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I am curious how many straight men have fantasies or experiences with sharing their women or enjoy the notion of their woman having sex with other men. I don’t mean cheating; like fucking around on the sly and behind your back, but by mutual understanding. There are many variations on the theme; holiday sex with strangers, getting an erotic massage with happy endings, swapping, dating wife, regular bull, full blown cuckolding, etc.

I see and read a lot about it on this site (and other websites) and have heard that the idea of one’s partner being slutty is not as uncommon as one would think. But those threads and websites are by and for folks who ARE into that. So I‘m posting this in the ask a straight man forum to get a better cross~section of responses ..... thanks in advance for your thoughts.
 

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Wife and I did the hotwife thing for about three years, I've written about it here before.

In short, she had one guy that she hooked up with solo 20 times and two other guys with whom we did a total of six MFM threesomes, and one of those guys she went with solo 4 times.

All in all, a fair amount of extramarital fucking.

To say that I loved it would be a gross understatement. She always insisted on condoms, nevertheless I got a huge kick out of having her come home from a solo meet and hopping up on my face so that I could stick my tongue deep into her vagina and then we would fuck until exhausted.

I really, really, miss it.
 
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Wife and I did the hotwife thing for about three years, I've written about it here before.

In short, she had one guy that she hooked up with solo 20 times and two other guys with whom we did a total of six MFM threesomes, and one of those guys she went with solo 4 times.

All in all, a fair amount of extramarital fucking.

To say that I loved it would be a gross understatement. She always insisted on condoms, nevertheless I got a huge kick out of having her come home from a solo meet and hopping up on my face so that I could stick my tongue deep into her vagina and then we would fuck until exhausted.

I really, really, miss it.
Why did you guys stop?
 

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Why did you guys stop?

My wife went through an unrelated "female medical issue" that took her offline for a few months. Once that was resolved, we never started up again.

I sometimes believe that I never had the "full story" regarding the guy that she always went solo with. He was someone that she saw regularly at work (think, UPS guy or similar). He was her first, and I'm pretty certain there was more to their relationship than she let on, whereas the other two guys were more for my benefit (first guy wouldn't do threesomes).
 
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I am curious how many straight men have fantasies or experiences with sharing their women or enjoy the notion of their woman having sex with other men. I don’t mean cheating; like fucking around on the sly and behind your back, but by mutual understanding. There are many variations on the theme; holiday sex with strangers, getting an erotic massage with happy endings, swapping, dating wife, regular bull, full blown cuckolding, etc.

I see and read a lot about it on this site (and other websites) and have heard that the idea of one’s partner being slutty is not as uncommon as one would think. But those threads and websites are by and for folks who ARE into that. So I‘m posting this in the ask a straight man forum to get a better cross~section of responses ..... thanks in advance for your thoughts.

I have always been turned on by the sexuality of group and specifically by mfm. There is just an energy to it. The perfect mix of voyuerism and exhibitionism. A fmf, the guy is generally the background to the women enjoying each other, but a mfm is just hard fucking.

I have been with my wife for almost 20 years split between dating and marriage, and for the vast majority of that time, I have separated her from those thoughts, but more recently I am more and more turned on by her sexuality and sexual energy. I recently began thinking about her in those scenarios. The is nothing submissive on my side about it. It is more of a stag/vixen type thing, to watch and interact with her being a complete goddess. I am not ok with side arrangements or work trip specials. I think that breaks the trust, if not immediately, then over time.

all the above being said, I think my practical side realizes this is more of a fantasy thing and I am ok with that. First of all, she is not interested. And secondly, the actual thing is fraught with issues. Who is the person- so going through all the bullshit and lies of finding someone, much less the risk with a friend. Then the set-up- I don’t want to do this at my home or even at a hotel near my house. Then the actual thing- does the person that shows up actually look like the person we thoughts, are they fucking weird? Then the after, do they talk and somehow do something weird that risks my family life dynamic. And then the disease thing. Too many variables that can blow up in your lap.
Better to watch some videos and talk some dirty talk and let your imagination run wild. Your imagination is better than real life of 99.9999999% of things anyway
 
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I have always been turned on by the sexuality of group and specifically by mfm. There is just an energy to it. The perfect mix of voyuerism and exhibitionism. A fmf, the guy is generally the background to the women enjoying each other, but a mfm is just hard fucking.

I have been with my wife for almost 20 years split between dating and marriage, and for the vast majority of that time, I have separated her from those thoughts, but more recently I am more and more turned on by her sexuality and sexual energy. I recently began thinking about her in those scenarios. The is nothing submissive on my side about it. It is more of a stag/vixen type thing, to watch and interact with her being a complete goddess. I am not ok with side arrangements or work trip specials. I think that breaks the trust, if not immediately, then over time.

all the above being said, I think my practical side realizes this is more of a fantasy thing and I am ok with that. First of all, she is not interested. And secondly, the actual thing is fraught with issues. Who is the person- so going through all the bullshit and lies of finding someone, much less the risk with a friend. Then the set-up- I don’t want to do this at my home or even at a hotel near my house. Then the actual thing- does the person that shows up actually look like the person we thoughts, are they fucking weird? Then the after, do they talk and somehow do something weird that risks my family life dynamic. And then the disease thing. Too many variables that can blow up in your lap.
Better to watch some videos and talk some dirty talk and let your imagination run wild. Your imagination is better than real life of 99.9999999% of things anyway

There is a lot of truth in what you say, but, I have to tell you, when it comes together well, it is nothing short of amazing.

We found the two guys on SLS.com and both worked out great. We met up for a drink and appetizers first, then arranged a play date a week or two later.

As I mentioned, the other was a guy that my wife saw nearly every day at work. They very early realized that they had attended the same high school (though he was two years ahead of her) and that he had even dated my wife's sister once or twice. It seems clear to me that they had some kind of bond going on, because one night we were in bed and I brought up the hotwife thing for the umpteenth time in half a dozen years when she told me that this guy from work had just recently told her that he "would love to spend a night with you."

I told her to go for it and the rest is history.

To this day, I have never met him and know him only by his first name. I don't even know for certain if he is white or black. :)

I encourage her to start again, but I don't think it will happen.
 

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I am curious how many straight men have fantasies or experiences with sharing their women or enjoy the notion of their woman having sex with other men. I don’t mean cheating; like fucking around on the sly and behind your back, but by mutual understanding. There are many variations on the theme; holiday sex with strangers, getting an erotic massage with happy endings, swapping, dating wife, regular bull, full blown cuckolding, etc.

I see and read a lot about it on this site (and other websites) and have heard that the idea of one’s partner being slutty is not as uncommon as one would think. But those threads and websites are by and for folks who ARE into that. So I‘m posting this in the ask a straight man forum to get a better cross~section of responses ..... thanks in advance for your thoughts.
I can’t share what’s not my property, open relationship is not for us she is jealous so if a ask that I see a storm coming, not missing anything from the single life.
I think you are looking too much porn, Holliday with strangers doesn’t need to end up on sex, requesting happy ending is illegal and prosecuted by police on many countries, the rest I don’t know they actually exist on real life.
I heard of swingers and open relationships on real life but if you look for porn topics I think fictitious stories would suit you better.
 
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i absolutely get turned on by the idea of spitroasting her or watching her be fucked and then reclaiming her. i have explained it to her but its not omething she has any interest in doing.
 
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There is a lot of truth in what you say, but, I have to tell you, when it comes together well, it is nothing short of amazing.

We found the two guys on SLS.com and both worked out great. We met up for a drink and appetizers first, then arranged a play date a week or two later.

As I mentioned, the other was a guy that my wife saw nearly every day at work. They very early realized that they had attended the same high school (though he was two years ahead of her) and that he had even dated my wife's sister once or twice. It seems clear to me that they had some kind of bond going on, because one night we were in bed and I brought up the hotwife thing for the umpteenth time in half a dozen years when she told me that this guy from work had just recently told her that he "would love to spend a night with you."

I told her to go for it and the rest is history.

To this day, I have never met him and know him only by his first name. I don't even know for certain if he is white or black. :)

I encourage her to start again, but I don't think it will happen.
It sounds like your wife and you have had a great experience in cuckolding. I had a partner that cuckolded me for 5 years. The dynamics of the relationship changed over time, but I loved her having a sex life outside of our relationship
 
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It sounds like your wife and you have had a great experience in cuckolding. I had a partner that cuckolded me for 5 years. The dynamics of the relationship changed over time, but I loved her having a sex life outside of our relationship

I think there is a significant difference between hotwifing and cuckolding. I would say that we were the former, not the latter.
 
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I spend a lot of time at a swingers club and spend a fair bit of time with 4 married women who are submissives. Many men are into this. Not all are cucks but some are. Some just like the idea of their wives getting off with a more masculine guy especially with a bigger cock.
 

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It’s more prevalent than most think - so I’ve been the guy that services wives and have had so much fun being in that role. However, I also understand how powerful the feeling is to be turned on by your girl being sexy to other men. It is very erotic to me to see my girl being sexy and showing off. She doesn’t fuck other men simply because that can be a huge emotional toll and can go very bad quickly in any relationship. It is a very erotic thought sometimes - but we keep intercourse out of it and do a scaled down version of it.
 
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I've shared my wife in straight swing swaps, I've been in the lifestyle most of my adult life but predominantly I'm a bull to cuckold couples. My wife has nearly always joined me with this and becomes a dominatrix to the cuckold guys while I screw the women, it's an interesting dynamic and works very well.
 
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I see and read a lot about it on this site (and other websites) and have heard that the idea of one’s partner being slutty is not as uncommon as one would think. But those threads and websites are by and for folks who ARE into that. So I‘m posting this in the ask a straight man forum to get a better cross~section of responses ..... thanks in advance for your thoughts.

Ok, I will offer an alternate perspective for you. It's not something I particularly advertise, but I think you're asking about an issue that should be addressed: what about guys who aren't so into it? That's me. My wife is very sexual and very devoted to me, but on a few occasions she has wanted to be with someone else. She'll ask if it's ok, and I always know who the guy is (I think). I don't want to know any details about when or how often or what it was like. She gets it out of her system and then it goes away for a while. I move on, but inside me there's always this little gnawing discomfort and doubt. I don't try to do that sort of thing myself, nor would I really even know how to go about doing it if I were motivated to do so. I think even if I did it too this would still be hard to handle, but the asymmetric nature of our history makes it particular hard. So I try to ignore it because everything else is so good.