When I meet new people, I usually don't always say so much at first because I like to take some time to observe and listen to them first, and many interpret this as aloofness.
I'm well read, quite bright and tend to intellectualize a lot, so I often tone that down by being witty. This makes some people think I'm never serious about anything, some get annoyed and think I'm not taking them seriously, and some see it as a sign of weakness. - It's strange to me that some don't see that seriousness and humour are two sides of the same coin. -
I've always pursued my real interests instead of making the right career moves. I am also not very materialistic. This combination makes some see me as a bit helpless and even lacking in motivation, which is far from the truth. I can be very disciplined (though not constantly) and am always busy with some project or other, and I read and write a lot.
Nevertheless, I've always had good luck and gotten interesting jobs, though I move on when I've learned what I can from them. Professionally, people tend to see me as more knowledgeable than I feel I am. Perhaps this is so because I'm tall and have a deep voice and keep to busy to be very playful, so I appear more authoritative than I feel.
Those particular traits have also kept trouble away from me - like my ex bf's father jokingly said once: 'his new boyfriend is 6'6 so noone messes with him anymore!' (I'm really 6'2, my ex's folks are not very tall people
I'm also quite spiritual minded, I meditate regularily, I don't drink much alcohol, though I still smoke. - It tends to surprise some that I'd rather stay at home reading a good book than go out for a beer or to a party. I'm a sensual kind of guy and I love to flirt, but I'm more lazy than outgoing in this area - I'm probably better off in a relationship, but I also love being single, mostly because I enjoy my freedom. I'm thoroughly urbanized and mix well with any type of crowd, but my best experiences are when I'm alone out on a hike. Nothing makes me feel more relaxed and at home as when I'm out in nature.
I'm well read, quite bright and tend to intellectualize a lot, so I often tone that down by being witty. This makes some people think I'm never serious about anything, some get annoyed and think I'm not taking them seriously, and some see it as a sign of weakness. - It's strange to me that some don't see that seriousness and humour are two sides of the same coin. -
I've always pursued my real interests instead of making the right career moves. I am also not very materialistic. This combination makes some see me as a bit helpless and even lacking in motivation, which is far from the truth. I can be very disciplined (though not constantly) and am always busy with some project or other, and I read and write a lot.
Nevertheless, I've always had good luck and gotten interesting jobs, though I move on when I've learned what I can from them. Professionally, people tend to see me as more knowledgeable than I feel I am. Perhaps this is so because I'm tall and have a deep voice and keep to busy to be very playful, so I appear more authoritative than I feel.
Those particular traits have also kept trouble away from me - like my ex bf's father jokingly said once: 'his new boyfriend is 6'6 so noone messes with him anymore!' (I'm really 6'2, my ex's folks are not very tall people
I'm also quite spiritual minded, I meditate regularily, I don't drink much alcohol, though I still smoke. - It tends to surprise some that I'd rather stay at home reading a good book than go out for a beer or to a party. I'm a sensual kind of guy and I love to flirt, but I'm more lazy than outgoing in this area - I'm probably better off in a relationship, but I also love being single, mostly because I enjoy my freedom. I'm thoroughly urbanized and mix well with any type of crowd, but my best experiences are when I'm alone out on a hike. Nothing makes me feel more relaxed and at home as when I'm out in nature.