The greatest lesson I learned on hooking up came when I was a freshman in college and went to the gym on campus for the first time. I was naive, puny, and very awkward at that point. I had no idea how to use the exercise equipment and would blatantly get laughed at by other guys while trying to figure out the ropes. That first day, I was using a weight lifting machine for leg lifts and was getting the crap made fun out of me til this one guy came over and showed me how to use it. Fate would have it that this guy actually became a good acquaintance. To say the least, he was hot and bulked up and during any given time of the day you'd see 1 chick on his arm. We had biology class together and you could tell he wasn't the brightest of students since he was probably always in the gym (don't mean to be stereotypical but that was probably the case). I used to study in glass room in the library with a few friends and the day before our biology midterm, he walked in the room and started asking me a few questions about the material while I was waiting for my friends to arrive. So I helped him out a bit since he was so kind to come to my rescue at the gym. Then he asked me how I was doing at the gym. I laughed and said I'd given up out of embarrassment. He told me I shouldn't feel the least bit self-conscious because at one point, every guy that has ever entered a gym looked just like me. Then he asked me how I expect to get laid in college if I don't look good? The way he explained it to me was that girls love to take care of themselves, pamper themselves, get their hair done, nails done, work out, etc...so they like guys who do the same for themselves. It was kind of like a revelatory moment for me. He told me to start doing aerobic and cardio exercises by myself first outside of the gym like running, jumping jacks, etc...to burn whatever flab I had and to get me to a decent point where I wouldn't feel like everyone at the gym was staring at me. Then he gave me the mother load: he told me to lose my glasses, shave every day, get my eyebrows waxed, suggested some good clothing stores. I don't know if I should have been offended or grateful at that moment, but I will tell you that I followed ALL his recommendations through the years and cannot tell you how much healthier, confident, and energized I feel. I didn't realize how much better I looked from wearing contact lenses, shaving my face everyday, getting my eyebrows trimmed, a haircut every 2 weeks, changing my wardrobe, wearing cologne, using teeth whitener...and the big one: dieting & exercising. Of course I didn't do these things all at once, but every time I made a change, my female friends definitely starting noticing me. When I stopped wearing glasses, I got compliments that I look much better without them. When I started shaving daily, one of my female friends came up to me, squeezed my cheeks and told me "I love your baby-butt smooth cheeks" and wouldn't stop gloating about them. When I started wearing nicer clothes, they'd ask me what brand I was wearing (they notice name brands). When I started wearing cologne, they'd always tell me how good I smelled. I can go on and on, but women really notice this stuff. And the key is that Women REALLY start to notice you without you doing anything. If all you want to do is hookup, this is the route you will have to go. Of course you can land any skeezy chick, but if you want the best, you have to look your best. If you want to land a pretty looking chick at the club, there has to be something distinct about you. The ratio of women to men obviously doesn't leave enough women for the men, so if you look good, they will instantly grapple on to you. Even the disgusting chicks want a good looking guy. I have to disagree with WhiteMonst3r because not everyone has that carefree, confident cockiness. For me it was much easier to change my physical appearance then my persona. I've met many cocky guys that look like crap and are reviled by women.
