Continuing off of this topic, where I think some valid points were made - but the OP was banned and I thought I would start a new topic because I'm curious about any advice that would apply to me or some other guys. I'll start it off with my post that went unanswered and hopefully the topic can kick off from here: What is this game you're talking about (I saw in one of your later posts, "Learn to play the game or it's game over," so I assume this post is the one to which you refer when you say that), do you mean the courtship behaviors that women express? I assume that you've brought that up because the OP had supposedly been approached by women, but what if you're not approached by a woman? I'm young and inexperienced in trying to hook up (not to say that I haven't tried). For while, I've given up trying and thought maybe I should be in a relationiship... But I learned that I'm not looking for commitment. I haven't been to a club, yet, and while I understand that people go to clubs to have fun or for the sake of participating in the activity called "clubbing," it's been suggested to me several times that that's where I should go if I really want to get laid for a one night stand. I've been to plenty of house parties at college where I'd assume people act similarly as a club, and I guess it would be pretty much the same thing, but on a smaller scale (drinking, dancing, but not much room for socializing unless you were outside the house). What exactly is the difference between a party and a club? Do people go to these with different intentions, from your experience? At this point, I'm just asking open questions, not aimed at WhiteMonster or at any one else in particular.