How can I make it work

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Tell your Doctor you need to get off your SSRI anti-depressant because it is preventing you from reaching orgasm. There are alternatives, but don't just go off on your own.

How do you know she's taking antidepressants?
 

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How do you know she's taking antidepressants?

I'm not taking anti depressents...

I bought a dildo that's his size. I'm just waiting for it to come in and I'll try some relaxation practice. My bf's ankle also has to heal (he sprained it) before I try anything again with him. My new IUD keeps making me bleed randomly too which also complicates things.

It's not that I don't like oral stimulation, it used to make me come easily. But now its not as sensitive as before for some reason and it never gets me anywhere near as close to comming (can vibes permantely desensitize you?). And he just stays down there determined for it to work and I start to get cold. So it's easier just to not do it at all so he doesn't feel bad about himself (whoever his previous girlfriend was must have come easily from that).
 
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I got the dildo in the mail today and holy crap, it didn't look that big when its attached to his body. -_-;; It's really intimidating.
 

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Just relax and I do not know why your bf needs his ankle to make love. You could be on top of him... But the IUD is not supposed to make you bleed. If that does not stop you'd better have it seen to.

Meanwhile, I hope you are just chilling and cuddling together. :love: You, the toy, and the guy in a nice nest.
 

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Just relax and I do not know why your bf needs his ankle to make love. You could be on top of him... But the IUD is not supposed to make you bleed. If that does not stop you'd better have it seen to.

Meanwhile, I hope you are just chilling and cuddling together. :love: You, the toy, and the guy in a nice nest.

The IUD has always had "heavier and irregular bleeding and more cramping" as a side effect. It irritates the lining of the uterus, and while they have improved greatly since the Copper-T and now have progesterone releasing hormones that help minimize these symptoms, it can be extremely irritating to the uterine lining.

We are hearing about this more and more in the US than ever before because it's one of the more popular forms of hormonal birthcontrol. Especially now that women are not wanting to start families until later in life, if at all. On other continents such as China and India where the populations are much higher we have known the incident of issues from IUDs is more common than we realized.

There is a lot the Pharmaceuticals are doing to tempt women to sign up for the IUD- especially that lighter or absent period idea. When really it is more likely to be heavier and crampier.
 

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I don't want to hijack the OPs thread and didnt want to start antoher similar thread but i'm experiancing a similar situation with my gf and would appreciate if some one could maybe answer some questions I have through pm's. Thanks for your time.
 

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I don't want to hijack the OPs thread and didnt want to start antoher similar thread but i'm experiancing a similar situation with my gf and would appreciate if some one could maybe answer some questions I have through pm's. Thanks for your time.

I'll clear out my inbox.
 

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We were eventually able to get it to work, after stretching myself with a toy. Its still kind of uncomfortable unless I'm rubbing my clit and then its almost good. But if I can't rub my clit its kind of unpleasant. Last time we tried from behind and it woudln't go in... I don't know if I've got some kind of negative muscle memory or what. But it worked face to face. And it really make me feel like I have to pee for some reason (even when I go before). I don't think its squirting because I actually can pee a lot afterwards.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does it like, push on the bladder?
 

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We were eventually able to get it to work, after stretching myself with a toy. Its still kind of uncomfortable unless I'm rubbing my clit and then its almost good. But if I can't rub my clit its kind of unpleasant. Last time we tried from behind and it woudln't go in... I don't know if I've got some kind of negative muscle memory or what. But it worked face to face. And it really make me feel like I have to pee for some reason (even when I go before). I don't think its squirting because I actually can pee a lot afterwards.

Has this happened to anyone else? Does it like, push on the bladder?

This post could have been written by me. There is no doubt you are a woman indeed. Clit rubbing is just a ritual to get past the ripping pain. It distracts the brain from the vaginal sensation for me too.

As for that sensation with peeing, it's a new thing for me when I get aroused. I know I'm going to piss off some people (pun intended) when I say that I have a feeling that mythical squirting is about to be reality for me.