how can some closet gays or just gays fuck women and others can't??

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  1. buddy7706

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    title pretty much asks the question but anyway see i got a friend who to the whole world is straight but being roomates i figured out some stuff that no one knows... hinted to him i knew and now he goes on hetero rampage... trys to have sex with lots a girls and bragss to let it be known i guess. only to me hes just trying to be straight a lil too much but others just think hes a funny horny guy anyway i would never rat him out to anyone but how come some gay men hide their sexuality very well and do such things as to have sex with girls and enter relationships while other gays cant???? hmmmm or is tht percentage thing rite can some gay men be more gay then the next one or are closet men that scared and paranoid to be outed that they can put themselves through unwanting or unfurfilling sex and relationships with women.. i know alcohol can do the trickk but what about closets in relationships i mean how do they do it on a regular basis while other closet gays would have a harder time dealing with sex with women just for that one time.... lets here some feedback on this
     
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    this planet is homophobic and a lot of people are scared shitless of being gay because that means a lot of people suddenly hate you for no good reason and think they can trample all over your human rights because of their religious rights...and when you're scared shitless and not 100% gay you can do all kinds of things, like heartlessly diddle women to make yourself look like a playa when really deep down inside you're terrified to just let yourself be.

    "Flaming queens" are the some of the bravest men in the world. They take the brunt of a lot of this planet's malice.
     
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    Its not that simple. I'm bi and love having sex with both genders. Some of my hottest 3ways have been MFM, but not all of them. Am also closeted for job security.
     
  4. MovingForward

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    Some people view it as just sex. A way to get off
     
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    Yeah, being gay worries me. I generally travel in straight circles. Not being a fan of gay bars, I hang in straight ones. So far, I've been lucky that the guys I've met there are cool with me being gay. It's really only a matter of time before I meet the wrong type.

    A lot of guys see being gay as the "end of the world". They see the possiblitiy of their friends abandoning them and not being accepted in large.
     
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    I think everybody is either homophobic or heterophobic...and the rest are bi. Or so it seems. >_>
     
  7. earllogjam

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    How do you know your roommate is gay?

    In my case - I really didn't want to be gay so I dated and had sex with women in college just to prove that I wasn't gay.

    I gave in to desire, the denial wore away and everything fell into place... so today I am a perfectly adjusted card carrying homosexual.
     
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    :bsflag::wtf1: :damnit:
     
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    This is absolute bollocks.
     
  10. hotbtminla

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    I don't even know that I understand what this is supposed to mean... but I'm pretty sure I disagree.
     
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    How big is his dick?
     
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    It sounds kinda difficult to survive being in college and accepting all the transitions -- being independent, needing to have responsibility, maybe working and paying some of your tuition, no overt restrictions -- let alone coming to grips with sexuality.

    I wouldn't call anything conclusive just yet. What he needs to do is make sure that he's practicing safe sex with the women he's with... and maybe the men, too, if he's at that point.

    Other than that, some gay dudes just have more masculine habits at their disposal than other people. I think the visible, flamboyant gay is an easy target because you get a lot of that depiction in the media. They're easy to spot and surely not one to be confused. So, some gay guys can pass a little bit better, especially if they have something at stake to keeping their sexuality hidden -- whether it's not being ready to deal with it, adjusting to their feelings, being popular, fearing family reactions, whatever.

    Just let him do his thing and urge him to be careful, and maybe just be a friend if he's needing someone to talk to.
     
  13. buddy7706

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    i found out because we shared a computer together and over atleast 25 times ive found gay porn on it since it was his and i only got to use it for school purposes so it wasnt me. Whenever i logged on the history list would be blank but sometimes when i would type a letter the gay porn sites history would pop up from just one letter being typed but the next day it would be back to blank .these pop up s would happen over ascattered time so i think he just owuld forget sometime n slip up. never told anyone cuz i think that would be wrong. he must of got off to it cuz i figured at first it was by accident but over 2 years n still the same occurances. anyway he also was also an older virgin to think about it n never really good with the ladies lol until our friends kind of started cracking jokes on him about his sexualtiy. then he started to try with girls but even once he got a gf n lost his v those same popups and the same sites would keep appearing two years later... but i was just wondering how he could play it off so good to everyone yet me being the only one who knew....
     
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    It sounds like you trying to draw conclusions from pop up adware IMO. :rolleyes:
     
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    Good question...my question is ..with the threat of all these STD's going around...is anyone concerned about getting an STD?..thanks
     
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    Yeh thats a load of crap, Im straight and have no problem with homosexuals..
     
  17. playainda336

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    Remind me never to say something sarcastic ever again.

    And I noticed that I didn't even quote the post I was replying to:
     
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