Hey guys, I need some advice. I have this hot neighbor that’s straight and has a long term gf that’s gone most nights. How would I proceed to see if he’s open to doing anything? When I say he’s straight, I mean he’s a beefy CrossFit coach who is hot and has the hot body to match. Do you think there’s even a chance or anything and no I’m not single (I love with my s/o).
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Does he watch sports? Does he have a particular hobby? Is there something he likes doing in his spare time that his significant other doesn’t share with him?
Ask to hang out sometime that you both will have time without any significant others, and watch something he enjoys. Bring drinks that he likes, and just be a total buddy. Then watch for any clues as he talks, and openings in conversation. Don’t force anything! Also realize this could take several meetings for anything to happen. Also, nothing could ever happen. Be prepared for that. That’s more likely the case.
Ask to hang out sometime that you both will have time without any significant others, and watch something he enjoys. Bring drinks that he likes, and just be a total buddy. Then watch for any clues as he talks, and openings in conversation. Don’t force anything! Also realize this could take several meetings for anything to happen. Also, nothing could ever happen. Be prepared for that. That’s more likely the case.
This is the way. Respect for all parties is key and nothing will likely come of it but the best way to get to know someone is by getting involved in shared interests.
Chances of success are low. Why even go there when there are so many gay fish in the sea?
At most, invite them BOTH over for BBQs on a regular basis with some of your friends and just hope to be good friends first.
At most, invite them BOTH over for BBQs on a regular basis with some of your friends and just hope to be good friends first.
That’s what I’ve been doing. She’s not very social but he is and he’ll ask me to dog sit when they go out of town. If nothing happened then I can at least say that I managed to build a friendship with him
To start hanging out, I've been moderately successful with something like "cooking too much" of something and giving them a plate of something good. This 1) is a natural conversation starter and creates a reason for them to interact with you since they have to return the plate which opens you up to talk to them or invite them into your house for a bit so they get comfortable and 2) tells you about what kind of people they are since a good neighbor will return your plate.
What I usually do is make something good for them, when they return the plate, invite them to hangout with friends on a shared interest, try to expand on shared interests during the hangout, make noncommittal plans with them, give it a week or 2 and then ask them for help or to borrow something (make it quick), follow up on the noncommital plans after a few days. As you can probably guess, this takes a lot of time since if you come on too strong, you will just be an annoying neighbor.
I wouldn't consider myself friends with my neighbors but we do get along and help each other out 1-2 times a month. This is how I got them to help replace our fence after years of asking.
What I usually do is make something good for them, when they return the plate, invite them to hangout with friends on a shared interest, try to expand on shared interests during the hangout, make noncommittal plans with them, give it a week or 2 and then ask them for help or to borrow something (make it quick), follow up on the noncommital plans after a few days. As you can probably guess, this takes a lot of time since if you come on too strong, you will just be an annoying neighbor.
I wouldn't consider myself friends with my neighbors but we do get along and help each other out 1-2 times a month. This is how I got them to help replace our fence after years of asking.
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