How can i find a boyfriend in college?

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Well, i am in the third semester at computer engineering college and i would like to date someone and get a boyfriend, but i am in trouble because it's hard find someone gay over here. I really want to date someone in my course or at engineering, but everybody looks straight so it's difficult to detect a possible candidate. I know that there is someone gay in the crowd, but i am too shy to find it. Another thing that bothers me is the prejudice to assume a gay relationship in public, probably the other person would like to keep it secret and i don't. So, how can i find a boyfriend in college and what can i do to assume a gay relationship in public without getting in "trouble"?

ps: i never dated before. no experience.

thanks in advance.
 

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we all have this problem booboo.

from what I've read, first make friends with all your classmates and peers. That way you'll get to know them more and it will be easier to find a someone you like.

Also are there any GLBT? I don't know if those are the right acronyms but a gay club or something in your school?

i would check those off the list first. I hope this helped.
 

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we all have this problem booboo.

from what I've read, first make friends with all your classmates and peers. That way you'll get to know them more and it will be easier to find a someone you like.

Yes, i already have some straight friends in my class, but i think doesn't count. i am not an assumed gay but people know my sexual preference because of my behavior, however no one homosexual show up. Sometimes, i think gay people avoid me to not reveal their secret. :frown1: i really don't know why, but i don't know how to befriend of some one gay.

Also are there any GLBT? gay club or something in your school?
really, i don't think so. my college only have engineering courses, so everything here are straight oriented. i am going to the gym, but i can't find anyone gay again.

thanks for the advice.
 
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That is a silly thing to think. Really. Get that out of your head.

I know it's silly, but... :confused::confused:

Have you tried a dating site? i mean i know you said you wanted a bf in engineering but its just a thought.

sounds great, but i am really concerned about my privacy. my actual city is small, so if something fail everybody will know it.

I will keep trying.
 

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You may just have to bite the bullet on this one. Dating sites only really work if you're willing to put your face and information for others to see.

Aside from that, you can just bide your time until you finish school and are able to travel to a more "gay friendly" area.

But if you don't have a GSA, the best thing you could try is to make friends with people there. As for a BF, I would say wait until you finish school first before that. Just a thought.
 

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You may just have to bite the bullet on this one. Dating sites only really work if you're willing to put your face and information for others to see.

Aside from that, you can just bide your time until you finish school and are able to travel to a more "gay friendly" area.

But if you don't have a GSA, the best thing you could try is to make friends with people there. As for a BF, I would say wait until you finish school first before that. Just a thought.

i have to agree hear to.
 

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From one college student to another, I would say check your college for a gay straight alliance, If it doesn't have anything like that or any gay themed clubs, you can always try dating sites as other have mentioned, or even grindr if you have a smart phone. You don't have to use face picture for either one, and many dating sites won't let other view your profile unless they have a profile as well.
 

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well you don;t have to put a face pic. and is there a larger city near by?

i tried eharmony yesterday, just to see which kind of people show up, but none of them match :redface:. i think people over here don't use international sites. i will try something local this time. thanks! :smile:

You may just have to bite the bullet on this one. Dating sites only really work if you're willing to put your face and information for others to see.

Aside from that, you can just bide your time until you finish school and are able to travel to a more "gay friendly" area.

But if you don't have a GSA, the best thing you could try is to make friends with people there. As for a BF, I would say wait until you finish school first before that. Just a thought.

Great advice. i think its time for me to share some info about me. yep, i really need to move to a more "gay friendly" area, but it will take 6 years for my graduation, too much time :frown1:.

I will try to make some more friends over here, i subscribed for some extra activities at college these days. i hope i will find someone interesting. :biggrin1:thanks!

From one college student to another, I would say check your college for a gay straight alliance, If it doesn't have anything like that or any gay themed clubs, you can always try dating sites as other have mentioned, or even grindr if you have a smart phone. You don't have to use face picture for either one, and many dating sites won't let other view your profile unless they have a profile as well.

Grindr is amazing! but just a question. does it works? i mean, i think there is something wrong, because some people around my location looks handsome and too easy (i think it's fake). never mind, i will try it tomorrow at college, i am gonna walk around the campus to find other guys. :biggrin1: thanks!
 

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i tried eharmony yesterday, just to see which kind of people show up, but none of them match :redface:. i think people over here don't use international sites. i will try something local this time. thanks! :smile:



Great advice. i think its time for me to share some info about me. yep, i really need to move to a more "gay friendly" area, but it will take 6 years for my graduation, too much time :frown1:.

I will try to make some more friends over here, i subscribed for some extra activities at college these days. i hope i will find someone interesting. :biggrin1:thanks!



Grindr is amazing! but just a question. does it works? i mean, i think there is something wrong, because some people around my location looks handsome and too easy (i think it's fake). never mind, i will try it tomorrow at college, i am gonna walk around the campus to find other guys. :biggrin1: thanks!

where do you live?????
 

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Grindr is amazing! but just a question. does it works? i mean, i think there is something wrong, because some people around my location looks handsome and too easy (i think it's fake). never mind, i will try it tomorrow at college, i am gonna walk around the campus to find other guys. :biggrin1: thanks!

Grindr is usually used more of a hook up app than anything, so just be warned and be careful!
 

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Grindr is usually used more of a hook up app than anything, so just be warned and be careful!

hook up = to have sex with someone? to meet up with someone to hang out? or do you mean something bad?

yehh, i noticed. i updated my location around college and returned home to not let people know my home position. there are 11 people available, most of then are looking for "Date" or "Relationship" with "good looking" guys, so now i need to improve my appearence and spend some extra time at gym to lose some weigth and get some muscles, before any Date.

This App is really usefull, thank you again.