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I never came out to my dad. He always made homophobic comments when I was growing up that basically closed that avenue off.

I came out to my mom when she and dad visited me one time. We were at a restaurant and dad went the bathroom and I seized the opportunity and just told her.

It was a monologue and I ended it with "and no, Im not dating anyone"..... and then dad walked back to the table basically ending the topic.

The next day I met my mom and dad after finishing work and she pulled me aside and was angry with me. She was angry with me because "now I have this big secret that your father doesn't know and do you realize the situation you put me in".

Which pissed me off because she always hides things from him and asks us (my sister and I) to not say.

But then she came back to me and told me she was proud of me. How it must have been hard to come out.
 

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I never came out to my dad. He always made homophobic comments when I was growing up that basically closed that avenue off.

I came out to my mom when she and dad visited me one time. We were at a restaurant and dad went the bathroom and I seized the opportunity and just told her.

It was a monologue and I ended it with "and no, Im not dating anyone"..... and then dad walked back to the table basically ending the topic.

The next day I met my mom and dad after finishing work and she pulled me aside and was angry with me. She was angry with me because "now I have this big secret that your father doesn't know and do you realize the situation you put me in".

Which pissed me off because she always hides things from him and asks us (my sister and I) to not say.

But then she came back to me and told me she was proud of me. How it must have been hard to come out.
I'm sorry to read that as well, sucks you had to keep that secret from him and hide who you really were out of fear, I felt the same with my own father. He was that type of homophobe to say at the table while having family dinner that he would rather deal with a drunk, junkie or thief son than a fag one. And whenever he spotted a gay guy or saw something on TV about the subject he would start quoting the bible against them in disgust, and all I could do was stay quiet and stare at the floor. I'm so sorry you had to go though something similar with your own dad.

Why is it that when any of us eventually come out to our parents, they inevitably become this super selfish beings that only think about how it will affect them? what will others say? what did I do? why did you burden me with that secret? etc etc... them them them... it's unfair and cruel. I do am glad your mom eventually realized her mistake and the balls it took to come out to her, glad she accepted you
 

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There is no easy way to come out. Although it is socially easier these days, some people still have narrow-minded families or live in socially backward areas.

I can only add this: If you can, wait until you are financially self-sufficient. In that way, no one can threaten to cut you off financially.

Good luck to all... and to all a better, more liberated world!
 
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