Ah confidence, one trait I lacked until this semester.
Little background as to why I was such a shy kid. I was in and out of the hospital all through elementry school so I was "wierd". Had some good friends but this is when I can first remember being shy around people I didn't know.
Middle school was new people from other elementary school, a fresh start right? Was going good I was slowly gaining confidence in my self and making friends left and right. Then 7th grade I missed 3/4 of the year because I was in the hopital again. The time I did spend in school I was Jaundice (yellowish skin, eyes) because my liver had almost failed and I had to carry around a small backpack that would pump IV into me 24/7. 8th grade wasn't much better, I was there but weak, ill and sick looking most of the year.
Then comes high school, I am still the kid that was always sick in middle school. My group of friends from elementary and middle school stuck with me, thank god. Didn't make many friends, didn't go out at all. Spent most of high school playing computer and worrying about my GPA so I could get into college.
College comes, freshman year... a fresh start with new people that have no idea who I am. Got some nice clothes, looked healthy and it was all good. But I lacked self-confidence and had a very negative self-image. Met a few people that lived in the dorm around my room, still good friends with them. Started going out and having fun on weekends instead of gaming the entire time towards the end of the year. Still too shy to approach anyone and walked around slouched over. This continued until the end of last semester.
Second Semester 2005-2006 school year. I decided over winter break that I was sick of feeling like crap, I wasn't happy and it was causing me to be depressed. Started working out daily, started PE and started over. Started standing tall, looking people in the eye, talking to new people, and dressing a little better. As a result I am MUCH happier, I feel confident in myself and honestly feel good for the first time in my life that I can remember.
So what did I do? Well a lot of things. I joined LPSG, Thunders, and started reading the articles at askmen.com daily. From the reading that I did I read about posture and how important it is. It took a week to get used to standing up straight, keeping my hands out of my pockets and not fidgeting with things. But after that it is easy, stand up straight and you will start to feel better about youself. I also noticed the reactions that I got from people that have known me for a year. Many comented that I looked great, asked me what I had done. The second thing I started was weight lifting. I am 5'5" and about 125 pounds, very thin and I was not happy with it. I have not gained muscle mass but the toning that I have gained has helped me feel better about myself. I believe that feeling good about yourself is one of the most important things. If you project confidence that is what people will see. Something that I started doing was looking people in the eye. I always used to look down while walking, by standing tall it forces you to look ahead. If your eyes meet with someone hold the contact for a second or two. If it is a female, espcially and attractive one feel free to hold it a little longer. This will generally get at least a smile
I believe clothing is also important. I always went with the idea of wear what is comfortable, until I realised that sweats just aren't very flattering most of the time. I picked up a few pairs of jeans at fleet farm as well as a pair of khakis. I think I get more looks positive while walking around campus in a nice pair of jeans and a t-shirt than I ever used ot in oversized sweat pants. Just personal preferance but it seemed to help me.
I now feel pretty confident with myself, and my looks. I still have some reserve about approaching new people but can usually force myself to wlak up and introduce myself.
So stand tall, smile and know you look good...it helps.
Most important things (in my opinion):
-Stand up Straight (imaginary line through ears, shoulders, waist, knees)
-Don't be afraid to look someone in the eye
-Be comfortable with who you are
-Dress the part
Ah that was a long post. Hopefully someone will read it and be inspired