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[43698]

Hit her up and be a little more forward with her. She probally thinks that you are not interested in fucking her. You need to be coy here work the game on her. Do not lie to her and do not lie to yourself. Let her know you think that she is sexy and maybe tell her that you have always wanted to experience the treasures an older woman has to offer.

 

[B_crackoff]

Well the 1st thing that comes to mind when an attractive older lady shows interest in you is that she wants to use you for sex. I think thats pretty much ingrained in our minds with the whole "cougar" phenomenon these days.

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I went though lots of women in their late 30's, 40's & even 50's in my teens.

It's not a new phenomenom. It's always happened!

Trust me, she'd get a power kick at first, then become over anxious/insanely jealous. It happened every time.

Dear God man! The only reason a woman that age wants a relationship with a younger man is to f*ck her all night long! You can add the other emotional stuff later, but that's her sh*t, not yours - she's had her time - she will move on:smile:

Jeez, stop being so scared - just get it over with, then you'll find that it was nothing to be worried about.

 

[shyyguy123]

Bump. I randomly hit her up and hung out with her again after not seeing her for a couple months. She asked me why I didn't contact her during that time and I said I texted her to see if she wanted to hang out and she never responded. She told me she never got that text. We didn't have sex this time either but I was pretty touchy...

I texted her again today asking her to hang out and she never responded yet again lol. Dunno if she just didn't get the text again or if she just ignored it. I would call her but she hates talking on the phone. Ughhh maybe shes turned off by the fact that I didn't make a strong enough move towards sex again...

I am my own worst enemy!!

 

[D_Bussbye Bushsticker]

Call her to check she got the text.

Worst case, can't you chat on instant messenger...?!

 

[billybob112]

Give her a call stop the texting not everyone knows how to text, and she obviously is looking for a fuck so get it in already and stop wasting time. But when you are about to fuck make sure at that moment you tell her you are a virgin maybe so she will understand or you can play it off as you know what you are doing. the ball is in your court now

 

[shyyguy123]

Crazy delayed update:

Been talking to her for about a year. Only chilled with her 6-7 times though. She rarely ever gets out of her house and says she says she doesn't like people in general so it's like a mission to try and get her to actually hang out with me. I think she thinks people are constantly judging her because she's an older woman with a playboy type body so she avoids social interaction. (Funny how she feels like she has to maintain an amazing body but doesn't like people looking at it).

She has said that she likes me and hopes that I'm willing to invest time in her. Which is ironic because it's so incredibly difficult to ever get her to wanna hang out. I'll go literally a month or two without hanging out with her (but texting that whole time). I'd love to try and get to know her but she makes it impossible.

We haven't had sex, but we tried last time we hung out which was like a week and a 1/2 ago. I got nervous and couldn't get it up (2nd time it's happened with a girl) so I'm still a virgin. :frown1:

I think it's a serious issue and I can't handle missing any more opportunities to have sex, it would tear me up. So I went to the doc and talked to him and he gave me cialis. Hopefully I'll see her soon and she'll be willing to try again with my cialis!

Another issue is that she recently rented out a sister-in-law house that's connected to hers, to one of her young pool guys. I know he brings his friends over a lot and use her pool without permission (which she says she doesn't like and feels like she has to "babysit" them). But I definitely get kinda jealous that I know shes hanging around young guys a lot at her house. And I know for sure they think shes hot and probably hit on her all the time.

She swears she hasn't had sex in a 5 and 1/2 years and wants me to be the 1st since then. But it's pretty hard to believe her. Especially with the young guys around a lot and the fact that she could probably have sex with any guy she wants.

Anyway just wanted to update with my random thoughts. I doubt anyone cares but maybe it's a entertaining read at the least? If you've got any advice or opinions I'd love to hear them.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

Crazy delayed update:

Been talking to her for about a year. Only chilled with her 6-7 times though. She rarely ever gets out of her house and says she says she doesn't like people in general so it's like a mission to try and get her to actually hang out with me. I think she thinks people are constantly judging her because she's an older woman with a playboy type body so she avoids social interaction. (Funny how she feels like she has to maintain an amazing body but doesn't like people looking at it).

She has said that she likes me and hopes that I'm willing to invest time in her. Which is ironic because it's so incredibly difficult to ever get her to wanna hang out. I'll go literally a month or two without hanging out with her (but texting that whole time). I'd love to try and get to know her but she makes it impossible.

We haven't had sex, but we tried last time we hung out which was like a week and a 1/2 ago. I got nervous and couldn't get it up (2nd time it's happened with a girl) so I'm still a virgin. :frown1:

I think it's a serious issue and I can't handle missing any more opportunities to have sex, it would tear me up. So I went to the doc and talked to him and he gave me cialis. Hopefully I'll see her soon and she'll be willing to try again with my cialis!

Another issue is that she recently rented out a sister-in-law house that's connected to hers, to one of her young pool guys. I know he brings his friends over a lot and use her pool without permission (which she says she doesn't like and feels like she has to "babysit" them). But I definitely get kinda jealous that I know shes hanging around young guys a lot at her house. And I know for sure they think shes hot and probably hit on her all the time.

She swears she hasn't had sex in a 5 and 1/2 years and wants me to be the 1st since then. But it's pretty hard to believe her. Especially with the young guys around a lot and the fact that she could probably have sex with any guy she wants.

Anyway just wanted to update with my random thoughts. I doubt anyone cares but maybe it's a entertaining read at the least? If you've got any advice or opinions I'd love to hear them.

dude, move on ... she's not into you

 

[shyyguy123]

You very well might be right, and I definitely think that sometimes.

Do you say that because I've only hung out with her like 7 times over a whole year?

Why would she tell me multiple times that she really likes me and hopes I'm willing to invest time in her??

 

[Stretch]

I doubt anyone cares

Bingo!!!

maybe it's a entertaining read at the least?

Not even close

If you've got any opinions I'd love to hear them.

This puerile thread is the equivalent of watching grass grow or paint dry. It's inane, juvenile, made up and complete bullshit. I hope you loved hearing my opinion.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

You very well might be right, and I definitely think that sometimes.

Do you say that because I've only hung out with her like 7 times over a whole year?

Why would she tell me multiple times that she really likes me and hopes I'm willing to invest time in her??

yes that is part of it ... also because in a course of a year you "attempted" to have sex once ... and also because she goes a month with out even speaking to you ... anyone who likes you will at least attempt to talk to you, hell i know people who don't like me who talk to me more than once a month ...
quick question, of all the times you two hung out/talked on the phone etc., who is the one initiating the contact?

and she wants you to "invest time" with her so she won't have to ... she is using you man ... i wouldn't be surprised if she has a rotation of guys she is seeing and you're just the 12th man (basketball term) who she might toss a bone ("attempt" to have sex) when everyone else is out of town or when she feels bad for basically playing you ... she knows you always be there and she will use you when she wants ...

in her eyes you are probably as attractive as a chaise, yeah they are always there, not as appealing as a bed, and not as useful as a chair, but its good to have one to make me feel good when i sit on it every once in a while

 

[Incocknito]

You should have hollowed her insides out by now from all the fucking. And I wouldn't trust her story about the guys living in her house (or next to it, whatever). She's fucking them or something is going on.

Still, if I was in your situation I may just fuck her to say I have, and try out her experienced body.

 

[shyyguy123]

This puerile thread is the equivalent of watching grass grow or paint dry. It's inane, juvenile, made up and complete bullshit. I hope you loved hearing my opinion.

You are welcome to your own opinion. Unfortunately it's all true. Not sure why any guy would want to lie about anything I've said in this thread. I very much struggle with social anxiety and because of it I have a lot of these adventures with women because I'm very passive.

yes that is part of it ... also because in a course of a year you "attempted" to have sex once ... and also because she goes a month with out even speaking to you ... anyone who likes you will at least attempt to talk to you, hell i know people who don't like me who talk to me more than once a month ...
quick question, of all the times you two hung out/talked on the phone etc., who is the one initiating the contact?

No no we talk all the time. If I go more than a day without texting her she'll hit me up seeing if I'm okay. She initiates just as much as I do. It's the seeing her in person part that can go a month without happening. Obviously I do find that sketchy. It seems like she likes the idea of me more than the actual me...

It does cross my mind all the time that she's probably fucking other guys or just using me. But she does have legit agoraphobia/social anxiety issues so that makes me think she might be telling the truth also. I don't know what to think.

I'm not in love with her or anything. I told her I didn't want to jump into a relationship the first time she told me she really liked me. Maybe that's why she's so hesitant of me? But I would certainly like to hang out with her and get to know her, I'm not just out to fuck her then never see her again, which she has expressed concern about.

Overall I really don't know what to think.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Be spontaneous. Tell her you MUST see her. Tell her you've been thinking about her pleasure all day, and driving yourself crazy. Then ask her what her pleasure would be. Ask her what would make her smile and moan the way she does in your dreams. Go to her house, and make fulfilling her fantasies your priority. She will not figure out that you are so inexperienced, and if she already knows, she will be all the more impressed. At her age, she likely knows what she likes, and would be an excellent first teacher for you. If she won't fuck you within a week of your declaration, obviously allowing for familial and occupational responsibilities, dump her. She's not looking for the same thing you're looking for, which is repeat performances of casual sex.

 

[shyyguy123]

If she won't fuck you within a week of your declaration, obviously allowing for familial and occupational responsibilities, dump her.

We tried to have sex last time. I had 1st time performance anxiety and couldn't get it up. Who knows if I get another chance (with her). :frown1:

 

[AlteredEgo]

We tried to have sex last time. I had 1st time performance anxiety and couldn't get it up. Who knows if I get another chance (with her). :frown1:

I'm telling you to create your chance. Tell you you want her. Make the opportunity happen. If she's not up for it, move on. You have to get over your fear of hearing the word no. You get a "no"? Remind your self: Some will, some won't, so what? NEXT! And you move on. If your agenda is to have an ongoing, casually sexual relationship, have one. Do not make excuses for people not getting with your program. They get with your program, or you take your program elsewhere. And why is she the only woman you're talking to? If you are not looking for a girlfriend, but rather more of a fuck buddy, then you need to see at least two women at a time to make sure everyone remembers what to do with their emotions (you included). Do not worry about any one woman disapproving. Find women on the same page as you.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

No no we talk all the time. If I go more than a day without texting her she'll hit me up seeing if I'm okay. She initiates just as much as I do. It's the seeing her in person part that can go a month without happening. Obviously I do find that sketchy. It seems like she likes the idea of me more than the actual me...

It does cross my mind all the time that she's probably fucking other guys or just using me. But she does have legit agoraphobia/social anxiety issues so that makes me think she might be telling the truth also. I don't know what to think.

I'm not in love with her or anything. I told her I didn't want to jump into a relationship the first time she told me she really liked me. Maybe that's why she's so hesitant of me? But I would certainly like to hang out with her and get to know her, I'm not just out to fuck her then never see her again, which she has expressed concern about.

Overall I really don't know what to think.

ok thats even worse that you talk aaaalllll the time ... she knows you are interested in her, and trust me, she knows that you are in it for a long hall so she will keep toying with you until something changes

and i dont know the girl, but i think her whole anxiety deal is bs .. if that were a factor for you two not hanging out or for you to be intimate, why would she kiss you at the bar when she barely knew you? idk about her, but the people i know who have anxiety problems dont go out and hook up with random guys/girls ... and if it wasn't why would it take almost a year for you to do anything again? and even if she does have all these mental issues, don't you think that is a red flag for a LTR?

i think you should pull back from this girl a bit, let her initiate the convo's and take it from there, make a date for you to go out, and tell her to tag along with you, don't not go out because some girl says she wont come with you ... eventually you will meet new women and forget about her, or she will want to hang out more

 

[TheIrishStallion]

I believe I already told the story about me being stalked by a girl in high school earlier in another thread. She was a creeper.

I guess as long as you don't do anything creepy, you're fine.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

We tried to have sex last time. I had 1st time performance anxiety and couldn't get it up. Who knows if I get another chance (with her). :frown1:

you need to start talking to other women dude, she is playing you like a nintendo

 

[shyyguy123]

No worries dude. I've gone out with multiple women since I've been talking to her. Just the last month or so I haven't so I guess I've started to care too much since I didn't have anyone else to hit up. I'll stop hitting her up and let her hit me up while I meet new women.

I'm not convinced she's playing me. I'm the one who told her I didn't want a relationship. I had the chance to have sex with her but it was my fault it didn't happen. Those things don't really add up to me being used IMO.

I mean I certainly wouldn't mind getting to know her better, but she makes that impossible. I think it's just me mainly stressing about missing yet another opportunity to lose my virginity. That shit tears me up.

 

[mrmazman]

Bingo!!!



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