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Nope, can't say that I have. If their partner is mean, stupid, or something along those lines? Yes, that changes how I perceive the person. Their partner not being up to my individual standard of physical attraction? That doesn't really have any bearing on anything to me.
 

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Ever had a crush on someone, then seen how ugly their partner is, only to downgrade how hot you think they are?
Ugliness by association? Is that really a thing?

I can say that, in some cases, a great gap in perceived physical attractiveness has made me wonder what the more attractive partner has found to be so special about the less attractive partner. It has piqued my curiosity, in other words, rather than lowering my estimation of the attractiveness of the more attractive partner.
 

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I recently saw this guy at the beach with the most beautiful physique I've seen, 6'3ish+ripped with an 8 pack and with his boxer swim trunks you could easily tell he was packing!
He had incredible green eyes basically he looked like a supermodel.
He walks right past me and gave a friendly smile and he even had perfect teeth.
He goes and lays down next to this woman who probably weighed at least 300lbs and he kisses her and I thought to myself there is really someone for everyone. The bikini girls prancing around trying to get his attention failed as his women had him captivated.
 

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Nope, can't say that I have. If their partner is mean, stupid, or something along those lines? Yes, that changes how I perceive the person. Their partner not being up to my individual standard of physical attraction? That doesn't really have any bearing on anything to me.

Same, I would upgrade the guy/girl’s hotness factor! Because that proves to me that they aren’t superficial and shallow.
 

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My buddy is incredibly handsome. He married so below himself. His last love ditched him. I think he married this person thinking they won’t leave him. The new spouse doesn’t treat him well. Hate that.
 
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Ever had a crush on someone, then seen how ugly their partner is, only to downgrade how hot you think they are?

Absolutely not. On the contrary, their choice in a less than stunning partner strongly suggests that they aren't shallow and concerned with things like physical appearance in others.

In my book, that bumps up their desirability.
 
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He goes and lays down next to this woman who probably weighed at least 300lbs and he kisses her and I thought to myself there is really someone for everyone.

It's also possible that she suffered from a medical condition leading to weight gain and he, being a committed partner who recognizes the real value in her, still adores & supports her for who she is. The bikini-clad prancers don't stand a chance.
 
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Personally, I don't give a crap. She didn't want me... her loss. I saw her with a number of different men after that and it wasn't all that impressive. As they say, I guess I was in love with who I wanted her to be and not who she actually was.
 
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I don’t think a partner’s physical appearance has any bearing on how I view anyone’s attractiveness. Some couples look like a matched pair and some don’t, but when you see them together, you get why they chose each other. Looking great together isn’t any guarantee that that the couple is going to be perfect together, either.

I lived with a guy who wasn’t all that great looking, but he was was pretty popular with all the ladies. He was really smart, deadly funny, dressed really well, adventurous, and all kinds of good things. Objectively speaking, I was way better looking than he, but it worked until it didn’t and he broke my heart.

Love is a mystery.
 

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Ever had a crush on someone, then seen how ugly their partner is, only to downgrade how hot you think they are?

Nope. I've never done "crushes".

But this thread does make me wonder: Why are some so quick to judge? Why does it matter?

When I see any couple together, I have no idea why they are with each other. Don't much care; their "coupleness" is of no concern to me.

But I'd say most couples know why they are together. Right?

And at the end of the day, that's really all that matters. Because in the big scheme of things, it matters not to me. And I'll bet it matters not to them what you or I or others may think.

Especially something so superficial as what this thread seems to be about. Sheesh.
 

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I recently saw this guy at the beach with the most beautiful physique I've seen, 6'3ish+ripped with an 8 pack and with his boxer swim trunks you could easily tell he was packing!
He had incredible green eyes basically he looked like a supermodel.
He walks right past me and gave a friendly smile and he even had perfect teeth.
He goes and lays down next to this woman who probably weighed at least 300lbs and he kisses her and I thought to myself there is really someone for everyone. The bikini girls prancing around trying to get his attention failed as his women had him captivated.

Maybe he was hypnotised into seeing people's inner beauty.
 
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The OP has a point. It does make an observer curious when partners greatly differ in physically appearance.

But if you live long enough and pay attention, you sometimes learn that it is the homely half that you come to love and Mr. hot body may be an empty suit. Just never know how it is going to work out.
 

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I've never downgraded someone because of how attractive I found their partner. I truly think that the cliche saying is true. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are a lot of reasons that someone could be considered attractive to someone aside from the physical. I'm sure the guys that I find the most attractive would be considered average at best to many because they don't fit the standard of what many think is attractive. Two features that I can think of off top that turn me on are full lips, gaps, and big noses. Some people would instantly think those features are ugly. Lately I've found myself to be very attracted to thin nerdy guys.
 
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