How come people think bi means gay?

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I'm marginally bi, deep down. I'm a little rusty with women though. I hope it's ok to post here.

But I've lived as gay for about 27 years, because it's simpler and easier.

I think that naturally there is a spectrum, but I don't know if it's a convex or concave curve. I don't know if it's say 1 gay to 3 bi to 6 fully straight, or 2 gay to 1 bi to 7 fully straight etc.

And that would just be with reference to innate disposition. I think chosen lifestyle / behaviour can be different again ..

I don't think I've ever been prejudiced against bi men. And I do sympathise with what I imagine could be very difficult if you are literally 50:50...

And I do understand about family pressures too...
 
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It's kind of like how in the U.S. If you are 50% white and 50% black you are considered black, damn the other 50%
 

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At first I thought if a guy was bi he'd do everything a gay guy would AND the same with women. I was naïve then. I had a best friend who was bi and found out it's not like that. Seems bi guys only go so far when having sex with another guy. Whatever the case, I'm cool with it. Bi guys are so hot to me, just as they are. I've had the pleasure of several of them. Matter of fact, one of them I still see occasionally and he is an absolute favorite. One of the last times he contacted me he said "I could use a good blowjob". He's a quiet guy even during sex, but when I finished him that night the look on his face and emotion in his voice was more than gratifying.

It's all hot.
 
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There was a time, not all too long ago, where the vast numbers of the "moral majority" thought that all gay men were also child molesters. While that thinking no longer persists to the degree that it once did, other modes of equally invalid thinking do persist, such as the notion that bi people are actually gay. Those that hold these beliefs have little understanding of human sexuality. They probably think that masturbating causes blindness. For the record, my vision is still 20-20.

Do not, I strongly implore, do not list to the opinions of ill-informed, stupid people, who derive their information from tabloid journalism.
 
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Because as Andrew Dice Clay stated in one of his stand-up comic sketches: “Either you suck cock, or you don’t”
 

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yea i see that. my mom thinks bi means gay. I guess i can understand that "bi" can be a front for closeted men but at the same time the term is legit and people have been doing it since the dawn of man/woman. I think its only a big deal in the culture we live in today where as in ancient times it was just a thing that happened from time to time. No big deal. I mean if youre a guy and you masturbate, you are technically getting a guy off lol. masturbation is kinda bi.
I have a starring problem at womens boobs :) :)


but i have very little choice but to take what i can get

since I suck at picking up women..

I had great parents when i was growing up
NOT


I would not fuck a guy or suck a guy
or I would not let a guy fuk me or suck me though it's very off putting ... those things make me want to throw up..


I guess at some point any human contact is better then none at all that is the tipping point or underlying thing that instigates bisexual activity.. : unamused::confused:...
 
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I personally think that it is the straights that have trouble mainly because they just can not relate. Since they only like one gender, like tow genders is beyond what they can imagine. therefore they just jump right into same gender sex because that is all they can think. Sort of like the opposite of thinking outside the box. They are stuck in the box. at least that is my thought.
 

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Great thread. I agree, I love sex with women and also with men. Im not sure I could only be with only women, nor only men either.
 

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In my mid teens I had, like most people, a best friend. We were at an all boys school and we never left each other's company. At least two weekends a month we'd sleepover at each other's houses. One such time he climbed into my bed and we stroked each other off. Then we did the same on every sleepover. We never went any further, but it just seemed natural. In our thirties we met up for a drink. He was gay and happily partnered. I was married with two kids.

I sometimes wonder if the default setting of the human race, male and female, is bisexual. We grow up into a life of conventions and expectations that guide our decisions. We attach labels to ourselves and try to live good lives. That film The Matrix may have not been far from the truth. Perhaps some of us have managed a reboot?
 
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