How Can I Get Over My Aversion To Uncut Dicks?

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I just started seeing a guy, and it’s going great. He’s super cute, smart, and sexy. He’s uncut though, and unfortunately for me, that’s an immediate turn-off. :( This dynamic killed the vibe tonight after a great date once we started to hook up. I didn’t tell him why, but he noticed that I suddenly couldn’t get hard anymore.

I don’t want to be like this. I want to enjoy his whole body as it is. I realize the issue is MINE, not his, and I feel like it’s my responsibility to get over it. I’m at a loss for how to fix it though. Do I need therapy? Should I tell him, and ask him to work with me, or should I keep it to myself while I try to work on it - somehow?

Has anyone experienced something like this? How did you get over your physical response and learn to love your partner’s body? Whether it was about cut/uncut or some other thing that threw a wrench in your attraction. Thank you.
 
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You need to look at why you have an aversion to foreskin. Have you ever been with an uncut man before? If no, then it is a good chance that you are afraid of uncharted territory. Are you afraid it is dirty? Are you afraid you will hurt him? Are you afraid that you will like it too much and wonder what you are missing? If yes, you have been with an uncut man, then what was wrong with that man? What was wrong with his penis? Was he dirty? Is there something else?

Play with it and learn what he likes for you to do with his foreskin. I know that mine likes to be played with. Just have fun and explore and love your time with him.
 

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Remember, ridges on condoms are there to emulate the extra skin folds of a foreskin so an uncut cock has extra benefits

They’re natural, as a penis is meant to be.
 

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Play with it. Chew on it gently. Lick it. Stick your tongue inside it. Don't be afraid of it. Just don't hurt it or the head of his dick as it is much more sensitive than yours will be. He will let you know if you hurt.
 

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He’s super cute, smart, and sexy. He’s uncut though, and unfortunately for me, that’s an immediate turn-off. :( This dynamic killed the vibe tonight after a great date once we started to hook up. I didn’t tell him why, but he noticed that I suddenly couldn’t get hard anymore.
I want to enjoy his whole body as it is. I realize the issue is MINE, not his...Should I tell him...?

Communication before and during sex is important briefsbud. You need to tell him that you have never dealt with an intact penis before. Find out what he likes sexually and vice versa. If there is an issue, such as a difficult to retract foreskin, you need to find out about it from the break. You've hit it off with the man, it shouldn't be hard to adapt to that small portion of his body.
 

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They look different than what I was used to seeing growing up but I'd seen them enough in Euro porn to not be too shocked when I saw one in real life :p Maybe look a ton of uncut dicks online until they don't bother you?

Dicks that get hard tend to look similar, unless a guy has a ton of skin but otherwise they retract a bit:
Straight-Hard-Uncut-Cock.jpg

(found picture from internet)
 

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I think you need to identify what is bothering you first and get back to us. Otherwise this is just pointless speculation.
 

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Thank you guys for the advice. To clarify, it’s a disgust reaction. The sight/thought of foreskin etc just really grosses me out. With this particular guy it seemed his foreskin wouldn’t retract, but I didn’t spend much time investigating and didn’t have the confidence/humility to ask him about it at the time.

And yes, I’m afraid it might be dirty around the foreskin (not him particularly, just in general with tight foreskin), and I’m afraid I might hurt a guy because I haven’t had experience with it.

I was wondering about people who identify as straight or gay and end up dating a partner who is trans or otherwise non gender normative, how they’ve worked through it, because I imagine the disgust I’m feeling is similar to what for example some straight men might feel when discovering the person they’re dating has a penis. It’s not what they expected or assumed, it’s not what usually turns them on, and yet obviously there are plenty of straight guys who have found a way to love their partner’s body. If anyone has insight from that more abstracted angle, I would be interested to hear how you moved past your hang ups.
 

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A foreskin can be kept retracted in order to have/leave the glans (always) uncovered. Almost like a "low and loose" circumcision. I do it every now and then. Among other things, regardless of aesthetic preferences, it helps to desensitize the glans a little and to keep it cleaner as well as dry (without unpleasant odors forming). In any case, the foreskin is only a piece of skin.

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The guy you're seeing, deserves a friend who doesn't have such negative thoughts about the status of his intact penis. All you write here is told or written by others. How clean a penis is, depends on the owner, not on the status of its foreskin.
The man you like so much might have a cleaner penis than you have.
 
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To clarify, it’s a disgust reaction. The sight/thought of foreskin etc just really grosses me out. With this particular guy it seemed his foreskin wouldn’t retract, but I didn’t spend much time investigating and didn’t have the confidence/humility to ask him about it at the time.
And yes, I’m afraid it might be dirty around the foreskin (not him particularly, just in general with tight foreskin), and I’m afraid I might hurt a guy because I haven’t had experience with it...

If you truly like the whole man you shouldn't be put off by a tiny bit of flesh on him briefsbud. Visualize his penis and recognize it also depicts your penis in its unaltered state. Once erect the majority of intact penises look like any other penis and, despite dissimilarity, lack any foreskin issues. Of the intact males I've encountered only one couldn't retract his foreskin - which I was simply told to avoid doing. DO NOT mention anything about dirtyness or disgust to him. Find out the dos and don'ts of playing with each others penises as a curious considerate lover would.
 
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