How can I tell?

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  1. SomeGuy3579

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    A really close friend of mine are both on our college swim team. And to make things even more amazing, he's very muscular, just a hot looking guy in general. Well seeing as i'm closeted it makes things harder but i'm wondering if he's gay or not. I can't really tell because he really shows no preference either way. He's never had a girl friend or anything, and he somewhat flirts with me every now and then. He could just be a good friend and all who's shy, but i'm not sure. What do you all think?
     
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    Wow, I think being in your situation is interesting and challenging at the same time. I say go on flirt with him too. Who knows, he might open up.
     
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    get him drunk
     
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    be a friend and if he wants more than that he will advance to u he must know your gay so don't push it or you may lose a good friend
     
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    or get him drunk
     
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    get him drunk


    agree - u ushould know him by lnow well enuf
    just ask :_)]
     
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    unless he's your BEST friend - then hold back
    awhile

    jeez dude - u deserve to know
    (he's prob thinkin the same thin)g
     
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    Oh hell, get him drunk!
     
  9. SomeGuy3579

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    Only problem is he doesn't drink!!! haha doesn't that just suck?
     
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    Since your good friends. Plan an evening with just you and your friend. Have him over to watch a movie. Get a movie with a sub-plot involving some gay characters. While watching the movie let him know that you think gay dudes are cool and that it wouldn't bother you if one your best friends told you he was gay. That will take the ice off, and maybe, just maybe, you'll find an even better relationship with your friend.
     
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    Why don't you get drunk (or pretend to) and if no one else is around you can make the first move, if he freaks out, back off and blame it all on the booze:wink:
     
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    I forgot the best part. If he tells you he thinks having a gay friend would be cool too. Then right then and there, go up to him and kiss him. No hestitation on your part, just do it. Since you said he hasn't had any girlfriends he seems to be shy. To get you both over the hurdle, take things into your own hands, and just kiss him. Look him straight in the eyes, and just lay one on him. Not a quick kiss either, but a nice one. One that he will remember.
     
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    id say just be honest with urself and say hey im gay what about u? if he says yes great u might have a chance but if he says no at least he knows about u
     
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    Totally get him over some night when no one else is around... hang out, get a few movies, not necessarily movies with gay characters, but movies that have some intense sex scenes, or even better, flip on some porn on tv after a bit...

    Say something like "Jeeze man, I think i might have to get off soon this is pretty hot"... see how he reacts, if he agrees and says he needs to also.. wait a few minutes and plainly put your hand down ur pants infront of him... he'll prob follow suit, if he's getting the point ur trying to make, and he's actually gay or whatever, he'll do it

    play with urself for a bit... if he does follow, ask him if he minds if u do it right infront of him, and start taking it out... if u made it this far, he prob won't mind... and ur set from there... good luck, let us know what happens!
     
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    That's exactly what happened to me and my friend. It was a little different though. He stayed over because we were getting up early the next morning for an early drive to a theme park. So the night before we were watching movies. I popped in a porn, started rubbing my bulge, and he did the same. Then he said "Do you just wanna jerk?" And we both whipped them out. That very same night was the first night I had anal sex. Although, things kept going and our relationship got weird. What use to be my best friend, now hardly talks to me.
     
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    Don't plan anything. Either ask him or live to wish you had. Just see where life takes YOU. Maybe he'll be there, maybe not.

    M*
     
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    Okay -
    What if this dude is straight, but just a virgin? As a straight guy, I would be quite consternated if another guy just gave me a kiss out of nowhere and I have never watched porn and jerked off with my friends. So I don't know what to say about that as an option. It seems like it would make sense to just spend more time together and see how things go - see if he will open up about himself and give you some idea of where he is. Have you asked him why he has not had a significant girlfriend?
     
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    I think everyone is giving some good advice, but if he is your best friend why not tell him that you are gay? Has he ever expressed any feelings that he might react badly to knowing? I am sure he will understand if as you say you are good friends, and he might tell you something if you open up to him. Maybe the whole relaxed afternoon movies and having a good laugh would be a good idea for telling him. I think the telling him about you first might be the way to go, but do not do the kiss thing though I think it might freak him out too much, too quick.

    So he is your best friend I am sure that it will all be okay you should tell him you might find your friendship improves because of it.
     
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    great thing what a lil porn will do, eh?... I was speaking from my experiences... :wink:

    I also have a friend, who I do stuff with, mainly me giving him blow jobs, and pretty much started the same way, as I said before...

    Went on for a quite a few years, but he was very much in denial about it happening, to the point where he'd have to pretend to be sleeping while i blew him off in my bed... then he'd wake up after he got off and "freak" that i did that to him, again. but yet he'd come over and get a load off every few weeks... However, after the first few years, he gradually slowed down coming over for that reason...

    He still comes by every now and then... but we're not good friends like we use to be, we never hang out and do shit like we use to... he has a girlfriend and he spends most of his time with her... i guess that what happens when u grow up from being horny teenagers...

    I don't mind the one way thing, I love sucking on his monster cock when he comes over for a "nap".
     
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    If he's a friend then OK.

    If he's your best friend, then don't go there.
     
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