There is this guy that I really think is "the one" and I have posted looking for advice on the sexual side before. Now I need to throw out some more details and get some advice on the whole thing.
Long story short - this man is married to a woman who left him over a year ago to move in with another man. I was really hoping that our friendship, turned *almost* relationship, would pull him out of that situation and more into me and "us." But, she's playing all the head games. Now, please don't think I'm a home wrecker - we didn't even start talking until she had been moved in with her boyfriend for several months - so IMO, all's fair. So she continues to give him this false hope that she might come home to him (and yes, there is a child involved - very rough situation, but I'll skip all those details), which he just keeps biting on, over and over. Every time he gets it in his head that he is going to pursue me - she turns him back around into chasing after her. And she's using his pain and love for all it's worth. Well, I thought it was time to make the final bid for him - even to free him from her nonsense - and boy did it backfire on me. He hasn't spoken to me in weeks, and I finally got a response from him via text message that was apologetic about hurting me and that he and his wife are "scheduling a date for her to come home" and he thinks it's best this way. Everybody knows she's not coming back except for him - he's being ridiculous. He also said he let things go where they shouldn't have. You see, he's very old fashioned and he thinks that just having interest in me is cheating on his wife.
So I text messaged him back that maybe it was just the opposite, that he didn't let things go where they should have. Now I'm waiting. Waiting for him to wake up, to see how patient I have been, to see that his wife is truly gone, and that she wasn't worth his efforts anyway, and to see how much I love him and care about him. Is there any more I can do? Is there anything I have neglected? Is there any hope here?
Long story short - this man is married to a woman who left him over a year ago to move in with another man. I was really hoping that our friendship, turned *almost* relationship, would pull him out of that situation and more into me and "us." But, she's playing all the head games. Now, please don't think I'm a home wrecker - we didn't even start talking until she had been moved in with her boyfriend for several months - so IMO, all's fair. So she continues to give him this false hope that she might come home to him (and yes, there is a child involved - very rough situation, but I'll skip all those details), which he just keeps biting on, over and over. Every time he gets it in his head that he is going to pursue me - she turns him back around into chasing after her. And she's using his pain and love for all it's worth. Well, I thought it was time to make the final bid for him - even to free him from her nonsense - and boy did it backfire on me. He hasn't spoken to me in weeks, and I finally got a response from him via text message that was apologetic about hurting me and that he and his wife are "scheduling a date for her to come home" and he thinks it's best this way. Everybody knows she's not coming back except for him - he's being ridiculous. He also said he let things go where they shouldn't have. You see, he's very old fashioned and he thinks that just having interest in me is cheating on his wife.
So I text messaged him back that maybe it was just the opposite, that he didn't let things go where they should have. Now I'm waiting. Waiting for him to wake up, to see how patient I have been, to see that his wife is truly gone, and that she wasn't worth his efforts anyway, and to see how much I love him and care about him. Is there any more I can do? Is there anything I have neglected? Is there any hope here?