I'm a 29 year old guy, i'm trying to find love, an actual relationship since i was 18. i have met and dated about 20-30 guys all these years. i never ever in my life had an actual relationship with any of them.
I have fallen in love twice in my life, my first love was when i was 21, he was 19 and he was the first guy i ever had sex with. I loved him so hard i would give my life for him. We lived in the same town so he started messaging me on facebook he flirted with me we went out for drinks and that's how it started. Even though there was so much passion, i can not say our personalities matched a lot but we had a great time together. He never mentioned the word ''relationship'' the 5 months we were dating. After 5 months he called to tell me that he just met someone and had a relationship with him. Broke my heart into pieces, took me over 3 years of depression to start feeling a little better.
The second love of my life came a couple of years later, a guy found me on facebook and started flirting with me. he lived in a city way too far from where i live so i did so when he messaged me i replied just to be kind and for fun. We started talking more and more, then skyping and as i got to now him better i started linking him a lot. We had so much in common, i had so much fun talking to him, i was never bored. I started thinking that he was a great match with me and that it would be a shame not to meet him in person. Booked a flight and went to meet him, had the best weekend of my life. Everything was fine when a couple of months later he said he did not want me any more. He never fell in love with me i guess. I did, i had never imagined how the guy i would marry one day would look like, when i met him i knew inside it was him. Broke my heart into a million pieces cause this relationship was meaningful, to me at least. I haven't stopped thinking about him till today. I am feeling depressed till today.
Meanwhile, i did meet other guys, through grindr, instagram, facebook, i did go out for dates i did had sex with some of them. No one ever told me he wanted to be in a relationship with me. Actually the majority of them the next day disappears. I did go on dates that i was not that into the guy, surprisingly he was, he wanted to meet me again. I didn't. I have been to dates that i thought went great and i actually liked the guy, they disappeared.
I am feeling so tired with this whole situation, i am tired searching, meeting,dating, falling in love and nothing good happening in the end. My heart can not go through a big disappointment again. I can not understand how people think. How do you share time feelings dreams etc with someone and then suddenly throws you away like a piece of trash, how does he erase all these feelings and memories? I find gay dating so difficult. Lately i have realized that i chat with guys on social media, i spend time getting to know them and when i propose to go for a drink or something, they disappear. What's going on? Isn't actual dating in fashion anymore? Is it just one night stands? Cause i can not work like that. I did some one night stands when i was younger but it's just not for me.
So if you're gay and in a long term relationship, how did you meet your partner? How did it start and why do you think it lasted? What do you think i should do to meet someone who actually want's something serious? I find dating stressful, of course we all do i suppose, you know, the first date when you meet someone for the first time and you have no idea what you're going to talk about.And i've been through that more than enough times. I hate changing sexual partners all the time just in the thought of STDs, i need someone who i know is there for me, i can share my thoughts and dreams, that i can trust, that i can have fun with. I really want to experience how is it like to be in a relationship. Having a partner, go on vacation in the summer with him for example. I'm 29 and i have never experienced things like that.
What am i doing wrong? Am just unlucky? Am i cursed or something? I don't see why i am single all these years. Why did those 2 guys that i fell in love with liked me first, flirted me and started getting to know me till everything was perfect and then suddenly left me? What is wrong with me? I have so many dating stories to tell that i could write a book. I am tired inside.
I have fallen in love twice in my life, my first love was when i was 21, he was 19 and he was the first guy i ever had sex with. I loved him so hard i would give my life for him. We lived in the same town so he started messaging me on facebook he flirted with me we went out for drinks and that's how it started. Even though there was so much passion, i can not say our personalities matched a lot but we had a great time together. He never mentioned the word ''relationship'' the 5 months we were dating. After 5 months he called to tell me that he just met someone and had a relationship with him. Broke my heart into pieces, took me over 3 years of depression to start feeling a little better.
The second love of my life came a couple of years later, a guy found me on facebook and started flirting with me. he lived in a city way too far from where i live so i did so when he messaged me i replied just to be kind and for fun. We started talking more and more, then skyping and as i got to now him better i started linking him a lot. We had so much in common, i had so much fun talking to him, i was never bored. I started thinking that he was a great match with me and that it would be a shame not to meet him in person. Booked a flight and went to meet him, had the best weekend of my life. Everything was fine when a couple of months later he said he did not want me any more. He never fell in love with me i guess. I did, i had never imagined how the guy i would marry one day would look like, when i met him i knew inside it was him. Broke my heart into a million pieces cause this relationship was meaningful, to me at least. I haven't stopped thinking about him till today. I am feeling depressed till today.
Meanwhile, i did meet other guys, through grindr, instagram, facebook, i did go out for dates i did had sex with some of them. No one ever told me he wanted to be in a relationship with me. Actually the majority of them the next day disappears. I did go on dates that i was not that into the guy, surprisingly he was, he wanted to meet me again. I didn't. I have been to dates that i thought went great and i actually liked the guy, they disappeared.
I am feeling so tired with this whole situation, i am tired searching, meeting,dating, falling in love and nothing good happening in the end. My heart can not go through a big disappointment again. I can not understand how people think. How do you share time feelings dreams etc with someone and then suddenly throws you away like a piece of trash, how does he erase all these feelings and memories? I find gay dating so difficult. Lately i have realized that i chat with guys on social media, i spend time getting to know them and when i propose to go for a drink or something, they disappear. What's going on? Isn't actual dating in fashion anymore? Is it just one night stands? Cause i can not work like that. I did some one night stands when i was younger but it's just not for me.
So if you're gay and in a long term relationship, how did you meet your partner? How did it start and why do you think it lasted? What do you think i should do to meet someone who actually want's something serious? I find dating stressful, of course we all do i suppose, you know, the first date when you meet someone for the first time and you have no idea what you're going to talk about.And i've been through that more than enough times. I hate changing sexual partners all the time just in the thought of STDs, i need someone who i know is there for me, i can share my thoughts and dreams, that i can trust, that i can have fun with. I really want to experience how is it like to be in a relationship. Having a partner, go on vacation in the summer with him for example. I'm 29 and i have never experienced things like that.
What am i doing wrong? Am just unlucky? Am i cursed or something? I don't see why i am single all these years. Why did those 2 guys that i fell in love with liked me first, flirted me and started getting to know me till everything was perfect and then suddenly left me? What is wrong with me? I have so many dating stories to tell that i could write a book. I am tired inside.