alysen6: Well said, Luke. Plus...hey...if the girl you're interested in puts a lot of stock in size, she'll let you know. I always do in a tasteful way.
gushiggins: Aly,
In terms of percentage, how many guys have you dated that have told you about their endowments before you told them about your preference? I, for one, cannot recall ever dating a girl who told me that it was a preference of theirs beforehand. I can remember only one who professed to being one after we started dating, and only two have told me after we broke up that they were a size queen because of me.
It seems to me that, unless both the guy and the girl are as straightforward as lasers, that there's going to be a little "dance" around the endowment topic.
-Z
In terms of percentage, how many guys have you dated that have told you about their endowments before you told them about your preference? I, for one, cannot recall ever dating a girl who told me that it was a preference of theirs beforehand. I can remember only one who professed to being one after we started dating, and only two have told me after we broke up that they were a size queen because of me.
It seems to me that, unless both the guy and the girl are as straightforward as lasers, that there's going to be a little "dance" around the endowment topic.
-Z
alysen6: Z-
It's pretty true. First, there are few girls, in my opinion, who value size enough to make it one of their dating priorities. Most girls just want it to be within a certain reasonable range, which it will probably be, so there is no need to bring it up. Girls like me who push for the far "upper" end of the spectrum as a physical priority are more rare. So you probably haven't dated any firsthand.
Second, those with preferences who are sort of different, like me, have gotten pretty good at picking out and/or finding out who is going to be compatable. I, for example, have dated one or two guys from LPSG, and I will also usually keep my ears open for rumors (girl-talk) for who's hung and who I would be interested in when it comes to guys at, say, my school or social circle.
Come to think of it, I've never had to ask a guy that I've ended up with how big he was when I had no clue. I've usually found him out by reputation (e.g. talking with his ex or overhearing rumors) or by admission (e.g. screen names or profiles that say it), so it's already out in the open. And they usually know that it's one of the reasons I'm interested in them in the first place.
And plus, I'm looking for the type of guy who is really proud of his large size, and they are the same type who will usually be pretty forward about it. I've found some real gems in the past that way. 8)
This is a good topic.
-Aly
It's pretty true. First, there are few girls, in my opinion, who value size enough to make it one of their dating priorities. Most girls just want it to be within a certain reasonable range, which it will probably be, so there is no need to bring it up. Girls like me who push for the far "upper" end of the spectrum as a physical priority are more rare. So you probably haven't dated any firsthand.
Second, those with preferences who are sort of different, like me, have gotten pretty good at picking out and/or finding out who is going to be compatable. I, for example, have dated one or two guys from LPSG, and I will also usually keep my ears open for rumors (girl-talk) for who's hung and who I would be interested in when it comes to guys at, say, my school or social circle.
Come to think of it, I've never had to ask a guy that I've ended up with how big he was when I had no clue. I've usually found him out by reputation (e.g. talking with his ex or overhearing rumors) or by admission (e.g. screen names or profiles that say it), so it's already out in the open. And they usually know that it's one of the reasons I'm interested in them in the first place.
And plus, I'm looking for the type of guy who is really proud of his large size, and they are the same type who will usually be pretty forward about it. I've found some real gems in the past that way. 8)
This is a good topic.
-Aly
gushiggins: Aly,
You can handle their arrogance that way, up to and maybe including the chance that they might think that what they have is so wonderful that it was meant for more than one woman? Doesn't sound like too much of a gem to me, even if he is over a foot long in both length and circumference. *shrugs shoulders*
I've definitely met more men who've thought that they were too good for any one woman than women who've thought that they were too good for any one man. C'est la vie.
-Z
You can handle their arrogance that way, up to and maybe including the chance that they might think that what they have is so wonderful that it was meant for more than one woman? Doesn't sound like too much of a gem to me, even if he is over a foot long in both length and circumference. *shrugs shoulders*
I've definitely met more men who've thought that they were too good for any one woman than women who've thought that they were too good for any one man. C'est la vie.
-Z
alysen6: Z-
You've got a point. You'll find those guys out there, and they don't usually last beyond one conversation with me. I only had one relationship end because he was getting a little too loose with his affection, and that was a learning point, for sure.
However, there are also a LOT of really hung guys (most of whom you will meet on lpsg) who are having trouble finding girls who can handle their size, so finding someone like me is just as neat for them as it is for me finding someone like them. That makes for a pretty good start of a relationship, because it begins with a lot of mutual appreciation, and encourages committment.
You've got a point. You'll find those guys out there, and they don't usually last beyond one conversation with me. I only had one relationship end because he was getting a little too loose with his affection, and that was a learning point, for sure.
However, there are also a LOT of really hung guys (most of whom you will meet on lpsg) who are having trouble finding girls who can handle their size, so finding someone like me is just as neat for them as it is for me finding someone like them. That makes for a pretty good start of a relationship, because it begins with a lot of mutual appreciation, and encourages committment.
gushiggins: Aly,
Okay, so say you start something up with someone you know is going to please you. How far does the sexual pleasure go towards keeping you in the relationship when other things pop up that you don't care for? Other than raging infidelity, what else would cause you to end a relationship you started with someone? Would it depend on how well-hung/awesome in bed he was?
-Z
Okay, so say you start something up with someone you know is going to please you. How far does the sexual pleasure go towards keeping you in the relationship when other things pop up that you don't care for? Other than raging infidelity, what else would cause you to end a relationship you started with someone? Would it depend on how well-hung/awesome in bed he was?
-Z
alysen6: Z-
Excellent question. Indirect answer: yes, in the same way that, say, an absolutely gorgeous girl who is interested in you might probably get away with a few more of your pet peeves than someone who is a little less physically exciting to you, right? In the same way, a guy who is hung very large and who is good in bed will start with quite a few marks in his favor, and the sexual excitment of being with the person makes you overlook other things that would normally turn you off.
A lot of that, however, only lasts for the first few weeks/months of a relationship, of course. Eventually you start looking more to the future based on what you've seen with the person, which isn't something you are informed enough to do at first. And hopefully you can talk about what you like and what you don't as you get to know each other, so you can change little things in order to make the relationship work better.
A guy's compatability with me is sort of a sum of his parts- there will be some things about him that don't really excite me (or they might annoy me), and others that I completely love. My 2nd boyfriend, for example, was awesome in bed and hung really well, and our personalities clicked very naturally so that we really got along well. But he also was kind of a passive person who didn't like making decisions or trying new things. My 3rd boyfriend was hung even larger and was definitely the take-charge idea type, which kept our relationship fresh and exciting, but he also lacked a degree of social grace and could say stupid things without thinking. Both of them, however, had enough good qualities that made me want to be with them, and of course, sexual compatability was always one of them.
To answer your question directly, there are a number of things he could do to make me want to end the relationship. If I think he's losing interest in me or if he becomes less willing to put an effort into the relationship, that's always a warning sign. Does my tolerance level depend in part on how well hung he is and how good in bed he is? Well....I would have to say yes, just because that's one more thing I like about being with him that I wouldn't want to lose.
Answer me this, though- if you really know how to treat a girl right in the sack, do you think that would make her think twice about breaking up with you? Pretty obvious, I would say.
Wow, this is a good topic. 8)
-Aly
Excellent question. Indirect answer: yes, in the same way that, say, an absolutely gorgeous girl who is interested in you might probably get away with a few more of your pet peeves than someone who is a little less physically exciting to you, right? In the same way, a guy who is hung very large and who is good in bed will start with quite a few marks in his favor, and the sexual excitment of being with the person makes you overlook other things that would normally turn you off.
A lot of that, however, only lasts for the first few weeks/months of a relationship, of course. Eventually you start looking more to the future based on what you've seen with the person, which isn't something you are informed enough to do at first. And hopefully you can talk about what you like and what you don't as you get to know each other, so you can change little things in order to make the relationship work better.
A guy's compatability with me is sort of a sum of his parts- there will be some things about him that don't really excite me (or they might annoy me), and others that I completely love. My 2nd boyfriend, for example, was awesome in bed and hung really well, and our personalities clicked very naturally so that we really got along well. But he also was kind of a passive person who didn't like making decisions or trying new things. My 3rd boyfriend was hung even larger and was definitely the take-charge idea type, which kept our relationship fresh and exciting, but he also lacked a degree of social grace and could say stupid things without thinking. Both of them, however, had enough good qualities that made me want to be with them, and of course, sexual compatability was always one of them.
To answer your question directly, there are a number of things he could do to make me want to end the relationship. If I think he's losing interest in me or if he becomes less willing to put an effort into the relationship, that's always a warning sign. Does my tolerance level depend in part on how well hung he is and how good in bed he is? Well....I would have to say yes, just because that's one more thing I like about being with him that I wouldn't want to lose.
Answer me this, though- if you really know how to treat a girl right in the sack, do you think that would make her think twice about breaking up with you? Pretty obvious, I would say.
Wow, this is a good topic. 8)
-Aly
redrocket: Telling women you're hung doesn't work.
Get your body fat down, and most not-too-baggy pants will show off your bulge just fine.
The women that look will look. And as others have pointed out, they WILL talk.
Get your body fat down, and most not-too-baggy pants will show off your bulge just fine.
The women that look will look. And as others have pointed out, they WILL talk.
alysen6: Granted, I've never had a guy just walk up to me and tell me about his endowment (that would be a little awkward, I suppose). But once you get to know each other better, hints aren't always a bad idea. It just depends if she's the kind of girl who would be interested. But I would think that if you are very large, you would want the type who would care about that sort of thing, or at least doesn't mind a few extra inches.
Duo187: Well, Aly, I would like to thank you, this has been very informative, and if i become single again...I'll use your wise advice.
alysen6: Sure thing, Duo. Hope you don't become single again under bad circumstances, of course. 
Good luck to you.
-Aly
Good luck to you. -Aly
Cobalt Blue
Legendary Member
[quote author=alysen6 link=board=relationships;num=1073717390;start=40#42 date=02/21/04 at 17:11:02]First, there are few girls, in my opinion, who value size enough to make it one of their dating priorities. ............. Girls like me who push for the far "upper" end of the spectrum as a physical priority are more rare. [/quote]
Sure Aly, but IMHO they are becoming less rare. The Internet is one cultural phenomenon which has enabled this niche sexual preference to become acceptable, even preponderant.
From my experience, the first thing young women ask each other when one of them has dated someone new is almost always:
Does he have a big cock? As I have posted here before, I am really intensely turned on by a woman who is mad about size, and I never tire of hearing the comments; but on the other hand, I have never advertised my size or even alluded to it in conversation, and consequently no woman I have ever slept with has known my stats beforehand. Although all of them have commented, I am less sure how many actually prefer big meat. One of the complaints I have heard from a sizable number of girlfriends is that they get jaw-ache fellating me for more than a few minutes. I have often been asked to desist from deep-thrusting whilst in the doggy position :-/ So, how do I meet girls like you? Most web-based sites for women who crave big meat are geographically unsuitable - it seems that most of you are in the U.S! :'( I am far too modest in social situations to allude to my cock-size, so, Aly, what's a guy to do??
Sure Aly, but IMHO they are becoming less rare. The Internet is one cultural phenomenon which has enabled this niche sexual preference to become acceptable, even preponderant.
From my experience, the first thing young women ask each other when one of them has dated someone new is almost always:
Does he have a big cock? As I have posted here before, I am really intensely turned on by a woman who is mad about size, and I never tire of hearing the comments; but on the other hand, I have never advertised my size or even alluded to it in conversation, and consequently no woman I have ever slept with has known my stats beforehand. Although all of them have commented, I am less sure how many actually prefer big meat. One of the complaints I have heard from a sizable number of girlfriends is that they get jaw-ache fellating me for more than a few minutes. I have often been asked to desist from deep-thrusting whilst in the doggy position :-/ So, how do I meet girls like you? Most web-based sites for women who crave big meat are geographically unsuitable - it seems that most of you are in the U.S! :'( I am far too modest in social situations to allude to my cock-size, so, Aly, what's a guy to do??
alysen6: Hey Nicky,
It's a good question, and I must admit that I'm better at finding hung guys than finding women for hung guys.
First, I wouldn't be so against mentioning your size in social situations. I'm not talking about mentioning it to acquantainces or over business lunch, of course, but in places where people are "in the market" for dating or finding someone they are compatable with. I have actually met two of my boyfriends after they have mentioned their size openly in social situations (both times at college parties). Like I said, that's just me, but I think it's my type that you are looking for, right? 8)
Second, rumors can definitely be your friend. If people know about your size and word goes around, it would be easier for girls who are really into size to find you and make the first move.
I really can't help you much with your geography issue. I've never been to the U.K. (though I'd love to go!), so I can't speak much for the sexual or dating culture there. You are right about one thing, though- the web has really helped bring people together who are interested in the same things, penis size not being the least of them. Best of luck in your search, my friend.
-Aly
It's a good question, and I must admit that I'm better at finding hung guys than finding women for hung guys.
First, I wouldn't be so against mentioning your size in social situations. I'm not talking about mentioning it to acquantainces or over business lunch, of course, but in places where people are "in the market" for dating or finding someone they are compatable with. I have actually met two of my boyfriends after they have mentioned their size openly in social situations (both times at college parties). Like I said, that's just me, but I think it's my type that you are looking for, right? 8)
Second, rumors can definitely be your friend. If people know about your size and word goes around, it would be easier for girls who are really into size to find you and make the first move.
I really can't help you much with your geography issue. I've never been to the U.K. (though I'd love to go!), so I can't speak much for the sexual or dating culture there. You are right about one thing, though- the web has really helped bring people together who are interested in the same things, penis size not being the least of them. Best of luck in your search, my friend.
-Aly
ORCABOMBER: Dating culture is a strange thing in the UK, let alone in London. Mind you, I think us guys may have "sex and the city" a lot to thank for!
Mind you, speed-dating is not my think, I'm like an ogre, I have layers...or is that "I like worms?"... ;D
Mind you, speed-dating is not my think, I'm like an ogre, I have layers...or is that "I like worms?"... ;D
Cobalt Blue
Legendary Member
Aly, excellent advice, thank you. I guess I must just grit my teeth and act against my modest shy nature... :-[ I mean all the Biggest corporations advertise their wares to gain more customers...
And with regard to:
[quote author=alysen6 link=board=relationships;num=1073717390;start=40#53 date=03/11/04 at 18:18:18]Hey Nicky, ..............Like I said, that's just me, but I think it's my type that you are looking for, right? 8) .......
....... I've never been to the U.K. (though I'd love to go!),-Aly[/quote]
1. Yes, oh God yes &
2. You are cordially invited! ;D
corporations advertise their wares to gain more customers...And with regard to:
[quote author=alysen6 link=board=relationships;num=1073717390;start=40#53 date=03/11/04 at 18:18:18]Hey Nicky, ..............Like I said, that's just me, but I think it's my type that you are looking for, right? 8) .......
....... I've never been to the U.K. (though I'd love to go!),-Aly[/quote]
1. Yes, oh God yes
&2. You are cordially invited! ;D
alysen6: Ha ha, thanks, Nicky. Remember, though- acting against your shy nature may not be the best idea when it makes you feel awkward or puts you out of your comfort zone, since most girls really appreciate a relaxed, confidant demenor. If talking up your size sounds forced or unnatural coming from you, I'd say take it easy.
Also, guys...chat rooms make it easy to bring up size, since only those interested will take you up on advertisements. It's true, you'll get your share of pervs and sleaze, but there are diamonds in the ruff as well. Just another thought.
-Aly
Also, guys...chat rooms make it easy to bring up size, since only those interested will take you up on advertisements. It's true, you'll get your share of pervs and sleaze, but there are diamonds in the ruff as well. Just another thought.
-Aly
joe: You Don:t , The fun of it is letting them find out for themselves. What a stupid question.
FieldRatt9: Hmmm...depends on the woman. After the 3rd date, usually is when I feel confortable enough to share myself. I only had one 1-night stand and she broke my heart :'( . Now when it comes to exploring each other my secret usually reveals itself. I don't date the circle of friends of any girl I wind up having sex with. After 2 failed marriages..I'm real careful not to get too involved in private lives. :-/
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