When I was in my mid-20s and available for casual sex relationships, I tried datimg apps for the first time. I made a really good match right away, so I was pretty enthisiastic about the medium. I had a process that I designed to keep myself safe. Early on, this really charming, attractive dude found me, and I wanted to meet him, but he was kind of rushing me through my process, pressing me to meet quickly, and skip steps. I bent a little and agreed to meet right away, but I made THAT process more restrictive to make up for the skipped steps in the screening process. My car was having transmission issues, so I didn't want to go into Westchester County. He wanted to take mw to a really nice place in Yonkers or Heartsdale or someplace. I don't remember. I insisted on a nice place I knew in the Bronx. It was just as nice. Tablecloths. Great wine selection. Award winning food. A real brick oven you could see from the dining room. I could afford cab fare, I could walk the three miles, or I could catch a bus. But he kept insisting he wanted to drive me. I became suspicious that this was the real reason he kept picking places 10 and 15 miles away. He was trying to lure me into his car. I had a lot of trouble getting a cab, so I began walking and looking for the bus. Halfway there, I flagged a cab and arrived at last. He had called repeatedly and said he wanted to come pick me up. I told him it was too soon to give him my address, or even let him know what route I'd be travelling. The last time he called asking to pick me up in his car I was getting into a cab. Four minutes later I arrived, but he wasn't there. I never heard from him again. I think if I had gotten into his car, nobody would have heard from me again either. Dudes are always dangerous until they aren't.