but that's really asking quite a lot. How many flat chested women run right out there and get the biggest boob job they can talk their doctor into doing? Plenty of women with perfectly nice tits get bigger ones too. It's no surprise that men who are under average feel the pressure to "measure up" and could easily become obsessed, knowing they are really left with no options to do anything about it, yet.
When implants become a more practical option, I think we'll see lines out the door at the cosmetic surgeon's office.
To answer the question, I've found some smaller guys to be downright mean-spirited, kind of making their fear of rejection a self-fulfilling prophecy. They get to think they've been rejected for the dick and pine away about that when it's more often because they treat women like shit and don't develop their sexual skills like a man with more confidence will do.
Also, it must be clearly noted that the actual size of the dick doesn't matter at all, it's the man's PERCEPTION of his dick that will influence his behavior.
I'd bet every dollar george bush ever stole that you could blame the vast majority of violence against women on men's insecurity about their penis.
I AM the guy you're talking about. masculine, reasonably attractive, athletic and very small dick. it has affected almost every aspect of my life. I'll reveal more if anyone's interested.